(Closed) Did you let your BF have free range of choosing the ring??

posted 5 years ago in Rings
Post # 31
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I’m a man. But yes, I love my ring. He did great.

Post # 32
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Busy bee

I gave him info of stone I liked (moissanite cushion) and when he seriously started thinking about acquiting a ring, we had some design sessions drawing a perfect ring at home and he went the custom route but without involving me – I was very specific about what kind of solitaire I wanted, but he wanted to deal with the jeweller himself. After a disaster with the jeweller, who took 3 months and did a bad job, he got the stone back and had a hard time finding where to set it “in time”. He eventually ended up setting it wherever they could do it fast enough. It’s a gorgeous rose gold shade in a basic to Eastern European setting. I would have picked something different, but I appreciate that it suits my wishes in theory.

I asked him if setting it with two sapphire sidestones for some anniversary would be something he’d consider, and he said yes. So I can’t wait to design a ring myself in the far future lol. I’m also looking forward to having my birthstone in my ring. 🙂

Post # 33
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Worker bee

We talked about it at length and picked out the diamond together. We have been together over 6 years too so it felt very much like all the other decisions we have made together  from dinner, to buying a house, getting a pet, changing jobs, etc. I picked a setting I saw online for the jeweler to make custom and haven’t seen it yet so there is that element of surprise!! 

Post # 34
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

I told him/showed pics of what I wanted – 6 prong solitaire. Pretty simple and straightforward, but he and the jewler designed the setting to be unique while still maintaining my preference. I love my ring! 

Post # 34
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Sugar bee

Lol no I didn’t let my Fiance pick out my ring. In his own words it would have “been an onion ring.”

I think it’s really sweet when bf can choose something that their gf will love. Some men are just better with things like that. My Fiance isn’t good with things like that, and I didn’t want to end up with a ring I hated. Or have him overthink it and pick something too over the top. I went to multiple stores by myself, with my best friend and with my mom. I got a general idea for what I liked and then did research. I have always wanted a gemstone for an ering and I decided I wanted him to get me a morganite, sapphire or an aquamarine. I know most people would never do this because you can’t try the rings on, but I picked about 12 different rings from Etsy and send the links to him to choose from. That way, I only picked rings I liked that I was comfortable with the price (he wanted to spend more than I would ever be comfortable with). But when he proposed, I was surprised because with that many rings to choose from, to me, it was still a surprise.

Honestly, unless your bf is really great with your taste and picking out gifts, I think guidance is usually a good thing. I seriously don’t know how men go ring shopping with no direction. Somehow they do it, but I would have gotten an onion ring haha.

Post # 35
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

No way did DH have free reign on the ring.
I said I didn’t mind, that getting married was the important thing… however he knows I’m a bit picky about jewellery, will only wear gold and silver out of choice etc. 

DH has only ever bought me one peice of jewellery independently. A silver necklace with a a little twisted heart! I’ve since replaced the chain because it was too long…but I do wear it every day.

Ever since then he has either given me money for jewellery or we’ve gone together…. which is what we did for the rings, as he did not want to choose the wrong one. So he paid and I picked 🙂

Post # 37
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Yep. Totally his choice. We had one conversation about rings. DH – “I always thought you’d like something antique”. Me – “that would be awesome”. End of conversation. 

And he did a great job! I adore my ring!

Post # 38
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Hotel Ballroom

Yes and no. DH and I went to the store together ONCE so I could show him examples of what I like. He utimately chose the ring himself, and while I don’t LOVE it, I’m fine with it. 

Post # 39
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

My husband added me on Pinterest and snooped around to see what I liked. 

I loved halos, specially cushion cut. He got me a square halo with a brilliant cut. So it had his taste and mine combined. I love my ring. 

Post # 40
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

My hubs has picked out some lovely jewellery for me over the years and honestly I have loved each piece… but I was VERY clear with him that I really really REALLY needed to pick out my engagement ring. I didn’t mind if he picked out the diamond, which he did. But *I* needed to choose the setting. It worked out nicely.

Post # 41
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Newbee

I am the pickiest person so my boyfriend is letting me pick out the exact ring that I want and he is planning on purchasing the exact one. I hate surprises, but he doesn’t, so we compromised and I told him that I would try my hardest to let the proposal be a surprise and not ruin it since he let me pick the ring! 🙂

Post # 42
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

He had free range. We had our first really serious conversation about getting married one day and by the weekend he already had one custom made for me and he proposed. He did offer to have me pick out a different one if I didn’t like the one he got, but why bother, I absolutley love my ring and the fact that he chose it on his own.

Post # 43
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

My now husband ordered the ring when marriage was not even on my radar. I am also type A, very detail oriented, and a bit of a control freak. He was in cahoots with my 2 best friends and asked them to figure out what I would want. They tricked me into looking at rings online and giving them my preferences (again, I was oblivious). They passed the information along, and he took it but decided to add his own “flair” to it by getting a pave band instead of a plain band. 

Once I did have rings on my radar, I developed preferences that ended up being exactly what he chose (down to the 6-prong white gold setting despite a rose gold band). Looking back, I love telling the story because it worked out so well. I don’t know that I would have loved telling it had it not!

Post # 44
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

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dandelionlou :  Mine actually proposed SOONER than I thought – he’s a huge procrastinator, so I assumed he hadn’t even been to the jeweler yet. But yeah, even if you ask for something and get exactly that, it can still be surprising because you don’t know when the proposal is happening!

Post # 45
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

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martinson18 :  Let your sister know exactly what you want and don’t want then! Hopefull then she can talk some sense into him if he picks something you wouldn’t like!!

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