(Closed) Did you let your BF have free range of choosing the ring??

posted 5 years ago in Rings
Post # 76
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Busy bee

We discussed and shopped around for the styles we both like. Then I told him to pick one out of the many we liked. He had around 1-2 years to do so, so I hoped he picked out something that means a lot to him too than me listing out every detail that I want.

Post # 77
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Helper bee

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martinson18 :  It should be a felony for a man to be let loose in a jewellery store. Go with him or send a person you trust to go with him.

Post # 78
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Helper bee

I gave him guidelines, but he ended up choosing the entire ring within those guidelines.  I was very impressed with his choice!

Post # 79
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: July 2018

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martinson18 :  I decided to make a shortlist! We’re gonna go the online route so I made a pinterest board with all of the rings that I really like and ultimately he’ll get to pick the one he likes the most out of them. That way I’m still surprised, he still has the final say (the styles and prices vary considerably but they all follow a style of round halo moissy) but I know it’s something I’m really going to love. Ultimately, YOU are the one who is going to be wearing it everyday so you should have SOME say in what it looks like ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Post # 81
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Busy bee

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martinson18 :  I showed her what I liked but that was it. We didn’t shop together and she picked it on her own. My ring is my favouritest thing in the world. She ended up going with a ring I had liked on etsy that she had fallen in love with. She just knew it was the one and bought it when she saw it. 

We both felt that asking someone to spend your life with them is something they should do on their own, with the ring they want to ask with. Yes you have to wear it for life but if you were going to be the one to dictate when (s)he asks and with what ring….what’s the point of a proposal? You’re already engaged if you ask me.

Post # 84
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

I had shown my fiancé various settings and rings I liked over the course of our 3 years together. He knew I liked a few things: halo or double halo, pave band, and I told him a few shapes I loved (round, oval, and pear). I had asked him if he would ever feel like he needed me to go with him to try rings on prior to him proposing but he insisted this was something he would do when the time was right and that he would do it all on his own. Thus I had zero input on the ring and didn’t know when he would propose. It was a little nerve wracking but I know he has good taste and that he’d get me something I loved. 

He ended up choosing me my absolute dream ring and I love it!!!! We got engaged two months ago and I’m obsessed with it! ๐Ÿ’—๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ˜

 

Post # 85
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

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martinson18 :  my fiancé was the same as yours lol 

Post # 86
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

Hell no! Who knows what a sales person would have talked him into if I didn’t send him specifics. 

Post # 87
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2019

He got me my ring and I got him a Rolex and a ring for his engagement.  We’re both happy!

Post # 88
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

I told my Fiance that I didn’t like solitary diamonds.  That was my only stipulation.  He purchased the ring 100% on his own from there and I couldn’t be happier.  He bought me a Halo (something that I never really knew existed before) and it has tiny diamonds down the side.   He completely nailed it!  I guess part of that comes with him knowing me really well. 

Post # 89
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2016

The question is whether you trust him to do what he thinks is best for you. Presumably, after that long, he should know you pretty well and have a good idea of what you like.

There’s also a lot to be said for being willing to take that risk and just love whatever he gets you because he got it just for you. Marriage and relationships are all about compromise, so it’s good to get over being in control of everything all the time.

As for me: My fiance went hunting for rings and sent me a bunch of examples. Ultimately, her dad and I went to talk to a jeweler that specializes in custom work because I didn’t love any off-the-shelf ones. It took months of agonizing over the design before I was confident enough to ask the opinion of some of my friends and (most importantly) her father. When her father strongly approved of the design, I had the confidence to have them start making it.

Post # 90
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Newbee

My gf and I went shopping together.  I had some settings in mind that I liked a lot, but she ended up loving a setting that I’d never even considered, and it’s the one we’re going with!  I couldn’t make up my mind between the one she liked and the one I originally liked, but when she described the one she liked as “practical and pretty, like you,” my heart melted and I was sold.  Since we’re both women and we both want an engagement ring, we’re getting the same setting, but with different shape stones.

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