(Closed) Did you let your BF have free range of choosing the ring??

posted 5 years ago in Rings
Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

We went to look together, and honestly, while I know I am picky, I didn’t realize just how picky I was until we looked. Bands that looked so similar next to each other looked completely different on my hand. He was glad we did that to avoid any ring regret, since I have to wear it for the rest of my life. Neither of us is of the “it’s a gift, you should just accept what he picked out and gave you”, so we did it together. To me, the surprise is in the proposal, and wow was I surpised 🙂

Post # 17
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2017

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martinson18 :  I gave him ideas and pictures and he chose what he liked and could afford, but that was in line with what I was looking for.  I had also told him that the only thing I didn’t like, and wouldn’t want was a marquis cut because I just don’t like how they look.  He ended up getting me something very similar to many of the pics, but a little different.  I had shown him round halos and princess halos that I liked (and also solitares), he got me a round center with a cushion halo and it’s beautiful.  Personally, I’m glad he didn’t just get one of the rings I showed him.  It feels more like a gift. 

Post # 18
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

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martinson18 :  hahahahahahahahaha……..No. This was going to be arguably the most important piece of jewellery I would ever wear, every single day, for the rest of my life. There was no way I was leaving that up to chance. Once we started talking about it, I sent him an email with pictures of ones I liked. I think I titled it “when the time comes’ or something like that. It wasn’t about size, it was about style. I had a very definite idea of what I liked (modern vintage) and then I let him run with that. We did go shopping together and looked at rings a couple times but in the end it was his total decision. PS – I love my ring and I’m so glad I showed him pictures of what I liked. It didn’t have to be an exact one, but I wanted something more ornate than a solitaire.

Post # 20
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

He let me pick out what I wanted. He realized that I am picky, that I should be happy with what   I would be looking at for the rest of my life. 

But before that,  I made pintrest, we went shopping to look. He knew what I wanted. 

Post # 22
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Bee Keeper

Perhaps you should create a private pinterest board, post all the ones you love and let him pick one?

Post # 23
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - Valleybrook Country Club

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martinson18 :  I LOVE that he 100% had free range iwth my ring! I see it as, if you are considering marrying each other, you should know eachothers style well enough to pick something out. He’s bought me great jewelry peices throughout the relationship. I did post some rings that I liked on Pinterest and we both agreed mutually on Sapphire center stone. He actually, custom designed it and I love it. I would’ve never even thought about some of the design elements he came up with. It’s more than just a ring, it’s a symbol of love and your relationship. For reference, here’s a couple pictures, because why not show you what a great job he did:

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Post # 24
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2017

I will also add that my Fiance paid for the ring entirely himself and he wanted an element of surprise.  It didn’t seem right for me to take away the enjoyment of giving a gift that he was shelling out a lot of money for.  Not to mention, that it was really sweet that he wanted me to open that box and not know exactly what was inside. So to me, “what you want with a twist” sounds like the perfect combination so that the giver and the reciever get to enjoy the experience.

Post # 25
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

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martinson18 :  My Fiance did everything on his own, and he got something I love.

Post # 26
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

My husband chose my ring. I trust his taste and I knew he had a good sense of who I am. He spent an awful lot of HIS hard earned money on my ring, in my mind it was his gift to give to me and I was excited to see what he chose! 

If I had chosen it I would probably constantly be second guessing myself. Wondering if I should have chosen something different but as it was his choice I never have that burden. My ring is my ring forever a constant reminder of his love and the time aND effort he took to chose me something special.

 

Post # 27
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Bumble bee

No, I made it clear many times I wanted to go vintage ring shopping 🙂 

Post # 28
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Yes I love it! He nailed it. He tried so hard to get me the best, I appreciate it every day.

Post # 29
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Blushing bee

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MrsSapphire :  that is a really unique GORGEOUS ring. Love it

Post # 30
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2018 - Omaha, NE

NOPE! I did a crap ton of research and narrowed down what I liked to two choices, and then let him pick between those. He has since done some research and we narrowed that choice down to a specific center stone as well, so he still had a hand in it. It’s your ring, and although it is a gift, let’s be real, true surprise gifts should come with a receipt so they can return it if they don’t like it 😉

If you still want to preserve the “true surprise” I think as long as you give him guidelines (e.g. round stone, solitaire, not too high, etc.) he can go from there and find something unique that he likes that meets those requirements.

A bee the other day put it really well: You know the date of your birthday every year, but surprise parties still happen. 

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