(Closed) Did you live with your SO before you got married?

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Did you live with your husband-to-be before you got married?
    yes, and our parents weren't happy about it : (17 votes)
    6 %
    yes, and our parents didn't mind : (201 votes)
    76 %
    no, we're voluntarily waiting til we're married : (38 votes)
    14 %
    no, because we're long distance : (8 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I am currently living with my husband-to-be and neither set of parents really seemed to care and things have gone quite well. 🙂 

    Post # 4
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    9181 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

    Yes, for about 8 years and no one cared Smile

    Post # 5
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    4311 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    My parents didn’t pay my bills.  If they had said something to me I would have gone off.  But I digress… yes we lived together before marriage 1,500 miles away from everyone.  No one cared.  But if we came home and stayed at one of our parents’ house, separate bedrooms it was.

    Post # 6
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    149 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    yes we did and we also have a son together. We’re together for 6 yrs before marriage.

    Post # 7
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    5001 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Yes and our parents were fine with it. My mom would have flipped if we got married before living together! We were together 1.5 years before moving in, then lived together another 1.5 years before getting engaged. We will have lived together 3 years when we get married. Loved every second of it!!

    Post # 8
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    1073 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    My Fiance are living together, and by the time we get married we will have lived together almost 2.5 years.

    Post # 9
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    275 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    It’s been 18 months thus far… almost 3 years by the time we say I do.

     

    There were some concerned questions posed by my mom – mostly because I own my home  and what that meant.  After discussing the legal implications and such he was happy.  His didn’t care. 

    Post # 10
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Yes, cause we bought a house together after we got engaged.

    Post # 11
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    4062 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    We lived together for about 8 months before we got engaged. It will be a year and a half by the time of the wedding 

    when I told my mom Fiance  asked me to move in, her response was “It’s about damn time!!!!”

    Post # 12
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    @lealorali:  Yes, and it was none of my parents business, and for about 2 years

    Post # 13
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    369 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    We will have lived together for about 3 years by the time we get married =) 

    Post # 14
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    556 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Nope. We were long distance and moved in together after we got married.

    Post # 15
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

    Yep, we made the decision to live together in April, made the actual move in July, got engaged in October, and got married a year later. I made it clear to Mr. LK that I would not move in together until he was absolutely sure that he wanted to marry me. It wasn’t a “test drive”, it was a 100% commitment that would be formalized within a short period of time. And since we wanted to start shopping for our forever home 6 months after moving in together, I also made it clear that there would be no home purchase without a ring, a date set, and deposits made. So the decision to move in together became the starting point for our timeline, and I knew that we would be engaged before the year was out (or I would be moving back into the house that I already owned, without Mr. LK). I was not interested in playing house, and, fortunately, he was on the same page.

    Edit: As adults supporting ourselves and making our own decisions, our families were not permitted a say in the matter. They know where our boundary lines are, and they know not to overstep them.

    Post # 16
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    Bumble bee

    @lealorali:  Our parents wouldn’t care but I personally think that if he wants to live with me, he wants to marry me. Thus I am waiting until we are officially engaged with a wedding date set.

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