Post # 17
I’ve been showing fiance photos of any nice dresses I’ve tried on (whether it’s the website photo or me wearing it). I don’t think it detracts from the excitement, and it definitely won’t take away from seeing me walking down the aisle in it. I hardly ever wear dresses, and he loves seeing me all frocked up, so I’m actually a little sad that he doesn’t get to see me trying on all the dresses to give his opinion (his mum is a little old fashioned and would flip out if she knew I was showing him photos, and some of the stores in the area don’t allow men into the dressing area).
Post # 18
I am KINDA like option number one, but I voted other, because I have shown him the picture of the dress…. while I was LOOKING at dresses. I also showed him about 10 other pictures (my dress was his number 2 pick…. his number one pick looked HORRIBLE on me) and he doesn’t know which dress I ended up getting. I have not shown him and I will not show him. He gets to find out ON OUR WEDDING DAY and not a moment sooner! 🙂
Post # 19
I am the same way! We share EVERYTHING with each other and keeping something like my wedding dress a secret is SO hard because I love it so much! But I just keep thinking about 1) the fact that HE doesn’t want to see a stitch of it until I walk down the aisle and 2) how amazing it is going to be to see his face when he finally does see me in it….walking down the aisle. That moment is SO special and I think you will be so happy you waited to show him! 🙂
Post # 20
@lovelove1028: Did you ask your Fiance what he wants? Mine wants everything to be a suprise! No first look and definitely no seeing the dress before I come down the aisle.
Post # 21
- Wedding: June 2013 - Country Club
I don’t have a dress picked out yet, but I showed Fiance a slew of pictures, including one I thought I was getting. He didn’t know which one was which. I’m not getting that dress at this point in time, but still. I just couldn’t hold it in.
Post # 22
I showed him a picture of the dress before I ordered it online and I showed him the dress itself. But he didn’t see me in it until our wedding day.
Post # 23
- Wedding: September 2014 - Lodge
I only showed him the pic of the model to get his opinion. The reveal will be wedding day.
Post # 24
First of all, your dress is beautiful.
My husband was ADAMANT about not seeing the dress (or the veil, my hairstyle, etc) before the wedding. And I was similarly feeling super excited about my dress and kept wanting to show him. (I am also TERRIBLE at keeping a secret.) But, in the end, I never showed him and I am so glad…he was so taken away at our wedding and I was really happy that we stuck to tradition. I would say, be strong! Don’t show him!
Post # 25
@lovelove1028: My guy likes fashion a lot (he’s european… so its okay! lol) and I knew I wanted to have it be a surprise but I wanted to involve him too.
We had kind of talked about what kind of dress he likes but I was still super curious as to his opinon about the details of the gowns and I really wanted to hear what he had to say so I was a little sneaky about it all.
I showed him photos of like 20 different dresses and just asked what he thought of them all… I told him there are no right or wrong answers and I was just curious – He didn’t mind because he has a keen eye for fashion & has great taste!
So yeah of course I put photos of models & regular girls in ALL my dress choices over the past year: mermaids, trumpets, ballgowns & a-lines with all kinds of trims from ruffles, beading, one shoulder straps, sweethear necklines, lace, etc!
I already had my dress so of course I put that dress in the mix as well… and his feedback was the best on that one so I was SUPER excited~ I knew he’d like it but I wanted that confirmation so I don’t regret it for a second!
It was pretty fun for us and on the wedding day too!
I was like “Do you recognize it?!” and he was like “No, was it in the choices?” and I was like “Yeah, but of course I had to put my own spin on it so it was still a surprise!” (I added a bolero) and he just smiled and said I looked beautiful & it was perfect… *swoon*
You can invovle him AND still keep it a secret if you want!
Post # 26
Ask him if he wants to see it. He may want to be surprised. I didn’t want my husband to see it and he didn’t want to know one detail about it.
Post # 27
Fiance is super traditional, so no, I will not be showing him. I’m sort of dying to show it off though so it’s really hard to respect his wishes! LOL.
Post # 28
I am not showing my Fiance until the day of the wedding when i walk down the aisle. It has been hard to not say anything to him because i tell him everything but i know he wants to be surprised and he doesnt want to know anything about my dress. The only thing he knows about it is that his mother told him that i looked beautiful in it. It has been hard but i look forward to seeing his face when he sees me for the first time in it and the pictures afterwards.
Post # 29
I showed DH my dress as soon as I got home. I would not have been able to keep it from him for 6 months. I am bad at keeping secrets though! I don’t regret him seeing it at all. He didn’t see it altered or with all the bells and whistles so there was still a surprise on the big day.
Post # 30
Thanks for all the input!! It’s nice to see there are other brides who feel the same as me. 🙂
I have asked him if he wants the surprise or wants to know… and he’s indifferent, says that’s entirely up to me. But… I can’t decide!!
I REALLY want to show him (I’m just soo excited about it!), but Ilike the idea of surprising him for “first look” photos (which will definitely be BEFORE the ceremony, so I can get all my tears out then, and not walking down the aisle! Haha). But I don’t think showing him pictures will spoil the “first look” moment. It will certainly be something different when I have wedding makeup and hair and jewelry…
So then… why not show him?? Tradition? Make it an extra big surprise? I’m leaning toward showing him… But not 100% sure yet.
Ah! Why am I so indecisive? Haha.
Post # 31
my husband didn’t see the dress until i was walking down the aisle.
after i bought my dress, i looked thru wedding magazines with him and showed him lots of dresses (some very similiar to mine and some completely different) just to see what his reactions were to different styles. i didn’t let him know which ones looked like my dress, tho and thank goodness we have similiar taste!
after the wedding, he said my dress wasn’t what he was expecting, but it was what he was hoping for 🙂