(Closed) Did you let your BF have free range of choosing the ring??

posted 5 years ago in Rings
Post # 2
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

Absolutly not. He took me to look multiple times, I sent him links to what I liked and in the end he took me to the store when he was ready to buy and let me pick it out myself. I of course took his opinions into consideration when picking so we technically picked my ring together. I found a couple I liked and he picked the one he liked best out of them.

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

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martinson18 :  Would you be able to shop with your bf’s sister, mom, or a close friend of his that you trust, and could help guide him? Or could you have YOUR mom or sister (or someone like that) go shopping with him?

I had a pinterest board and had showed my Fiance a lot of pictures of things I liked, but I also went shopping with his sister. She knew what I liked and what my taste was in rings really well! My Fiance didn’t want me to pick out the actual ring because it “wasn’t romantic” to him (I was fine with it, but it’s his gift!) but his sister and mom then went with him to pick it out. Apparently he picked my setting himself, and I love it, but I was glad they were also there just in case 🙂  

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

I had pinned a whole bunch of styles that I liked, and my Fiance looked at them. I also sent him my top few favorite, and he got me the one I loved the most! I had no idea what ring I was going to get, but I knew it would be one of the few I showed him.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Also – I’m of the mind that there’s definitely surprise even if he goes and picks out exactly what you want. If he does a good job keeping a secret, you won’t know when he orders the ring, and won’t know when he plans to propose!

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I had nothing to do with choosing my ring. Never showed him anything, never went to look at them together. He just chose something he thought I’d like.

Post # 7
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Helper bee

We looked together and I was getting obsessed with all the little details and options, so I told him to get what he liked based on what he knows I like. He did good. It looks different than I imagined but has all the basic elements that I wanted (split shank, oval, halo, yellow sapphire centerstone)

Post # 8
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Helper bee

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napabride17 :  True! My husband took a year to propose after we looked at rings!

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

My now husband picked out the ring entirely by himself, I had no idea he was proposing thus I had no idea he had even been looking at rings. All he knew was I liked princess cut but I never showed him any pictures or anything. I love the ring the picked out.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

I have chosen the exact ring I like, and even gave him a business card from the store that had the specs of two rings (the same ring with a different size diamond and metal type) written on it haha. Basically because it is a solitaire I had them write down one that was a smaller diamond with 18k white gold, and one with a larger diamond and platinum, to give a couple options for price to him even though I chose the exact ring from a specific jeweler. I am still having OCD concerns hoping he picks a good clarity and colour because I can’t handle being that annoying about it and he won’t understand those minute differences like I do, but I wish I could! Unfortunately “please get me a minimum .5ct, H colour, VS2 clarity diamond” isn’t a very romantic thing to say. hahaha

Anyway, hee is super relieved he doesn’t have to worry about picking it out because he said he would worry I didn’t like it, and he is excited that he will be getting me something he knows I am head over heels in love with. I am detail oriented like you and I honestly couldn’t handle wearing something for the rest of my life that I didn’t find perfect. Even if I told him the elements  wanted (solitaire, round stone, 4 compass set prongs, not super high profile, thin but not too thin band), I know there are ones from other jewelers with the same components that I tried on and didn’t like.

On the flip side of this, I am also super sentimental so there’s no way I could ever return the ring I was proposed to with, so if he had chosen something I didn’t like, exchanging it would not be an option to me and I would just have to learn to love it!

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

We went shopping together. My husband’s only concern was buying a ring I would love. I picked out three settings I loved and he made the final choice, he also picked out the center sapphire himself.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: The Retreat at Bradley\'s Pond

What it means is so much more important than what it’s like!

We shopped together, I did my own research by myself of what else I liked and we looked at home together online. I sent him an e-mail with links of the styles/designs I liked.. but importantly WHY I did or didn’t like components of them- in case he found something else different he could make decisions. I just don’t like seeing a lot of the metal like bezel setting or extra metal around the pave. 

Ultimately it was in his hands… and he ended up picking out something different than what was on the list and at first I was shocked and a lil confused by it (long story short I found the receipt while cleaning one day and looked up the skew number- call me crazy but I wasn’t looking for it- it feel in my lap!!!) But after a day or so I kept looking it up online and holding my hand to it and kept getting tickled that it was going to be “mine”. The realization of getting engaged overrode any conflict of how “different” my ring was. In the end, I guess DH knew me better than I knew myself and I LOVE my ring. He says “we” picked it out and in ways we did… but I tell people he had the final say. He worked hard to pick it out and it’s a reflection of us. 

Or get your friends involved like others have said. I’m actually going with 2 gf’s tonight to go look at rings cause they know their bf’s are going that direction and want to play and do research. 

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

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martinson18 :  I have a pretty specific taste when it comes to jewelry and my Fiance knew that. He has purchased me a lot of jewelery, some I wear daily, others aren’t my style and I only wear on special occasions. When it came time to pick out a ring, Fiance wanted my input 100%. We originally shopped together and found a beautiful morganite ering and Fiance was going to order it whenever he felt was the time to do it. After a lot of further research and debate, we decided to go with a moissy instead so for the time being I am ringless. We are having a setting custom made based off of a prexistkng setting with a CC FB Moissy. 

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

No way. I picked it out. But we also paid for it together.

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2017

My Fiance wanted me to pick out the exact ring I wanted.  He really didn’t have any input as he wanted me to be happy with the ring I would wear for the rest of my life.

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