(Closed) Did you let your FI see the dress before the wedding?

posted 8 years ago in Dress
  • poll: Show FI the dress?

    Yes! But only show the website's photos so seeing YOU in the dress is still a surprise!

    Yes! But only show the photo of YOU, as a sneak peak of what he has to look forward to!

    Yes! Show any/all the photos you can find!

    Yes! Show him and see what he thinks - if he doesn't like it, you still have time to find another!

    No way! Make it a surprise for the wedding day!

    I showed my FI my dress before the wedding and have no regrets!

    I showed my FI my dress before the wedding but I regret it!

    I didn't show my FI my dress before the wedding and he loved the surprise!

    I didn't show my FI my dress before the wedding but I wish I had!

  • Post # 3
    7899 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

    I think you will be happy you waited when our wedding day comes. I would certainly not show it to him on someone else (a model) because the dress will be different on you and so many brides come on here so sad because their Fiance saw their dress on a model and hated it and they are now thinking of getting a new dress when the reality is that he will love that dress on you no matter what… so why put yourself in that position?

    You can make it to the wedding without sharing. I promise!

    Post # 4
    1466 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2012 - Father\'s Vineyard Church/ A Touch of Class Banquet Center

    I waited and I love that I did! Seeing his face take in everything on that first look was amazing and so worth it!! It will be worth it, promise!!!

    Post # 5
    846 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    i feel exactly like you do! i am absolutely in love with my dress and look at pictures of it like everyday (mine’s also coming dec/jan!). i always share everything with my fiance too, especially things that make me excited and happy. at first, i thought there was no way in hell he was going to see the dress. but he kept bugging me to see it (he’s very nosey/curious), and i was so excited about it, so i decided to show him a picture of a model with the dress on from the website. best decision ever. granted the dress looks totalllly different on me compared to the model, but at least now i have his approval (he loved it just as much as me), he will stop asking to see it, and i don’t have to keep anything from him! the best part is that i know he will still be absolutely floored when he sees me in it on our wedding day 🙂

    p.s. just noticed we are date twins!


    Post # 6
    4464 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    I had intense dress regret and one day when I was crying about it AGAIN I showed my husband sort of a cropped pic of me in it. Technically if I asked him right now what my wedding dress looked like he’d say white, so that cropped pic really did nothing. After I kind of got over it and decided I was going to have to be OK with my decision on the dress, I found a little stain on the bottom of the dress one week before. My husband was not working that week and I was and he did me a huge favor and took it into the dress shop. Even still I know seeing me in the dress on the wedding day was miles away from seeing that cropped pic and perhaps getting a view of it in the bag. (I’m still not sure if he really looked at it fully when he took it in.) If it hadn’t been for the dress regret I would not have showed him. I may have just tried describing it to him, but I wouldn’t have showed him anything. 

    Post # 7
    902 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I had horrible dress regret to the point where I was seriously thinking about post poning the wedding until I found a dress that I loved.

    I ended up taking my fiance with me and showed him the dresses.  Everything I THOUGHT he would have liked/hated was spot on and having him agree with me on a dress just put my head at ease.

    I love my new dress and knowing that he loves it and is excited and can’t wait to see me in it means more to me than any old tradition.



    Post # 8
    2807 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    he’s seen my dress. i showed him ages ago, when i’d bought ANOTHER dress. i ended up cancelling that one and going with this one. but, he just doesn’t know which dress i’m wearing. cause he’s seen a lot of the dresses i liked. he’s seen almost all of them, actually.

    Post # 9
    642 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    I was completely planning on showing my Fiance. The plan was to go dress shopping with my mom and sisters, narrow it down to 3 or 4 and come back with my Fiance and us make the final decision together. But then as soon as I stepped into “the one”, before I was even fully in it my first shout out of the change room to my sister waiting outside was “Uh oh, I don’t think Brad is allowed to see this one!” 

    I really wanted him to be happy with my dress so he gave me some guidelines: “nothing that looks like it’s trying too hard”. And I showed him pictures of dresses I liked before I went shopping and he told me which ones he liked and which he didn’t. My dress wasn’t one of them but it helped me make sure he would like it. 

    When I told him that I found the one I wanted and that i wasn’t going to let him see it he got really excited, and kind of happy that I chose that. And, I mean, it’s not one of those things that anyone would think is over the top in any way, so I know it’ll be fine. 

    Post # 10
    2084 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    My SO and I share everything together and actually can shopping with him and kinda trust his fashion sense. In this case he won’t be seeing neither one of my dresses. I love to surprise him!!!!

    Post # 11
    6 posts
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I showed him once before I even tried the dress on (I was sure from the start that this was THE dress) and it became apparent just a few weeks later that he had completely forgot what it looked like. He was basically saying that he had no idea what it looked like. I showed him pics of me in the dress again after I had tried it the first time and then after I paid the first deposit, and I absolutely think he has no memory of it other than that it’s white and that it’s got sleeves.

    Him seeing pictures of me can’t compare to seeing me in the dress on our wedding day. I show him pictures because I’m so excited about the dress! I’m like the first poster – I keep looking at dresses and NOTHING compares to my dress. I LOVE it. I don’t want to keep something I’m this excited about from him.

    My FI’s reaction wasn’t a surprise. I’ve brought him shopping before, and it was the same reaction: “yeah, nice. Mhm…” I would never consider changing this dress even if he disliked it, I was sure about that before I showed him the pics.

    Post # 12
    411 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    no way!! he is seeing the dress for the first time as i walk down the isle. its so time effienct to have the photos done before the wedding but i just cant do it, 

    Post # 13
    181 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I ordered my dress online, had Fiance help me get into it when it arrived and help me decide if I was going to keep it!


    Post # 14
    6354 posts
    Bee Keeper

    No dress yet but he’ll probably see it. It won’t spoil the moment at all. I realized that being informed of his plans for the ring/proposal didn’t spoil it at all, or even make it free of surprises. The prep work is just not the same as the real thing, in a lot of ways (not just in terms of meaning).

    Meanwhile, two heads are better than one. One of the reasons we know we should marry is because we both bring out the best in each other, the things we do together are much better than what either of us could do alone. The dress isn’t exactly an earth-shattering decision, but I want it to be pretty on me, so I expect I’ll ask for his feedback. He’s very artistic and has great taste.

    Post # 15
    2892 posts
    Sugar bee

    He got to see it about an hour before the wedding. We were staying in the same room and getting ready in the same room. No avoiding it really. Not that I cared. So “technically” he saw it before the wedding. 🙂

    Post # 16
    1085 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I printed up my 10 top dress pics online before I chose the dress. I gave the pics to him and had him pick his top three. Then I asked which his favorite was of the top three. He doesn’t know it but he chose my favorite as well so he saw the dress but doesn’t know which one I’m getting 🙂 So I picked other in the poll.


    The same thing kind of happened with the e-ring. I went online and printed up lots of rings I preferred. He went through them and picked out his favorite and got it for me, it just so happened to be my favorite, the first one I loved and the one I compared the rest to 🙂

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