Post # 1
So this is my first post 😀
My FH and I have recently got engaged 😀
We are set to be married in 2014.
And we aren’t living together beforehand (my choice, which he fully supports)
It’s not a religious decision but a personal one and I just would like to know…
How many of you on here have lived together prior to marrying? Or are choosing to live apart until marriage?
Or even if you are willing to share are “waiting” (for sex) until marriage?
Some facts about us that you might like to know:
Im 21 he’s 26
We got engaged 6 days before our 8 months dating anniversary
We will be married 4 days before our 2 year anniversary 😀
I still live at home but he lives with a friend because he’s migrated from New Zealand (to Aus)
Congrats to all of us! Because we’re all getting married 😀
Post # 3
Hi =) welcome!
FH and I have been together for nearly 5 years, and have been living together for nearly 4.5. We’ll be getting married in 2014 also, on our 6 year anniversary =D
Post # 4
We lived together before we got engaged and I wouldn’t have marrued him without living together. There’s a big learning curve in living together and couples can find they’re incompatible at that point. I wouldn’t have wanted to deal with that AFTER getting married.
We waited for sex even less, but that’s a whole other story.
Why are you waiting until you’re married if not for religious reasons?
Post # 5
@SpecialSundae: Hi hun 😀
I have many reasons for waiting (not for sex – i think we would have gone insane waiting for that haha)
It’s got a lot to do with the way I was brought up (my nanna had a big part in it and I couldn’t bear disappointing her like that)
I am also very sentimental and I want the first time I live with someone to be my husband.
I had a lot of “firsts” taken away from me, so I guess in a way I am clinging to the ones I can control.
I feel that moving in together can also cloud some of the important getting to know if this person is the right one. Personality, beliefs and world views.
I also believe that if you’re compatible enough with someone and in love with them enough to actually want to marry them and spend the rest of your life with them living together and finding a few things that may annoy you is nothing.
😀 hope this explains some of it
Post # 6
I was 18 and he was 22. Well we meet online so when he meet me he lived with me an thats also when we got engaged lol I don’t think I would be comfortable marrying a man I haven’t lived with (if even briefly)
Post # 7
I lived with Darling Husband before we were married but I had been married before and didn’t see the point in waiting. I personally think it helped us figure things out.
With my exH, I was young and still in college and my parents refused to pay for college if I lived with him. So I didn’t and we had a super long engagement….and since we were both so busy with school, we saw each other only a couple of times a week.
I moved in right after we got married and we fought like cats and dogs for at least 4 months. We’d both been on our own for so long it was hard to have someone else around. We both would do anything we could to not have to go home….stay late at work, running errands, shopping, etc. Do I think our problems were b/c we waited to live together until after marriage? I honestly don’t know….he was more of my best friend and never really a husband though….which I didn’t know there was a difference until Darling Husband and I got married.
Post # 8
I voted for other as we are not married yet and don’t live together yet but we do plan on living together before we get married 🙂
Post # 9
Of course!! Fiance moved in about 3 months into dating, we were both 20 years old
Post # 10
I am personally against waiting untli marriage to figure both of those things out. I think that living with someone can be very hard and that it’s beneficial to know what you’re getting into there.
Darling Husband and I dated briefing in high school about seven years ago. We then remained friends and each dated others for a while. We dated a year and a half before getting engaged and lived together a good portion of that. When we got married we had been dating two and a half years.
Post # 11
We’ve been together for 4 years (and best friends before that for 2.5 years), living together for 2, engaged since February, getting married next August. We are currently 26 and 30.
I would never, ever marry someone that I hadn’t lived with for at least a year. Then again, I also wouldn’t marry someone I’d been with for less than 2.
Post # 12
Fiance and starting living together about a year into dating and I wouldnt have it any other way. There’s no way I could marry someone who I haven’t shared space with, it can be a total game changer. We will be married after being together 4 1/2 years next October!
Post # 13
We’ve been dating 10 years (I am 27 now) and we start living together 1 year ago, 10 moths begore getting married.
We have the house and we don’t want to wait till the wedding, and it was the best decision I made.
Living with your fi or husband is the most amazing thing, but also the fisrt days are a little strange. And it takes to me about 2 months to get used to that (house work (and he helps me a lot) hausehold economy, food/drinks purchase, not missing brothers/parents etc). Considering that marriage is a big stape, and that you are going to spend many busy months with all preparations and stress, I think starting living together just before the wedding is a big change. So it is good sometimes to start living some months or one year before to get used to that, not only for get used to live with him (this is for me te easy part) but also to get used to running a household. So then at the time you get married and return from the honeymoon you can just focus on enjoying your new life as husband and wife!
Post # 14
We started living together after being engaged, but we were together 7 years before that happened. It also took us about 5 months longer to find a house. Had we not been together so long, I would choose not to get engaged quickly without living together.
Post # 15
We live together. In our area, rent is so high that we were throwing literally thousands of dollars away each month for two apartments, when we only used one. We decided once both of our leases were up to move in together (2.5 years ago), and things have been perfect ever since!
Post # 16
@MASPA: I thoght exactly the same. You have been dating only months until you have been engaged, and I would be a good way to now more each other, living together before being married.