(Closed) Did you meet online? Does your family know?

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

We met on Match, and everyone knows by now. We never kept it a secret. I know couples that have married and met on Eharmony, Okcupid, and now us on Match. On our thank you blurb on the back on the program, I even put in small letters at the bottom “PS. Thank you Match!” and everyone thought it was great.

Are you just worried that people will make fun of you? It’s really not a big deal. SO many people meet online now…I don’t understand how some people think meeting in a bar is any better. But if you are worried, just let people know not to talk about it. Talk to the people making speeches and tell them you’re uncomfortable with them bringing it up and hopefully they will understand not to mention it.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

We lied to my dad about meeting online.

When we finally told him he was upset a bit but mostly because we hadnt told him sooner. He loves dh so it didn’t make a big difference anyways.

We ended up telling him while we were out for pizza. I said it sort of in a joke but then I said it was for real. He was kind of silent and said “Ok, you guys can’t get married” I was a bit shocked and then he said he was kidding lol.

edit: everyone else knew though

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Most ppl know that we met through Facebook, they actually think it’s cute. My dad does not know, well I don’t think he knows, if he does he hasn’t said anything about it, I haven’t flat out told him either.

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

We met online and never saw any reason not to tell the truth. There is nothing wrong with meeting online. Our paths would never have crossed otherwise.

You likely could get away with fessing up that you connected online but your first face to face meeting was at party?

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Yes we met online, at the time we didn’t tell anyone because we were not in a ‘serious’ relationship so it didn’t seem worth the bother.

Now that we are married it would be awkward to back-track and say – “oh ok, actually we met online!” If people ask we just give a vague answer about meeting on a “night out”.  

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

We met on OKcupid. At first we were really vague about it. My immediate family knew I met him there, his parents assumed we met through mutual friends, some of his friends knew it was online but thought it was something like eHarmony. A lot of people actually thought we met on World of Warcraft since we both play 🙂 

I think by now everyone knows the real story of how we met. Of course they don’t know that he had plans for it to just be a hookup, and I was still pining over my ex at the time…lol, but no one really needs to know that 😉

Post # 9
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689 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Everyone definitely knows- its hard not too when I lived in MO and he lived in NY. We didn’t meet on a dating site though, we met through a video game.

Post # 10
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215 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Me and my Fiance met on okcupid back in 09. We never kept it a secret. Mainly because of had experienced lying to people in the past about how I’d met boyfriends online and it always came out anyway. Especially now,.it’s very common to meet people online. It’s not just weird peopleonline anymore.

Post # 11
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622 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011 - Vandiver Inn

Yes, we met online. And honestly, we just told people. It was so much simpler that way. Of course I had my last marriage to thank for that revelation. We had also met online but I had lied to my parents about it. It got harder and harder to remember not to tell them the truth, so finally I ended up caving and telling them we’d been less than honest about it. It was such a huge relief. And I’m glad I never put myself in that position again.

I don’t think it’s too awkward to come clean. You’re all adults and you can explain that you weren’t sure how everyone would take the news so you weren’t planning on telling people. Once it’s done, then you’ll never have to worry about it again. That’s the best part.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

We met online and everyone (who wants to know) knows.  We never saw any reason to hide it, it is part of our story of who we are!  Of course, my older brother met his wife online, and that was just before I met my SO.

Post # 13
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573 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I don’t think meeting online has the same reputation as it used to. My brother and one of my cousins both met their girlfriends on Match and they are both in great relationships. My cousin had been with his girlfriend for over 2 years and are heading towards marriage and my brother has been with his girlfriend for over a year and I hope they head towards marriage one day (love her!).

I don’t really think it matters how people met. What matters is the relationship and how they treat each other.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

We met on JDate! We’re not embarrassed…in fact, we encouraged a lot of our friends to join and a few have even met their SOs on there. I don’t think there’s anything to be embarrassed about. It’s definitely becoming a far more common way for couples to meet. Plus, we wouldn’t have met without it!

A good friend of mine lied to her mom about it for the longest time because she was afraid her mom would judge her for the stigma of online dating. When she finally came clean, her mom was excited–she wanted to tell all her friends to tell their sons and daughters about her daughter’s success so they could try it, too!

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

we met on Eharmony. My parents are very traditional so Ididnt tell them right off. They know now but my Mom tells people we met thru other friends lol. Anyone whose asked we tell

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

We are in the same boat. I am not embarrased we met online but it just something I do not want to share with the entire world. My close friends know and his family knows. My parents do not know because they are from the Haiti and would never understand the entire idea of online dating. You can say you guys meet at a social media party which is not a complete lie.

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