Post # 32
We got approximatly 25% back, and all of our guests gifted cash. We were prepared to make 0% back however, and knew that we would have to save in order to afford the wedding. Each guest would have had to give us $300 in order for us to break even, though.
Also keep in mind that some of the guests will be having weddings themselves in the future, and you’ll have to “give back” what they gave you.
Post # 33
No, not even close. Most of our circle don’t give cash gifts.
Post # 34
We paid for the wedding completely by ourselves, which for the wedding alone (not counting honeymoon or rings) was about $12,500. My parents contributed a small amount and the inlaws gave a little too (which some of went towards the rehearsal dinner). Most people gave gifts, so its hard to quantify that, but if I had to guess, counting all gifts and money (including from parents) maybe $4-5K? I have no idea, but way less than half. We had 100 guests and a wonderful time. Unless its standard in your area or culture to receive huge cash gifts, don’t even count on getting back what you spent. Its just not going to happen.
Post # 35
I didn’t mean to stir the pot here.
I think this topic is more of regional/cultural thing that is talked about in my cirlce. The comment about the chinese cultural is close to what my family and friends do also.
I was just curious if people usually “wash out”.
Post # 36
In a dream land far far away we would make a profit. Very doubtful considering it is $150(including taxes and service charges) a person just for the reception. Add all the extras and we would need a good $200-300 to make a profit. FI’s parents also were appalled at how much a wedding in city costs versus the rural weddings for their daughters 5 years ago. Keeping that in mind I have no doubt that people will give $150 per couple thinking it will cover them both. Alas it is far from true…
Post # 37
@mg1363: Thank you for being diplomatic. I only said something when someone stated they were annoyed by my question. I think it was a valid question and I still maintain my opinion as constructive.
Post # 38
Of course no one gets married for the hopes of making a profit, that’s just crazy to ask someone if that’s the reason why they are getting married. But it’s a good question for those just curious if they’ll get some of that money back, maybe they’ll spend a little more on the meal or entertainment…..who knows.
Post # 39
I can’t say for sure for another 7 months but if I base our wedding off of my FBIL’s from a few years ago, we will more than likely turn a profit. FI’s family is very “what one gets, the other gets” and since I know how much they got from most of their side, I can sort of estimate what we’ll receive. My family, on the other hand, is VERY generous. I’m an only child and the only girl in my family (my only cousins are much younger). This is the only wedding my family will have for years so I assume they’ll probably go above and beyond (some already have).
We’re certainly not getting married to turn a profit but I don’t think anyone can argue that it wouldn’t be nice!
Post # 40
Not even close. DH and I actually came out almost exactly even after only OUR contribution to the wedding which was miscellaneous expenses, wedding party gifts, a portion of the Rehearsal Dinner cost and our honeymoon. That’s not even including the reception, ceremony, photographer, videographer, florist, DOC, etc.
Obviously we weren’t trying to profit, so it’s not a big disappointment, but that puts it into perspective at least.
Post # 41
My kids definitely did. I, however, did not. 🙂
Post # 43
our wedding will be under 8K so we arent really focused on the gifts we will get back, this is why we dont have a registry. I’ll give feed back once the wedding is over!
Post # 44
I don’t know anyone that has made a profit… I didn’t even know that was possible. I’m not expecting to get even a fourth of what we are spending (though I would obviously be thrilled if we ended up getting more).
Post # 45
My wedding cost ~$20,000 and we got a very generous $11,000 in cash. It was a profit to us, because my parents paid for 1/2 the wedding. We had about 135 guest.
Post # 46
I don’t even think we’ll get what we spent on the card box.