(Closed) Did you live with FI before you were engaged/married?

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Did you live with FI before you were engaged/married?
    Yes, while we were still just dating : (164 votes)
    69 %
    No, waiting 'til after we are married : (35 votes)
    15 %
    After we got engaged, but before we were married : (39 votes)
    16 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    3281 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    Yeah, we lived together before we got engaged. I dont think I would have it any other way. Every one is different and has their own set of beliefs, so there is no cookie cutter way to do things. It worked for us though πŸ˜€

    Post # 4
    Member
    164 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    We aren’t.  His family is 100% against it, even though everyone in my family lived together first.  It didn’t really bother me, although there are lots of days I wish we were.  I think in a few weeks I’ll be so happy that not only do I get to marry my best friend, but we will have this whole new experience together.

    I’ve heard there are statistics that show if you live together first you’re more likely to get divorced…not sure at all how true this is (plus, hell it’s just a statistic!!!), but those days I wish we were living together I’m trying to just remember that πŸ™‚

    Post # 5
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    4803 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Fiance had been engaged once before, a few years before we met. She moved in with him shortly after they got engaged and all hell broke loose. So obviously he was all for living together before popping the question this time around.

    Post # 6
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    4887 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    He bought a house that we both moved into.  We both knew that we were in it to win it and marriage was in our future.  He proposed about a year and a half later and I wouldn’t have had it any other way.

    Post # 7
    Member
    311 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I moved in with my fiance 3 months before we got engaged. We were only together 9 months total when he proposed, but I have known him since we were 4 yrs old πŸ™‚

    Post # 8
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    207 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    Moved in with my fiance 4 months after we started dating, I wanted to wait till we were at least engaged but those first few months living together were hell and I’m glad we got it over and done with πŸ˜‰

    Post # 9
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    853 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    we bought a house together before we were engaged! we both pretty much knew it would lead to marriage and we had to take advantage of the housing tax credit or we’d lose a great opportunity. We pretty much knew we would use the money from the tax credit toward the wedding/engagement preparations, so I wasn’t too worried. 

    Hubbs had been married before, and he had a stipulation that he wouldn’t marry again unless he lived with the person. I’d lived with several people I’d dated previously, so it wasn’t a big deal to me, but I always knew I’d never marry a person unless I lived with them first. IMO, there’s only so much you can learn from a person without living with them; habits and idiosyncracies are an important part of the marriage equation and should be addressed before the “I do.”

    Post # 11
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    2822 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    We moved in together while we were just bf/gf and a little less then 2 months later got engaged. This worked best for us & I wouldn’t of had it any other way. Its really a personal decision and I dont think there is any wrong or right answer πŸ™‚

    Post # 12
    Member
    620 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2015

    I respect everyone’s right to decide what’s best for them. In my case, I have not lived with my SO, and will not, until married.

    Post # 13
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    3166 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    we actually lived together as soon as we started dating (we were living overseas and saved money that way) and now we’ve been long distance for 2 years… so we did things backwards! i mean, we know we get along living together and it’s not a preference thing either – just circumstances.

    Post # 14
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    474 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    We both wanted to wait until we were married because that way it would be a new and exciting adventure to us, instead of just a weekend where we come home to what we’ve always done.

    Post # 15
    Member
    5993 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2010

    we didnt live together until after we marred and all good here

    Post # 16
    Member
    241 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Nope. We didn’t live together til we got married.

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