(Closed) did you let your bridesmaids choose their dresses?

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 32
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@jlpang:  We looked online and in stores in my city for a long navy dress but we weren’t finding anything in stores at all (seriously, in the entire city I only found about 4 navy dresses and they were way too blinged out or were cotton maxi dresses) and all the dresses online that I liked were bridesmaids dresses anyways.  One of my Maids of Honor lives in another province and having the navy blues match was also an issue so I decided to change my mind and started looking at dresses in bridal stores.  My bridal party consists of only 2 Maids of Honor and they’ve both told me many times that they’ll wear whatever I want them to regardless of their personal style preference as it is my wedding.  I’ve decided on this dress and my fiance loves it too.  Don’t feel bad if you decide to pick them yourself.  It’s your wedding, your photos, your day. 

 

http://www.billlevkoff.com/style/bridesmaid-dress/116

Post # 33
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

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@ampapa:  I think Donna Morgan is one of the few designers you don’t have to worry about the dye being different shades.

Post # 34
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

No pictures yet as we are just starting to shop (5 months out!). I gave very, very basic guidelines because I really want my BMs to wear something they love and that looks great on them. The dress has to be cobalt blue and between knee and floor length (it’s an evening wedding during winter in Missouri). The dress can be all cobalt blue, have patterns, designs, strapless, halter, sequined, etc. They can also choose whatever shoes they want (silver, white, gold, black, red, etc.) to go with their dress. I’m big on the choosing because I like the fact that it will reflect how different my BMs are. I’m not against choosing one dress at all, but this just works best for me. I’m also letting them choose whatever hairstyle they think works best, as it will depend on the dress they choose…as long as it is not the exact one I’m doing.

Post # 35
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I picked the designer and the color, and told them to pick any knee length dress. Turned out great! I didn’t specify a fabric, but three chose chiffon and two chose satin.

Post # 36
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I’m asking my bridesmaids to wear knee-length solid little black dresses.  I have multiple differnt body types and one bridesmaid who will be 7 months pregnant.  There are also limited budgets.  So if they already have a LBD, fantastic!  If they don’t, I know they will be able to find something in their price range that they will like.  You can pretty much find LBDs any time of the year.

Post # 37
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Yes! I got them to choose them self and we did the planning together. I think it is important that they have dresses that they themself like and feel pretty in. 

Post # 38
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I went shopping with them. I told them a little about my dress. Shape of neckline and that it had some lace. Then they went out looking. Both girls decided on the same dress. I love it and I think they will wear it again. Its purple. I wanted autumn flowers. Its a scheme!

Post # 39
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I asked my maids to find their own dresses suitable to their preferences and budgets in a grey shade excluding black-grey or white-grey. Other requirements were: not shiney, no jersey fabric, knee length or around and with no bling. It took them 5 months and a lot of anxiety on my part as I found that I had actually wanted more control of this experience. But, it worked out in the end (though I have yet to see the dresses in person).

Post # 40
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Helper bee

I gave them color and length. We went to two stores and they ran the show. Result, one bridesmaid dress that looks fantastic on everyone. They picked them out and I just sat down and watched the show.

Post # 41
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I gave them the color (plum from David’s Bridal) and told them to pick any knee-length dress. I actually took my two MOHs first so they got first dibs. The other girls were asked not to get the same style as them. So, I will have five different dresses and I think they will all look lovely.

 

I also gave them the parameters for shoes: nude, patent leather pump.They can pick thier own brand and heel height.

 

I want my girls to be happy!

Post # 42
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I picked the colour, fabric, and designer (Alfred Angelo) and took them all shopping together. The four of them spent about an hour, and all picked something different. Yay! I love that they each found something that they will feel confident in. These are the dresses they chose, and the colour is cherry red (like in the bottom picture), though no one is doing strapless.  

 

Post # 43
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

My Maid/Matron of Honor was dead set on full length, so that eliminated a lot of options. I ordered a whole bunch of dresses they were interested in (from Ruche, Mod Cloth, etc….) and we met at my house to pick. We did go to a David’s Bridal appointment first that day, but none of us were happy with the full length blue options. In the end the ones that chose the dresses were ony two of the four bridesmaids, but they all couldn’t make the appointment. I’m fine with the dress, I’m kind of happy it’s not satin. I’m not a big fan of satin. I’m pairing it with a statement necklace and clutch that I’ll give them with the gifts.

 

Post # 44
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

Everyone in my wedding party picked their own attire.  In fact, I didn’t see what people were wearing until the day of my wedding.  However, take my opinion with a grain of salt; I didn’t care if someone showed up in a wedding dress.

Post # 45
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@jlpang:  I let them pick, but I told them te color I want.  I like what they chose. I t kind of reminds me of my own dress little bit

Post # 46
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2015

@jlpang:  On my suggestion, my sister let us (her bridesmaids) choose our own dresses. It was fantastic. As a bigger gal, it’s been tough to be a bridesmaid in weddings where the chosen dress reminds me just how much chubbier I am than the rest of the girls. For sister’s wedding, I managed to find a dress that I loved and will actually wear again (and have for several formal functions). I was especially appreciative of being able to find a dress that looked great as all of the maids paid for thier own dresses. I plan on letting the maids do the same for my wedding. We did have some restrictions:

1) Had to match color swatch given to us by the bride.

2) Has to be mid-knee.

We ended up all shopping together (bride and maids) and bought our bridesmaids dresses on the same day. We even found a bolero that the bridesmaids all loved and bride added to the outfits. Each maid looked great and felt comfortable and happy with thier dress. Instead of everyone looking 100% uniform but wearing dresses that were unflattering, each lady looked great wearing something fitted for her body and comfortable that showed each girl’s style. Wholeheartedly recommend!!

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