Post # 1
ok. serious question. I’m wondering – since OBVIOUSLY I want to assume that all of us here are SO much happier in a relationship / getting married or already are…but honestly – how many of you here were honestly “happy” with being single. not just happy WHEN you were single – but were literally happy about being single?
I am going to be completely honest. I HATED it. I wasn’t an unhappy person – but I absolutely hated being single. I always wished I could have been one of those “happy single gals” but I never was.
I want to say that I didn’t need someone to BE happy but maybe I did (and can’t tell you how – every single day – even after 3.5 years – I do thank god for my husband)…
but honestly – I’d love to hear from all of you – were you TRULY happy being single?
Post # 3
Eh…I’d have to admit that the “grass is always greener on the other side” had crossed my mind a few times. But definately happy to be with my man now.
Post # 4
Personally, I loved being single… but I love my Fiance more 🙂 In high school I just kind of decided one day that any drama involving guys wasn’t worth the stress and that one day I’d find a guy that didn’t create more stress… And then had four wonderful years of single-hood. I had a great time and really (even though it sounds rather cliche…) found myself. Then, I just happened to meet the right guy. I’m still me, he’s still him- but we’re happy together. So, even though I was happy then- I’m still happy now. If that makes sense?
Post # 5
I was really good at dating and doing the “light and casual” thing. Sometimes I wish the Mister and I could go back to “light and casual” but life after college really isn’t like that. And I would miss telling him I love him!
Post # 6
I pretty much have been with my Fiance since we were kids – we started dating when we were just 14! People always asked me if I felt left out on the “single life” and I was always like “NO! I feel fortunate that I never had to be single!” The whole dating scene is not something that I would be good at – good thing I got lucky and snagged him early! LOL
Post # 7
I had a lot of fun… but I wouldn’t say I was “happy” in the same way I am now.
Post # 8
I was never happier dating people until I started dating my Fiance. Now I honestly couldn’t imagine not being with him.
Post # 9
I was happy being single. very happy in fact. I had just came out of a two year relationship 9 months before I met my FH and before that another two year relationship. So being single was a new thing. I found that I was blissfully unaware of guys, just doing my thing… it wasnt until my friend gave my number to him on a night out and that he actually texted and asked me for coffee I was like.. woah.. new people great! It wasnt until that 4hr coffee meeting that I thought…I could give another relationship a shot. If my friend hadnt given out my number, Id prob still be happily single for another year or so, before probably being happy but wanting to go out with someone.
Sorry bit of a ramble, but its very hard to define the word happy.. or happier…
Post # 9
I honestly don’t remember being single. I have been with Fiance for 6.5 years and was in another long term relationship for 3 years before that.
However, when I see the struggles of my single friends I definitely do NOT wish I was in thier shoes! There are so many games and misconceptions that go on while dating.
Post # 10
I was happy being single. I was always the one who rolled their eyes when other girls whined about not having a boyfriend. I’m just happy being me – but I go to alot of talk therapy to get that. 🙂
Post # 11
I had lots of fun as a single girl… partied a lot and dated lots of different guys. But now that I’m 30, I’m so happy to have my Fiance and to be getting married in a few months! To me, it’s all about timing. There’s a time and place for all the partying/dating and for me, that phase is over. I wouldn’t change my past one bit, but I’m so looking forward to my future. 🙂
Post # 12
I liked being single…when I finally found out being single didn’t mean chasing after a man to get into another relationship 🙂 Don’t get me wrong, I love my Darling Husband, I just love being married in a diferent way than I loved being single…my true single life was very much like Sex in the City…it was about me and my girlfriends and the fun/adventures we had…and there were many 🙂
Post # 13
I LOVED being single. LOVED it. I was free from my jerk ex-boyfriend after 3 1/2 years of misery, I was making a lot of positive changes in my life, and I enjoyed the freedom and personal responsibility so, so much. It was a little lonely at times, but you know what? If I hadn’t met my SO, I would still be happily single-and-not-looking. He just so happened to be special. 😉
Post # 14
I absolutely loved being single and I was very happy (don’t get me wrong, I am still very happy right now with FI). I had tons of friends and they were my partners in crime in travels and misadventures. I guess you can call me a settler but I am never the type who looks at the other side and says that side is greener. That said, when I was single, I never looked for dates or boyfriends. If one came, then good, if none came, I was equally okay. I never felt lonely when I was single and I never believed that being in a relationship will make me happier. To be honest, I wouldn’t even call being with my Fiance a happier state, it’s just different. I was happy then, I am happy now. Just different kinds of happiness and different people to share that happiness with 🙂
Post # 15
I wasnt ‘happy’ about being single, but honestly I never was single for all that long. My opinion of the dating field was that it was a means to an ends ie: look for traits I liked in some people and learn to avoid the traits that I disliked. That said, I was never really happy dating any of those guys either…
until I met Fiance.