Post # 16
I should have called off my wedding! I instead married him and spent five miserable years with the wrong man who also happened to be abusive and adulterous. I was 31 when i left him and three years later met my soulmate and now husband. I believe that you will find the right person to spend forever with. Sometimes life doesn’t look the way we pictured it in our minds but true love and happiness is not something that has an expiration on it.
Post # 17
My good friend was with a man for over 8 years and they were engaged, when she found out he had been sleeping with another (married) woman. This guy ran off with the married woman, and my friend had to personally call her vendors and guests and cancel her entire wedding. As an added “bonus”: her little sister and her ex-fiance’s little brother were, and still are, dating! Luckily, the brother is not close with the jerk. My friend met a wonderful new guy and is very happy with him now. Trust in your instincts – and trust that you’ll find the right guy!
Post # 18
One of my friends called off her wedding like a month before the wedding. she started dating someone new a couple months later and is so much happier now! 🙂 i ended a serious relationship and started dating my Darling Husband about 3 months after. You WILL find the right person!
Post # 19
One of my best friends called off her wedding two weeks before the wedding. She now has two kids, two dogs and a beautiful house with her Fiance and I am in her wedding in less than a month!
The guy she left is also happily engaged so they are both happy.
Keep your chin up bee!
Post # 20
I broke my previous engagement; we were to be married in February 2012, but I ended it in August 2011. I had already bought my dress, and had paid $6,000 of my own money for a deposit on our venue. I loved him, but he refused to stand up to his ex-wife, to the point of giving her priority over me. I forgave him for major digressions twice, but the third time was a deal breaker for me. It was very, very hard to do, but definitely for the best.
I met my current Fiance in December 2012, and everything has been great ever since!
Do what you need to do for yourself now, and the future will take care of itself.
Post # 21
Happy update, bees!
A year after I broke my engagement, and many failed dating stories later, a friend of mine set me up with a friend of hers who had JUST gotten out of a relationship after realizing she just wasn’t The One. Our first date was 10 hours long, at the end of which he was so respectful and didn’t even try to kiss me. Things progressed rapidly, and he was essentially moved in within two months. Now, seven months later, our mutual friends tell me he is tossing around proposal ideas and it will likely happen before June (our one year mark). I am so happy. You bees were so right. DID find him! Well, he was found for me, haha. If anyone reading this is having the same doubts I had about a bad relationship, and is feeling scared like I was when I broke my engagement with my ex, you can add my story to those happy endings already on this thread. I hope they give you strength 🙂
Post # 22
My cousin called off one wedding and ended up getting married to her husband like 5 years later. Everything turned out great for her and they are very happy with a toddler! I can’t even imagine how you’re feeling now but I do believe things will work out for you 🙂 Follow your gut and don’t feel like you’re being forced into a marriage just because you feel you’re “running out of time”. It’s not worth it if you know it’s not right to begin with.
Edit: Oops, just saw your update and realized this was a year ago! So happy things worked out for you OP 🙂
Post # 23
I did. Broke off an engagement five months before the wedding. He was my first boyfriend, we lived together and I truly thought my life was over and I’d never find love again. I met my now husband about a year later and believe that breakup happened for a reason (and looking back, thank GOD I didn’t marry my ex).
Post # 24
angel2206 : I DID! I was with one guy for 6 years – engaged, and everything was set for the wedding (dress, ceremony, wedding party, photographer, reception). We were to be married June 30. On Dec 4 I broke up with him. He was emotionally and physically abusive and in the past I’d always made excuses, but now that we were engaged I was done with my excuses.
Soon afterwards I started seeing a great guy who I’d met in university. We got engaged in July (yes, 1 month after I was supposed to get married!), and married the next June. We’re still madly in love 25 years later.
Post # 25
A very good friend of mine found out her fiancé was cheating on her and called off the wedding immediately. It’s been just one year but she is now dating someone she seems to like a lot and is very happy. I can’t say if her new boyfriend is the love of her life yet, but I do think she is better off than if she had stayed with the cheater!
Post # 26
- Wedding: June 2018 - Tizer Gardens/Carroll College
I called off my engagement after 5 months of being engaged. Almost a year to the day we were supposed to be married. If I had married him, I wouldn’t have my wonderful life now. I would have been stuck in my home town, with a guy who refused to put in a decent day’s work (because living off SS and selling drugs was easier – I didn’t know about the drugs). I would be either divorced, or widowed by now, and stuck paying for his mountains of medical bills.
I don’t regret ending our engagement one bit. He wasn’t a partner for me, he was a leech. Worse, I really only stayed in the relationship because I didn’t want to break his heart, and in the meantime, put myself into a great depression, and started an unhealthy relationship with food – which I still haven’t fully managed to contain.
There’re worse things than being single – most, feeling lonely when you are supposed to be with your life partner in crime. Each time March 12th rolls around, I celebrate the life I have, not the life I could have had. One day, you will too.
Post # 27
I was 2 months shy of getting married to my sons Dad. I knew all along he was not what I wanted but went along with the motions. I couldn’t take it anymore, and broke it off. It was not easy, and I felt terrible for a while. Mostly because I thought I let the family down. But it was the best choice for me! We didn’t like each other! We have both since moved on, and have a pretty good co-parent relationship. I am engaged, and have been with my fiancé for 8 years. I couldn’t imagine my life with anyone else! He is my perfect match, and I have never doubted my decisions.
Post # 28
I’m very sorry to hear you are going through this, but trust me, if you felt in your gut that you couldn’t spend the rest of your life with this person, then you did the right thing. Being happy is more imporant than just being with someone. And you are still young and you will get to have all of those things you want once you meet the one. I was 27 when I ended my engagement. It was heartbreaking, but I had to do it. He was definitely the wrong person for me. I, too, thought I’d never meet anyone again and find love and marriage with the perfect person. I was so discouraged too from dating guys that went nowhere. Then at 31, I met the love of my life! Long story short, we fell in love, moved in together, got engaged, got married, and have a very happy family life now. So yes, it worked out for me and it will work out for you too! Don’t settle. The right one is still out there. 🙂
Post # 29
- Wedding: July 2017 - The Lodge at Little Seneca Creek
I called off my first engagement when I was 25. A few months after I started dating again, I reached out to a childhood friend. We reconnected and started dating, and now we’re happily engaged!
Post # 30
So happy for you, OP! Hope everything works out the way you want it to! I made the mistake of not calling off an engagement when I should have. There were major red flags along the way that I was just too dumb to recognize. I kept telling myself things would change after we got married. Huge mistake! Needless to say the marriage was a complete disaster. You definitey showed good judgment!