Post # 1
http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/anyones-so-not-like-their-dress <– This thread got me wondering, how many bees asked for their FI’s input on dresses?
I know it’s tradition for the groom to see you in your dress for the first time at the ceremony. Some might even believe it’s bad luck for the groom to see the bride in her dress beforehand. Did you or would you let him see you in the dress before the wedding? Did you or would you ever show your Fiance a picture of you in the dress? Or even just a picture of the dress itself?
I’m dying to ask my FI’s opinion, especially because I’m so unsure about the dress I bought, but I really want him to be surprised when he sees me all decked out with my hair and makeup and everything. Right now I’m agonizing over whether I should show him a picture or not! He wants to see, but I don’t know if I should let him!! Tell me what you did!
Post # 3
I’ve had my Fiance flip through bridal magazines with me and give me opinions of the dresses in there to get an idea of things he likes/doesn’t like.
I’d never show him a picture of me in the dress (or show him the actual dress) before our wedding day.
If I came across a picture of “my dress” in a magazine, I’d ask him his opinion, but only if I was flipping through a bunch of dresses to get his opinion.
Post # 4
I have asked my FI’s opinion on dresses in general, like when I’m wating SYTD to get an idea of the kinds of things he does and doesn’t like. But he is serious about not seeing my dress before I walk down the aisle and he insists that whatever I’m wearing on our wedding day will be amazing because I’m the one wearing it.
Post # 5
nope! i want him to be totally surprised. i generally know what he likes though, so i’m not worried at all.
Post # 6
The only thing that my Fiance knows about my dress is that it is poofy 🙂
Post # 7
I’ve been showing him the pictures! He says I should do what I want, but I keep wondering if he has preferences that he’s not sharing.
Post # 8
I was tempted to but then I realized that I couldn’t even tell what dresses would look good on me from pics in a magazine so there was no way he could. I’d have to show him in person and I didn’t want to do that. Plus, when you add in the veil and accessories and all that stuff I’d be able to figure out that stuff better. And I donno, I feel like most guys (or at least mine) is a bigger picture fellow. He appreciates when I get myself all put together but I don’t think he has any desire or really practice in figuring out all the details so I just decided if I think I look good and he’s been happy with the way I look so far he’ll be happy with what I put together for our wedding day.
Post # 9
I was tempted to show my Fiance when I was torn between two dresses but I’m glad I decided not to. Boys are usually pretty terrible about envisioning the entire look. If you show him a pic of you with no makeup/ponytail in a perfect dress he might not like it and if you show him a pic of a model in your dress I bet he will have no idea what it will look like on you. I think at worst he’ll discourage you from going with what you love (for ex the girls who come on here worrying that their Fiance said he doesn’t like ivory dresses).
Post # 10
well my fi is very opinionated so i showed him a bunch of pictures of dresses and asked him what he did and did not like. i also was watching say yes to the dress one day and he started talking about how he likes the simpler dresses and the ones with all the bling are ‘just not me’. hes right:) i ended up with a simpler dress and i cant wait to walk down the aisle in it!
Post # 11
I wanted my FI’s opinion, but he won’t let me show him anything. When I tried to show him a pic, he closed he eyes and turned his head. He said he doesn’t want to know anything about my dress until he sees me approaching him walking down the aisle. At first, I was a little annoyed because I really honor his opinion and I was stuck between 2-3 dresses, but the more I thought about it, the more I realized how unbelievably sweet it is of him. He’s more old-fashioned than I thought and I love it!
Post # 11
My Fiance has seen pictures of me in two of the dresses I bought (I bought a third last night!) and they are hanging in our bedroom. He doesn’t know which one I’m wearing and we actually sat in bed last night talking about them.
Post # 12
My Fiance hasn’t seen my dress and he doesn’t know anything about it except that it is ivory and strapless (i.e. most dresses haha). But, before I ever went shopping I had him look at some dresses online with me so I could get a feel for what he likes and doesn’t like. We discovered that he likes sweetheart necklines (boobs! lol) and he likes bling. I didn’t tell him whether or not I went with what he likes, but I wanted to know if he like, totally hates something.
Post # 13
i keep telling him little things here or there, especially when watching SYTTD. im like “oh that top kind of looks like mine” and he covers his ears! really…he doenst want to know anything. he wants to be surprised. i told him we need to go look at tuxes and he tole me he doesnt want me to go 🙁 haha which is fine, its the only thing he really gets full reign of. but i guess he wants me to be just as surprised on the wedding day as him. i think its kind of sweet. but i tell him everything, i cant help but let things slip about the dress.
Post # 14
I refuse to show Fiance ANY pictures of me in a wedding dress (including from when I tried on my mom’s!), but I have showed him tons of pics of just the dresses, including the one I thought I was going to get for almost a full year, and later the sketch I did of the one I plan to have made for me.
Post # 15
I asked, more like BEGGED my fiance to help me choose a wedding dress. It turned out that I got 2 dresses and I was beside myself as to which one to choose. However, the begging didn’t work. He refused to look at pictures on me or the model. He said, whatever you choose I will love…