(Closed) Did you live together before getting engaged?

posted 10 years ago in Proposals
Post # 122
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Helper bee

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@luckyprincess:  Wow! Really nice point. I would be interested in seeing the results for success of marriage of thos who have lived together before hand v. success of couples who didn’t live together first.

Post # 123
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Buzzing bee

Yes we did.

Post # 124
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

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@stacycats: I’ve heard that statistic too!  It’s interesting, isn’t it?

My DH and I did not live together until we were married.  We wanted that to be something we did not do together until we were man and wife! : )

We were friends for years.

Started dating April 2009.

Engaged March 2010.

Married September 2010.

Post # 125
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

We didn’t live together before marriage and we dated for almost three years before getting engaged.

Post # 126
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

We lived together our entire relationship… (when we met we were volunteer teachers living in a housing facility with 10 other people)… then we moved to Thailand together. We dated for exactly 3 years when he proposed.

I thought we should have gotten engaged A LOT sooner and have always wondered if it would have happened sooner if we didn’t live together.

Post # 127
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

We won’t live together until after the wedding and have dated for 6 years. That being said, we started dating in high school. I think age and student/job/financial status are big factors in your research.

Post # 128
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2011

We dated almost 5  years before getting engaged and we moved in together 5 months after we got engaged.

Post # 129
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

He moved in after only a few months, and we got married just under a year after that. We never got engaged, so I don’t know what that does for your statistics.

Post # 130
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Still a waiting bee, but we didn’t just move in with each other, we bought a house! We did this after we had been dating about 1.5 years

Post # 131
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

NotFroofy really did move in on the second date.  However, there were extenuating circumstances.  When we “met” (introduced online by a mutual online friend), she lived in the UK and I lived in the US.  Thus, inviting her out for coffee was not exactly practical.  However, she had recently quit her job, and was in the process of selling her house, so that she could use the proceeds to take a course to enable her to change careers.  After several months of talking via IM and phone, we decided that she should come for a visit for about a week and a half.  If that worked out, she would take the 6-month course in the US, and live with me while doing so.  I have a basement that used to be the nanny’s quarters when my children were younger, so if things didn’t work out between us during that six months, we figured she could just move down to the basement until she finished the course, then move back to the UK at the end of it.  As things turned out, she’s still here ten years later.  We got engaged after nearly eight years together, and we got married a year ago after nine years together.

Of course, as a same-sex couple, there was nowhere we could have been legally married for the first eight years of our life together.

Post # 132
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

We dated 2 1/2 yrs before he proposed, we will have been together 5 1/4 yrs when we get married but will not move in together until 3 months before our wedding.  This is only because of space issues since we both have children and he is in different school district and I didn’t want to make my son change schools.  Would probably have moved in together shortly after engagement otherwise.

Post # 133
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

We started dating when I was 19, right before the beginning of my sophomore year of college. He was 21 and was at the beginning of his junior year of college. We dated for 2 years before moving in together, and then lived together about 2 years before getting engaged. 

When we are married, we will have been together almost 5 years, and will have been living together for 3 years. 

One thing to keep in mind- this may be a chicken and egg issue. Do couples wait to get married longer b/c they are living together, or do they move in together b/c they want to wait longer to get married. 

For us, we were not in a rush to get married- neither was. We’re still relatively young now (24 and 26 at the wedding) and for us it made so much sense to move in together- for one, it has saved us so much money, and he’s the best roommate I could ask for! 

Post # 134
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

We dated for 3.5 years in college before moving in together.  When I moved 10 hours away for grad school, he moved with me.  We moved in July 09 and he proposed in May ’10, but had been planning for a couple months before the proposal.  SO we lived together for about 8 months before he decided he was going to propose! 

 

It’s been pretty mixed for me, with friends who have gotten engaged who have lived together vs not.  I have 1 set of friends who have been dating for 7 years, starting in high school, and he proposed a couple months ago.  They don’t live together.  

Another friend dated for 8 years (3 years high school, 4 years college, 1 year grad school) before getting married.  They don’t live together.

Another friend & her Fiance were together for I think 2.5 years before the proposal? And don’t live together, & another friend was with her now Fiance for 2 years before the proposal, and they don’t live together.

Post # 135
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Started dating March 2007

Moved in together May 2008.

Got engaged August 2010.

Getting married July 2011!

Post # 136
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

We do not live together and it was by choice. It’s hard not to live together! I don’t believe it made our time before we’re engaged any shorter by not living together.

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