Did you live together before the wedding?

posted 2 years ago in Engagement
Post # 61
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4030 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

We moved in together after being together for a year, with the plan of being engaged by the 2 year mark. He proposed 6 months after we moved in, and we were married 6 months later. I would never marry someone I had not lived with. I am a grown up, have not lived at home in 20 years, my parents opinion has no bearing on my life. 

Post # 62
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45 posts
Newbee

Like others said, I could never marry someone I’d never lived with. Boyfriend or Best Friend and I moved in officially together after a year, but I was pretty much already living with him before that point. We’ve been together 2.5 years and I’m hoping an engagement is on the horizon soon~

Post # 63
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2450 posts
Buzzing bee

Yes. We actually bought a house together. My mom was mostly concerned on what would happen if we didn’t work out together, but we had a legal arrangement between us if things didn’t work out. We also talked about timelines before moving in together and I just wanted to make sure that marriage was something we were working towards. 

I would never marry someone I didn’t live with. There is a lot of adjustment and I can see how a relationship could go sour very quickly when first moving in. 

Post # 64
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393 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2018 - Porta, Asbury Park NJ

Yes! We started dating in July 2015 and were living together by that September. We will be engaged for a year in a couple days!  I don’t think the jumping into living together works for many people. We got lucky! A lot of people though we were making a bad decision moving in so fast. But it’s been great for us. We are both older and know what we want and what we don’t. I do think it’s important to live together before marriage. Everything is all fun you’re dating and have your own personal space. Living together is a whole different story. There’s so many things that can cause conflict. If you can’t live together or handle the conflicts and stresses that come with that you should get married. They go hand in hand. 

Post # 65
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1182 posts
Bumble bee

Fiance and I lived together for nine months before he proposed. My dad wasn’t overly happy but oh well. 

Highly reccomend it! Living with someone is completely different to dating 

xo

Post # 66
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983 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

We did but on the condition that we would be engaged within 6 months. I’m older and had no desire to live as years and years as bf and gf. I also didn’t feel at that point that we needed to live together to figure out if we could be married. Basically, we only lived together because we knew we were getting married. Our families handled it fine. My parents were worried that he wouldn’t propose but we were engaged within 4 months. Everyone is different though and some couples do need to live together to really know each other or figure out if they can be/want to be married. 

Post # 67
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1939 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Pearson Convention Centre

We didn’t live together before marriage both of us lived at home with our parents until we got married

Post # 68
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167 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

We’re NOT living together before marriage and my family thinks we’re crazy and wasting money. So I have the opposite issue going on. Its no fun when family doesn agree, no matter the situation.

Post # 69
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16 posts
Newbee

No we are not, his parents would have no problem with it but mine would. I’m the only daughter, catholic, and from a latino culture. Also, I’m still in school so am pretty dependent on my parents, and when we get married we will be a one-income family for about a year. Fiance is very respectful of my cultural norms (and practical…he realizes he’s saving money by having me with the parents!).

Post # 70
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522 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2020 - New York, New York

We lived together before we got engaged. However, before we moved in together, we talked about marriage, and we agreed that we were going to get engaged a couple years down the road. Sometimes moving in together is a step towards marriage, but not all people see it that way, so it can be good to talk about the relationship first and make sure you’re on the same page. My parents lived together and Mr. Joseph’s parents lived together before marriage, so if they protested to living together, it would have been a little hypocritical! Luckily, they were happy for us and had no objections. We didn’t talk to any of our extended family about it, so if they disapprove, we don’t know/care.

Post # 71
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129 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

There was nothing to “handle.” We wanted to move in together, so we moved in together. I don’t think I could marry someone without living together, but that’s just me! Plus, it just made sense for us and was something we wanted to do.

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