Did you live together before marriage?

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Did you live together before marriage?
    Yes : (257 votes)
    86 %
    No : (41 votes)
    14 %
  • Post # 106
    Member
    506 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    SO and I won’t be living together before marriage, also for religious reasons. I think it’s more my decision than his because we’ve been long distance for almost two years, but he’s completely supportive of my desires. We do spend a lot of time together, and I can afford to visit for extended periods of time because I’m self-employed. We’ve gotten a good feel for how marriage will be and have painted/repaired a house together, so we’ve had practice in dealing with each other’s quirks and whatnot.

    I know we’re in the minority, but we’re good with our decision.

    Post # 107
    Member
    199 posts
    Blushing bee

    pinkrose23:  whether to live together before marriage is something only u and ur Fiance know whether u should do. I waited until after, but its not mine or anyone elses place to decide wats best for another couple, or to put moral labels on either decision. Its not as much about right and wrong as it is about practicality. But i dont buy the test driving theory. Thats like saying u wont have children until u test drive the experience by getting a dog. marriage is more about commitment to your choices and flexibilty, those r things u CHOOSE to do, u choose to forgive, u choose to do the things that will make u feel in love, u choose to put ur spouse first. Those r not experiences u can test out to see if u can handle it for a little while, thats not a good indicator. But u can certainly be commited and decide for the sake of practicality u want to live together first.

    Post # 108
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    461 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    MrsWoods47:  I guess I just can’t put too much stock in a book that would make someone look science in the face and basically laugh at it.

    Regardless of your beliefs on Adam and Eve and Noah, you can’t possibly deny that dinosaurs walked the Earth over 65 MILLION years ago, long before the Earth was even created, according to the Bible. This doesn’t deny that God created the Earth, it just didn’t happen in 7 24 hour days. There is NO WAY. That is fact. Once you can see past some of those stories that are more meant to be anecdotal than anything else, you can see that not every single word of the Bible was meant to be taken literally. This is not something that can be argued, because there are hundreds of facts and scientific research that proves that we were not here when dinosaurs were.

    I honestly don’t take any issue with your religious conviction or your pre-marital living arrangements, it’s that you feel that you need to make OP feel like she’s making a poor choice just because she considers herself a Christian. The Bible also says, “He who is without sin among you, let him be the first to throw a stone at her.” I realize that you have stated that Christians have to keep other Christians on the right path, but honestly, the Bible has many contradictions such as this, and it’s clear that OP is making the choice to live with her FI/SO before marriage, and that doesn’t mean she’s not a Christian, it just means that she isn’t worried about this specific aspect.

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