Post # 1
Curious… are you wearing your veil over your face? For how long & who will lift it?
Im not sure if I want to wear my veil over my face for the whole ceremony but Im going to ask Fiance if he would like to lift it & if that really appeals to him I will.
I know the options are father do it or hand bouquet to Maid/Matron of Honor & then you do it.
My mom said her Maid/Matron of Honor actually lifted her veil.
If I dont wear my veil for the whole time I dont know who will lift it. I am not close to my dad at all & even though he may be attending the ceremony Im having my brother walk me down the isle so I suppose he could do it.
Though what would be really special to me is if my mother does it. She is my best friend & my Maid/Matron of Honor. Would it be weird if she did it then I handed her my bouquet?
Post # 2
- Wedding: November 2016 - Garden
Well I’m not close to my father either and he is coming to my cermeony too. Everyone thinks its best for the father to walk me down the aisle because its tradition. But I honestly don’t want him there or my older sister. They start stuff too much. It’s annoying. So maybe I’ll let them come and sit like the rest of the audience and let someone else walk me down instead. I wanted my mother to do it but shes all about tradition. So I’m with you I’ll just not wear a veil over my head.
I wanted actually for my FH to lift it up and kiss me after exchanging rings but he won’t see me saying my vows becasue of the veil in the way. That is a disadvantage. Though then again the veil will cover your tears if you want to cry haha. Still deciding. :/
Hope you make a decision that fits best for you Bee! Your wedding will be perfect whichever you decide regardless becasue its all about you!!
Post # 3
I would rather my dad not come at all because I know if he does come to the ceremony it will just be because he feels he has to & not because he wants to. Im definiately not inviting him to the reception though. Hes not very social & he would just rudely drag my brother away to a corner & gab to him the whole time.
Im pretty sure I want to do the veil over my face its just deciding who will lift it. At first I was going back & forth with the idea of a veil, nothing or something else but a veil you can only wear as a bride. I really want that bridal feeling & since Im doing the veil I might as well go all in with it lol.
Post # 4
- Wedding: January 2016 - The Great Southern Club
I think either your Maid/Matron of Honor or your brother could lift it. i wouldn’t find either weird if i were at a wedding where that happened. i wouldn’t want to wear it over my head the entire time because i would want a clear view of my fiance 😀 whatever you decide will be fine, it is your day you do it the way you want!!
Post # 5
Is someone walking you down the aisle? Maybe that person can lift the veil when you g t to the end of the aisle before you go to your fiancé.
Or if you are walking alone, you could stop where your mother is and she can lift the veil and give you a kiss before you make it to the end of the aisle.
Post # 6
The traditional thing to do is for your husband to do it after they announce you man and wife. Like the white dress, having your face covered is supposed to be a representation of your innocense, like you have never been “seen” before. So I totally get not wanting to wear it the whole time, but cmsidering what the veil means, to me it’s kind of odd to have anyone other than your Fiance do it. I could see having someone help him I guess, if it’s a long veil and you want to wear it down the aisle. But hey, it’s your wedding. Do whatever will make you the happiest. 🙂
Post # 7
tiffany7: have you tried one on yet? I considered a blusher until I actually tried wearing one at the bridal store – it was annoying as all hell. I couldn’t stand it. I would see if it bothers you to have fabric in your face first and then decide to be honest.
Post # 8
I second the previous poster who asked if you tried one on. I wasn’t too crazy with how my veil looked when it covered my face, but I’m warming up to the idea of wearing it coming out of the bottom/back of my updo. I’ll make my decision when I have a hair trial.
Traditionally the veil stays on until you are pronounced husband and wife but it’s your wedding- do whatever the heck you want. Your brother could do it after the aisle walk. Your mom’s your best friend and you want her to do it- I say go for it!
Post # 9
My Fiance will do it- part of Jewish wedding tradition, and I think it’s one of the most beautiful parts of the ceremony.
Post # 10
we are jewish, and though is tradition to cover the face and then lift it (to make sure you are marrying the correct person). i did not have my veil over my face at all, nor did i want to.
you can do whatever you want.
Post # 11
sdqgirl: My brother is walking me down the isle. I mentioned he could do it but I would kind of prefer my mom doing it. She is my Maid/Matron of Honor. Thought maybe she could do it then I could hand her my bouquet.
LilliV: I bought the veil with the blusher option not really considering using it but no Ive not actually tried it on to see how it feels.
Post # 12
I like that idea! It’ll make for a very sweet picture
Post # 13
I think having your mom lift your veil would be lovely 🙂
I wore a blusher just for the walk from the limo to the aisle then down. My dad walked me down, I have a good relationship with both of my parents but I’m a little closer to my dad. Then I handed my bouquet to one of my two MOHs, then lifted my veil myself. I liked the tradition of walking down the aisle with my dad with a pretty blusher, but I knew I wouldn’t want it over my face for long, and felt like lifting it myself was a good way to assert my independence.
Post # 14
So I tried on the veil & I think it will be fine with the blusher in front of my face. I dont think I want to wear it other than walking down the isle though. Ill probably have my mom lift it then hand her my bouquet unless Fiance REALLY wants to do it. If he does though Id just worry about seeing to read my vows lol.
Also want to see what it looks like down with my dress.
Post # 15
I’ve never actually been to a wedding where this has been done but I think it would so sweet and romantic!
I remember – to this day – watching Days of Our Lives at my babysitter’s house – Hope was supposed to marry some guy she didn’t want to marry. The groom lifted the veil and everyone saw it wasn’t Hope, but an old man. The next scene showed Hope driving away with Bo on his motorcycle. It was, to my 7 year old brain, the most amazing thing I had ever seen!