(Closed) did you memorize your personal vows?

posted 5 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I had every intention of reciting them from memory but when the time came I was too overwhelmed emotionally and had to read them off a note card.  

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Nope. I wrote them a few days before and kept them as my ‘something blue’

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@chickiebee:  I think it’s great to read them aloud a number of times so that you’re able to recite them smoothly when the time comes.  However, I’d advocate having a written copy.  I’m planning to print my vows on a file card or two because I know that I’ll be so nervous and excited that I want to have a written copy to fall back on.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’ve always thought that it seemed more romantic and special to look into your partner’s eyes when you’re saying your vows, so I would try to memorize them. If you can’t remember, bring your notecard along! It can’t hurt to have a back-up plan.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

We didn’t memorize our vows. We wrote our own (with some inspiration from vows already written), but it was somewhat structured in a traditional way.  And we chose to have our officiant do the “repeat after me”, because we didn’t want the stress of having to remember, and we didn’t want to hold a piece of paper.  We held hands and were able to focus on each other’s eyes while we repeated after the officiant the vows that we had chosen/written.  (PS – some were our words, some we picked from vows we had found on-line that said what we wanted to say).

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

We wrote our own vows, and had the officiant say them line by line, and we repeated them into the mic. No one could hear the officiant except us. We were able to look into each other’s eyes and hold hands through the entire ceremony.

 

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I have a really great memory, but I’ll definitely write mine down on a cute little notebook and bring them with me, lest I break down into an emotional, crying mess and forget everything. I’ll definitely familiarize myself with them so I can make as much eye contact with FI as possible.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I created ‘vow cards’ for DH, and I. I printed mine out a week in advance, and glued them to the backing, but DH wrote his out, and had to bug the venue for tape so he could tape them to his, lol.

Post # 11
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

There’s no way I would have remembered mine. By the time we were at that part of the ceremony I was so emotional and trying not to squeak when speaking! We printed ours and our Best Man held onto them until we needed them. Our officiant recommended reading them, we still held one hand anyway.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012 - Mother of the Bride's residence

Mr. D had his down pretty good, though he still looked at his piece of paper. Mine were really, really long, so I pretty much gave up and just read off the card, haha!

Post # 13
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Bumble bee

@chickiebee:  I finished my vows the night before the wedding and read them at the ceremony. I’d likely forget them when standing at the altar anyway! 😛

DH had written a song that he had a friend hold out for him to read and sing while playing his guitar.

I don’t think you guys need to worry about memorizing your vows 🙂

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Nope, definitely didn’t memorize them. My heart was pounding so hard, I don’t think I could’be remembered them if I wanted to! 

I liked having a paper with them written down though – I’ll get to keep it forever 🙂

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

we did our vow exchange before the ceremony and handed them to each other around a corner.  It made for great photos.  We realized at that last minute that there was no way we could say them out loud in front of everyone because we both are horrible at speaking in front of people….. plus with all the emotions of the day etc… we opted to do it before hand.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I couldn’t memorize. That said, I like to see something like a little book or like the PP used a board vs a piece of paper.

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