(Closed) Did you let your BF have free range of choosing the ring??

posted 5 years ago in Rings
Post # 46
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

I actually wish he had had more input lol. We went ring shopping together to get ideas, but he was totally lost and seemed to genuinely have no opinion whatsoever. He just kept saying that the only thing that mattered was that I loved it and that he would be happy with whatever I wanted. He knew I didn’t want to spend too much so I think he felt safe letting me take charge of it. It would have been nice for him to have been more involved but then the grass is always greener on the other side. If he’d had strong preferences for things I didn’t like that wouldn’t have been good lol!

Post # 47
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2016

I told my DH which designer I wanted to make my ring. I was SET on this woman after looking through her website. I gave him 3 or 4 options of settings, what center stone I wanted, and that I wanted either yellow or rose gold, not white. He picked the PERFECT ring!! It was a modified setting of one of the ones I picked out. I love it so much. He did good. 

Post # 48
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2017

Yes. He actually ended up designing the ring himself and it’s gorgeous! He did better than I ever would have!

Post # 49
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2016 - Surfer\'s Beach, Grand Cayman

He originally wanted to design something on his own, but felt too nervous that I wouldn’t like it, so he asked me to show him what I liked. In the end we kind of combined different styles that we both liked to come up with some ideas and I let him make the final decision and surprise me with it. 

Post # 50
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2018

I told my boyfriend what I wanted – round cut solitare moissanite, six prong, white gold setting. His reply? “No that’s boring, I’m going to design something for you”. The only thing he was on board with was the moissanite. I was concerned because his taste is sometimes a little…eclectic, and I’m very much a classic kind of girl when it comes to jewelry. 

I am now the proud wearer of a custom designed marquise cut moissaite in a V-shaped white gold setting, and I adore it. It is nothing even close to what I had imagined he would create, and nothing I would ever think of for myself, but it is stunning and unique and completely one-of-a-kind, and it gets an insane amount of compliments.

It was definitely a gamble – and lord help me, I don’t know what I would have done if I hated it – so it’s not for everyone, I suppose. But I think if your SO knows you well enough, they should have a good idea of what you’ll love – or hate! 

Post # 51
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Bumble bee

You and I sound very much alike. We were toget her for 5 1/2 years, so I did all of my research and knew exactly what I would want. My fiancé has similar taste as me (simple and classic), but the man wears crocs everyday so I could only trust his judgement so much. We ordered my ring off Blue Nile. As we were picking the stone, I realized that he was going to pick the highest quality in all of the 4CS, whereas I think you get more bang for your buck if you drop down in some Cs. Granted, he would have picked out a beautiful store regardless. We got a .91 carat, I color Vs1, excellent cut. He was relieved that I picked out what I wanted, because he wanted me to truly love it. 

Post # 52
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Bee Keeper

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martinson18 :  I am also a type A personality as well, and will probably die soon from how much I stress myself out.  The only thing I ever stressed with him was to please not pick a diamond.  But he did well, got something I love and it’s in my favorite color!

Post # 53
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Buzzing Beekeeper

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martinson18 :  I’m super picky too but I didn’t pick out my ring. I told my husband I wanted an emerald cut diamond and showed him a handful of setting styles I liked. He ran with it from there and I must say the man nailed it! The styles I showed him were all very different and I would never have been able to pull the trigger on one myself. Especially since I didn’t know his budget there were certain styles I like that looked best with a really large (2ct min) stone so I didn’t want to insist on that style, have it come in 1 ct and then be disappointed. He got me the shine and finger coverage I wanted in his budget. 

Post # 54
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Bumble bee

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martinson18 :  DH designed the ring himself. He of course took into consideration what I already owned but other than that I didn’t have any say (no ring shopping, etc). He nailed it though–could not have designed a better ring for myself. 

Post # 55
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Sugar bee

I am the type of person that if Mr. Ukulele loves it I will fall in love with it. In my case my family is Roma and you HAVE to give a natural pearl ring otherwise you are not seen as married in the eyes of the community. I did pick out my garnet that I wear day to day. 

Post # 56
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

We never even so much as talked about rings nevermind look! I didn’t know he was going to propose, or that he’d looked or bought a ring! It was one of the things I wanted for him to choose it and he did an amazing job! I had a secret pinterest board, and I actually pinned practically the same ring, but he one uppe dme and got it with shoulders! I look at it all the time still and I love it and him! 

Post # 57
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Buzzing bee

No. I knew exactly what I wanted and it took a lot of stress off of him, honestly.

Post # 58
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2017 - Combermere Abbey

I had complete control and got exactly what I wanted. He was very happy with this.

Post # 59
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

He picked my ring out – I had no idea he was going to propose! But he picked the most perfect ring!! I absolutely love it! 

Post # 60
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

At first I wanted him to pick out my ring, not realizing how strong of an opinion I would have when it came to my own ring.

I started looking online, he found a few online, and I realized we didn’t have the same vision. We went to a jewelry store which helped him hear what my preferences are. 

I emailed him twice about rings, with 6 to 8 settings in each email, detailing pros and cons of each (thinking about this now, I feel so crazy haha). We had two favourites and I told him to pick the one he liked best. And then a month or so later (knowing he hadn’t purchased yet), I found THE ring. I really debated mentioning it at all, with two lovely options as front runners. In the end, I sent an email with the link to the new setting love, saying “This it it! I won’t change my mind” and that’s what he bought me. It’s spectacular. I love it so much! I’m soooo incredibly happy we talked rings as long as we did, and I ended up with my setting 🙂

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