(Closed) Did you know you're NOT supposed to bring gifts to the reception…

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: I totally

    knew that it was an etiquette faux-pas.

    had no idea! Oops!

    I had no idea but would NEVER publicly admit it

    Cookies!

  • Post # 62
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    There should be another option for I disagree with this statement.

    Post # 63
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    @Tangled:  That’s what I was wondering? Every wedding I have ever been to has had a gift table.

    Post # 64
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I did know that! I don’t know where I picked it up, but I have known that since I was a teen.

    However, I totally agree it may be regional. Chicagoland, where I grew up, seems to have some pretty common wedding beliefs/expectations, particularly around gifts, that don’t hold other places.

    They’ve all still had gift tables though, and we’ll have one too even though I don’t expect a lot of physical gifts. The gift table has the card box, any gifts, and often the guest book or something like that on it. The gift table is to accommodate that you know some people will bring gifts, even though many people feel it is more thoughtful to ship it.

    Post # 66
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @AshleyR83:  I always give $200 when i attend weddings….you should always cover your expense and no doubt my Fiance and i will cost $200 for food and drink. So no that doesn’t apply.

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    @Aicyla22:  Agreed. 

    Post # 68
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    It’s perfectly normal in my area to bring gifts and cards as well.

    Post # 70
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2011

    @AshleyR83:  Shipping can be much, much more than that.  Last Christmas I paid nearly $20 to ship a small container, something just slightly larger than a standard coffee mug.  I didn’t pay to insure it, and it didn’t actually arrive at the proper destination (but the neighbour at least took it to the recipient so they recieved it).  That was just Canada Post.  Fed Ex would be much more.

    Post # 69
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    Bumble bee

    @Swizzle:  So if you’re spending 200 dollars on a gift then what’s a 5-10 dollar shipping charge?  Ha you’re funny, my concept applies even more to you if you’re buying a 200 dollar gift!

    Post # 71
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    Bumble bee

    @AB Bride:  Do you live in Canada?  I don’t know where you guys are shipping stuff where it costs more than 10 dollars.  Maaayybeeee 12. 

    Post # 72
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    Bee Keeper

    Never heard of this rule and I think it’s stupid.  Our venue had a large gift table and TONS of guests brought gifts.  I don’t see anything wrong with it.

    Post # 73
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @AshleyR83:  Shipping would definitely be way more than $5-10. I would anticipate $20 on the low end. 

    $100 per person is standard where i am from. 

    Post # 74
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    What is the correct way to indicate where gifts should be sent to? I never have deliveries made to my home because of course, i’m never there when the mailman is, so any postal deliveries we expect come to our respective workplaces.  Ideally, I would like gifts sent to my FMIL’s house, as that’s where we will likely open them.

    (I’m undecided on if I’m going to set up a wedding website. My inclination at this point is no)

    Post # 75
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    Sugar bee

    I agree with everyone else who said it’s not an etiquette faux pas. What IS a faux pas is telling guests how their presents must be received and handled– something like saying, “No boxed presents at the wedding.”

    Post # 76
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2011

    @AshleyR83:  Yes, and that cost was within Canada.  It’s expensive here.  Standard letter mail is $0.61, and things get expensive once a package is thicker/heavier.

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