(Closed) Did you or would you ask for FI’s opinion on dresses?

posted 7 years ago in Dress
  • poll: Did you or would you let him see the dress?
    Yes, he saw me in the dress itself! : (19 votes)
    13 %
    Yes, I showed him a picture of me in the dress. : (12 votes)
    8 %
    Yes, I showed him a picture of the dress, but not of me in it. : (20 votes)
    14 %
    No, I didn't let him see anything until our wedding day! : (76 votes)
    52 %
    Other, I will explain below. : (20 votes)
    14 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I’ve had my Fiance flip through bridal magazines with me and give me opinions of the dresses in there to get an idea of things he likes/doesn’t like.

    I’d never show him a picture of me in the dress (or show him the actual dress) before our wedding day.

    If I came across a picture of “my dress” in a magazine, I’d ask him his opinion, but only if I was flipping through a bunch of dresses to get his opinion.

    Post # 4
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    1498 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I have asked my FI’s opinion on dresses in general, like when I’m wating SYTD to get an idea of the kinds of things he does and doesn’t like.  But he is serious about not seeing my dress before I walk down the aisle and he insists that whatever I’m wearing on our wedding day will be amazing because I’m the one wearing it.

    Post # 5
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    nope! i want him to be totally surprised. i generally know what he likes though, so i’m not worried at all.

    Post # 6
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    8353 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2011

    The only thing that my Fiance knows about my dress is that it is poofy 🙂

    Post # 7
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I’ve been showing him the pictures!  He says I should do what I want, but I keep wondering if he has preferences that he’s not sharing.

    Post # 8
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    2821 posts
    Sugar bee

    I was tempted to but then I realized that I couldn’t even tell what dresses would look good on me from pics in a magazine so there was no way he could.  I’d have to show him in person and I didn’t want to do that.  Plus, when you add in the veil and accessories and all that stuff I’d be able to figure out that stuff better.  And I donno, I feel like most guys (or at least mine) is a bigger picture fellow.  He appreciates when I get myself all put together but I don’t think he has any desire or really practice in figuring out all the details so I just decided if I think I look good and he’s been happy with the way I look so far he’ll be happy with what I put together for our wedding day.

    Post # 9
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I was tempted to show my Fiance when I was torn between two dresses but I’m glad I decided not to. Boys are usually pretty terrible about envisioning the entire look. If you show him a pic of you with no makeup/ponytail in a perfect dress he might not like it and if you show him a pic of a model in your dress I bet he will have no idea what it will look like on you. I think at worst he’ll discourage you from going with what you love (for ex the girls who come on here worrying that their Fiance said he doesn’t like ivory dresses).

    Post # 10
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    well my fi is very opinionated so i showed him a bunch of pictures of dresses and asked him what he did and did not like. i also was watching say yes to the dress one day and he started talking about how he likes the simpler dresses and the ones with all the bling are ‘just not me’. hes right:) i ended up with a simpler dress and i cant wait to walk down the aisle in it!

    Post # 11
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I wanted my FI’s opinion, but he won’t let me show him anything.  When I tried to show him a pic, he closed he eyes and turned his head.  He said he doesn’t want to know anything about my dress until he sees me approaching him walking down the aisle.  At first, I was a little annoyed because I really honor his opinion and I was stuck between 2-3 dresses, but the more I thought about it, the more I realized how unbelievably sweet it is of him. He’s more old-fashioned than I thought and I love it! 

    Post # 11
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    My Fiance has seen pictures of me in two of the dresses I bought (I bought a third last night!) and they are hanging in our bedroom. He doesn’t know which one I’m wearing and we actually sat in bed last night talking about them.

    Post # 12
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    My Fiance hasn’t seen my dress and he doesn’t know anything about it except that it is ivory and strapless (i.e. most dresses haha). But, before I ever went shopping I had him look at some dresses online with me so I could get a feel for what he likes and doesn’t like. We discovered that he likes sweetheart necklines (boobs! lol) and he likes bling. I didn’t tell him whether or not I went with what he likes, but I wanted to know if he like, totally hates something. 

    Post # 13
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    i keep telling him little things here or there, especially when watching SYTTD. im like “oh that top kind of looks like mine” and he covers his ears! really…he doenst want to know anything. he wants to be surprised. i told him we need to go look at tuxes and he tole me he doesnt want me to go 🙁 haha which is fine, its the only thing he really gets full reign of. but i guess he wants me to be just as surprised on the wedding day as him. i think its kind of sweet. but i tell him everything, i cant help but let things slip about the dress.

    Post # 14
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    I refuse to show Fiance ANY pictures of me in a wedding dress (including from when I tried on my mom’s!), but I have showed him tons of pics of just the dresses, including the one I thought I was going to get for almost a full year, and later the sketch I did of the one I plan to have made for me.

    Post # 15
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 1992

    I asked, more like BEGGED my fiance to help me choose a wedding dress. It turned out that I got 2 dresses and I was beside myself as to which one to choose. However, the begging didn’t work. He refused to look at pictures on me or the model. He said, whatever you choose I will love…

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