(Closed) Did you (or will you) officially live together before your wedding?

posted 10 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Did you (or do you) and your FI live together before you were married?

    Yes. We got a place and moved in together (or one of us moved into the other's home).

    No. We lived/will live totally separately until the wedding (except for occasional overnight visits)

    Kinda. We maintain/maintained separate residences, but pretty much lived together in one of them.

    Other (please explain).

  • Post # 61
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    Helper bee

    We are looking to buy houses now (well, he is, I will move in/pay for things later). I will not move in until I have the ring (we all know it’s coming). It’s more as a moral thing. I am not super super religious but I feel like my dad’s family would appreciate that.  Plus I have heard horror stories of girls moving in before engagement and the guy just getting comfortable and not proposing for a LONG time.  Not that this is always the case, but I am trying to prevent that from even becoming an option! I used to think that I would definitely live together first, and there are good reasons for that for sure, but I feel like this is one thing that I want to do for myself.

    Post # 62
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    3376 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    We’ve been together for about 3 1/2 years, living together a little over a year.  Not engaged yet, but expecting it *any time now* Smile I’m really glad that we decided to live together – I don’t always deal well with change, and moving in together was a big adjustment for me.  Now that we’ve adjusted and are used to each other’s little quirks, it’s wonderful having him here and knowing that even on our super busy, horrible days, we can come home and have dinner together and cuddle on the couch.  I wouldn’t want to be going through that adjustment right after our wedding – I’m going to want to enjoy being a newlywed!

    Post # 63
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    7298 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    living together.

    Post # 64
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    1001 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    We moved in together after dating two years.  We started looking at houses right before we got engaged, but we didn’t buy until after the ring was on my hand.

    My husband is the easist person to live with.  The transition was like nothing.

    Post # 65
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    1115 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    We moved in together after we got engaged. We had been together for 3 years at that point.

    We were engaged/living together for about 2 years before the wedding.

    Post # 66
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    10283 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    We have been together for more than 5 years and have lived together for more than 4. We have had joint finances for about 3 years. We’re already as married as two people can be without it being legally binding. The wedding is pretty much just a formality. 

    Alot of people choose to not live with their SO’s before marriage but I couldn’t imagine that. I know from experience that dating someone and living with them are two very different things. IMO its important to live together before marriage so that you really know the person your going to spend the rest of your life with.

    Every couple I know with the exception of one of my best friends (for religious reasons) either currently lives together and is unmarried or did “shack up” before their wedding. 

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