Post # 1
This topic came up on another thread and I was curious to know if anyone else didnt get an engagement party or bridal shower?
I have been engaged for over year already with absolutely no love from my family or friends. I have even tried to hint how much I would love an engagment party or bridal shower with no responses from them.
I wonder how common this is….
Anyone else feel left out? 🙁
Post # 3
We didn’t get an engagement party and I highly doubt I’m going to get a bridal shower either (family not that into wedding planning). However I am getting a kick ass bachelorette party from my lovely friends so I guess that helps a bit.
Post # 4
We didn’t most people are out of town and it would be hard to organize this and so when I was asked I said that I didn’t want one because I thought it was asking too much of my friends to travel for an Engagement Party and a wedding in the same year!
Post # 5
It never occurred to me to want an engagement party. None of my friends who’ve been married had one or asked for one. I don’t think it’s as customary as a bridal shower or bachelorette party. What’s the point?
Post # 6
We did not have an engagement party – FI’s whole family lives in MI, mine live in PA so it didn’t really make sense. We are having 2 showers though, so to me that totally makes up for it!
Post # 7
Since my Darling Husband and I lived in another state, we didn’t get an engagement party or a bridal shower. That kinda stunk, but we tried to make up for it by hosting a really nice rehearsal dinner for everyone.
Post # 8
Weddings around here are a big deal. Whenever someone gets engaged/married its always a big to do. I am the last one of my friends to get married and have been engaged for a year already.. I threw all the parties for my friends, but no one is returning the favor. I am totally not trying to sound selfish or whiny, just feeling a little shunned.
The topic came up in another thread, Just curious.
Post # 9
We threw ourselves one. It was an engagement/going away party.
Post # 10
My fiance’s family would ahve planned one (they surprised his brother with one when they got married)..but we told them we didnt’ want one…we didn’t want people spending the money traveling if they were going to just have to do it again for the wedding…Bridal Shower..yes! My bridal party is putting that together!
Post # 11
we didn’t have an e-party, but my mom planned an e-dinner. Just his immediate family and mine….nothing too extravagant, just at a nice restaurant and a way for the 2 families to “celebrate” our engagement. it was a year after our engagement, but whatevs.
i’m sorry you are feeling like this, maybe you and your Fiance could just organize a laid back dinner/brunch of sorts yourselves? nothing big. i bet you’ll be surprised how many people would be excited and on board! Maybe its just the “planning” and expectations of a big party that is swaying your fam/friends from throwing you one. (?)
((( HUGS )))
Post # 12
We didn’t have an engagement party, and no plans for a bridal shower either. With everyone spread so far across the country, it just wasn’t practical. It does make me a little sad, but I completely understand why. My FI’s cousin and sister did take us out to lunch after we got engaged though, so at least that was nice.
Post # 13
We did, but I know plenty of people who never had one. I come from a huge Italian family and I am the only girl so my family went a little more overboard than most.
Post # 14
- Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas
No engagement party here! It’s actually not very common around these parts…I had never heard of engagement parties until I joined weddingbee!
Post # 15
I was a little surprised to read “get” an engagement party? I didn’t think it was something someone was supposed to through for you! We didn’t have one since both of our families and ALL of our closest friends live in different states. I only know a handful of people that had proper engagement parties (more than just friends meeting up at a bar one night), and they were all self-hosted.
Post # 16
We didn’t have or want an engagement party. I probably won’t have a bridal shower either and I’m completely fine with that.
Isn’t an engagement party something you throw for yourself anyway?