Post # 1
I have been scouting these boards for a little while and decided to get in on some of the action…
Just a little background on my situation. I dated a guy all through college and we got pretty serious. About 1 ½- 2 years into it we started talking marriage, life plans, graduation plans, etc… we discussed a timeline when we would want to get officially “engaged”, but it never really panned out and I knew deep down I didn’t want to marry him ( and I am sure he was thinking the same about me)
So, things don’t work out, we break up, I move to another state and stay single/casually date a little for about a year or a little over. I meet my now Fiance, we become friends, see something more… date and get engaged within about 10 months. Our 1 year anniversary is this month. I didn’t know he had the ring, had no clue he was planning on proposing ( although I wanted him to) and was totally surprised when he got down on one knee !
We had talked about marriage, talked about our future together, discussed life plans and everything…but I didn’t know he bought the ring 6 months into our relationship and held on to it for 4 months!
I am just curious how many brides were either 1) taken by surprise 2) had a clue it could happen 3) had it planned out?
I have engaged friends that planned it down to the month when they were going to be proposed to. Since I was in a relationship before where things seemed like they were going to be planned my only requirement was that I wanted to be totally surprised… and I was!
What’s your story? Did you know?
Post # 3
Darling Husband asked me to marry him in kind of a joking way about three months into dating, but we’d discussed it before that. I can’t remember what the hell I actually said in response, or if I gave him any sort of an answer, but we basically considered ourselves engaged after that. We picked out and paid for a ring together, and once he’d actually given it to me (no formal proposal, just both of us basically going, “Wow, shiny!”), we announced it to our families. It wasn’t a surprise or “romantic” in the traditional sense, but I loved it just the same. It was comfortable and felt natural for both of us.
Post # 4
It’s my deep dark secret that I knew he had the ring. It was not my intention to find out, but I accidentally snooped through his phone (was just trying to turn off the alarm, swear!) and found out he was getting the ring. He totally caught me off guard the way he did it, though!
Post # 5
I had a feeling it was coming soon, but I didn’t know for sure. We were coming up on our 1 year dating anniversary so I figured it would either be then or after that. But he surprised me and proposed on the 1 year anniversary of the day we met instead, which was a month before we started dating.
Post # 5
I (being the devil that I am) calculated the exact weekend I knew it had to be by carefully eliminating all other possiblities for months.
I took a chance, got my nails done and fully waxed down there in anticipation for my prediction…..
I was right!!!!! LOL!!!!
Post # 6
We’d talked about marriage for years and he told me he wanted to propose but it’d be a secret when and how. I didn’t think he’d had the money to buy a ring (he got a small inheritance and spent it on the ring and kept that a secret from me) so while I knew it was coming I was completely surprised when he did propose.
Post # 7
We had already set our wedding date and I knew he had the ring but it was still a complete surprise even though I knew it was coming. He caught me totally off-guard one Sunday morning. I was just as giddy as if it had come out of the blue:)
Post # 8
We had talked about getting married, we had talked about him proposing, but I had no idea he had purchased a ring. The proposal itself was a complete surprise. He had thrown me completely off telling me not to expect anything until New Years for after. He proposed on Thanksgiving 2010.
Snooping wouldn’t have been difficult. He kept the ring, in its box, in the jeweler’s bag sitting on the desk in our office. I never go into the office, it’s really his “man cave”. He would always tell me to do my homework in there and I wouldn’t. HA!
Post # 9
It was a total surprise. I had no idea it was coming. We had been dating for about 8 months when he asked. We had only really had a couple conversations about being together for the rest of are life, but beyond that we hadn’t really discussed it. It was pretty awesome.
Post # 10
We were together for over 5 years before he proposed so we had obviously talked about getting married quite a bit. I knew he had the ring and I knew the day he was going to propose. And I’m deff glad I knew because I am not one for surprises!! 🙂
Post # 11
He said he was going to do it by the end of the month. We were about to go on a trip. I didn’t want him to do it on said trip and he knew that. He had asked me if I was free the Sunday before the trip to “run some errands” but I saw right through that. He ended up proposing a few days before that but admitted that he had planned on doing it that Sunday. I knew he had the ring–we picked it out together, I just didn’t know exactly when he picked it up. He did it the day he got the ring 🙂
Post # 12
I was with him when he bought the ring! I knew that it was going to happen I just didnt know when.
Post # 13
We were together about a 1.5 – 2 years and were talking about buying a house. I’d occassionally hint/joke about rings and getting engaged but we never really discussed it. My biggest thing was not buying the house together until there was a ring. We were seriously looking at houses, so the engagement was pending but he still caught me completely off guard and totally surprised me.
Post # 14
that is awesome that you had no idea! i knew my husband and i would marry, but i didnt know when. I had an idea though…His sister was getting married in August 2010 so i figured he would wait and propose around the holidays – he surprised me in July with a proposal 🙂 so…i knew we would, just didnt know when – he did it much earlier than i anticipated yet we had been dating about a year and a half.
Post # 15
It was a sort of surprise for me. We talked timelines and the future after being together 4 years at that point and living together 2. For me, I wanted a solid committment before we started looking at real estate together. I said by the end of the year to be engaged. I gave him an idea of what I wanted, then I didn’t hear anything about it for a long time. I didn’t think anything of it even my mom dropped hints that he was ring shopping while I was in town for a baby shower. I seriously didn’t think anything of it. Then, Christmas Day rolls around and he proposes to me in front of my parents during presents. He worked with my parents to get my ring size and have the ring sent up to Milwaukee for the proposal. So, a surprise because I put it on the backburner that I didn’t think it was going to happen when I wanted it to. It did!