Post # 1
Since I seem to be thinking about names today, much better than crying all day yesterday from feeling overwhelmed and like a failure.
Did anyone not share the names they picked up after the baby was born? Is anyone planning on doing this?
I don’t want to pick a name and if I say something to family and friends and they have negative things to say about it, I know I’ll be upset. But if I wait until the baby is born then it’s hard to tell this precious newborn that you don’t like their name. I just feel like names are something, at least in my circle, that everyone gives their 2 cents on even if it’s not wanted.
Post # 3
Yes we are planning on keeping our chosen names to ourselves until we actualy have a baby, (we are nowhere near TTC). I agree with you that I don’t want people’s negative input on the name and don’t want thei opinions to color our opinions.
We did think it would be funny to have decoy names that were totally ridiculous just to see people’s reaction.
Post # 4
My sister has kept the names of all her kids secret and my brother kept his son’s name kinda secret. Darling Husband and I don’t really care who knows the names we like, but we probably won’t be calling the baby by the name we’ve picked either, just because we want to be free to change our minds last minute! We’ll probably just let people know what names we are thinking of. Their input doesn’t matter really. I mean so what if my aunt knows a guy at work by that name that annoys her?
My sister is way too secretive, she wants to talk about names all the time and ask for suggestions but won’t even hint to whether she likes your suggestion or not. Makes baby name talk very boring. I mean, no one cares THAT much. Then when the babies were born it was a little anticlimactic to hear their names. It really bothers me hahaha
Don’t share your baby names if you don’t want. But I think for the most part if you say it’s the name you’ve chosen and you’re not changing your mind, people are unlikely to say something mean about it.
@Meowkers My brother did that, he had a new ridiculous name for the baby every time you talked to him, it was pretty fun.
Post # 5
We kept the names for both our girls secret until they were born. You are right- it makes it much harder to criticize when they are staring at your newborn!
Post # 6
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Yes, definitely. Darling Husband and I aren’t TTC yet, but we’re already thinking about names, and we don’t want other people’s opinions. Our families are especially opinionated, and they’ve let other family members know that they don’t like baby names that they’re considering (let’s just say my cousin probably won’t be naming her new baby Finn when he arrives in a few weeks). What we name our child is a personal decision between us, and it’s already enough to have to get two people to agree on one name. If others don’t like what we choose, well, then we’re hoping that they have enough tact to keep their mouths shut because they won’t know the name until we’ve already named the baby that.
Post # 7
We are not telling anyone our chosen names until after the baby is born and that is its name! We don’t want anyone’s opinions.
Post # 8
We talked some about names with family/friends once we had finalized our choices just between the two of us, but I didn’t care much about criticisms. Most criticisms are personal feelings, anyway, so I don’t really care if someone didn’t like our name choices. We also didn’t find out the sex until birth, so there was still an element of surprise after the baby was born.
Post # 9
We’re keeping the name a secret – that way I don’t have to deal with people making rude comments. Plus, since we’re finding out the gender, it will be a little element of surprise for our families when the baby does make its grand debut.
Post # 10
I think we’ll talk about the names that we are mulling over with friends and family, but I doubt we’ll actually know which name we’ll choose until we see him. If we suddenly have the name and know we aren’t changing it, then I don’t really think it should matter if they know; at that point I wouldn’t care how anyone else felt about it and they could say what they wanted.
Post # 11
I’m not sure! My husband really wants to keep it a secret– his brother did. I am not sure I want to keep it a secret– my brother did not, and I liked knowing the name ahead of time.
The big difference is how our families react. My family would NEVER criticize a name openly. When my brother told us the name, my mom and I chatted with each other about it, but it was more like ‘Oh, that will be a cute name, and oh, it’s a popular name, but they love it so it will be ok.” No one was negative, and we never said anything except positive things to my brother.
My husband’s family is very critical and opinionated. They have no problem telling you if they don’t like a name.
So I’m wondering if we’d be able to keep the name a secret from everyone, but share it with my parents …
The only other thing is that I may have a friend that is about 6-7 weeks behind me in her pregnancy. I told her that one of the names I really liked was a family name and I’d always wanted to name a daughter that but now it is a popular name so I’m not sure. She told me she liked that name too. So if we do decide to use that name, I’m not sure if we should “announce” it or not. My fear is that we plan on using that name but we keep it a secret until the birth. And she plans on using that name and announces way before me. It’s a family name for me, so I’d still probably use it, but I know my husband would be conflicted.
Post # 12
I plan on keeping both the name and sex a secret, but the problem is I don’t think my Darling Husband is physically capable of keeping secrets so I’m worried. We swore to each other that we wouldn’t tell a soul about our apartment that we’re in contract to purchase but Darling Husband could NOT keep it to himself and has told almost everyone we know. So I’m not sure how to keep him from telling everyone the name and sex without keeping it a secret from HIM!
Post # 13
I kind of wish I had since I have gotten some negative feedback. I wish people could just smile and nod when they don’t like or “get” the name!!
Oh, and the name we chose is not all that complicated! It is Briar Ann.
Post # 14
@heathaah: I’ve said it before, but Briar is one of my favorites. 🙂 I REALLY wanted to use it for a boy (spelled Brier), but my husband was pretty dead set against it. Meh, I still love that name, and would definitely use it if he ever changed his mind!
Post # 15
Glad I’m not alone. I just have a feeling that when we tell our families that we are keeping it a secret they will keep bugging us about it so I think I am going to have to come up with some names just as a decoy lol. I just hate having everyone’s two cents about people they knew that were annoying or even died (MIL is a nurse). I watched a friend recently change the name that she has wanted for her daughter for as long as I knew her juust because of such negative feedback, and the name was very pretty.
@heathaah- What a pretty name!
Post # 16
I would definitely keep it a secret. My FI’s brother did that when both of his children were born, but not so much out of hearing critisms but rather a fear that there would be a miscarriage or complications – it would just make the situation that much harder. He asked us opinions of about 3 or 4 names, but we didn’t know the actual name until the babies were born.