(Closed) Did you or would you ask for FI’s opinion on dresses?

posted 11 years ago in Dress
  • poll: Did you or would you let him see the dress?

    Yes, he saw me in the dress itself!

    Yes, I showed him a picture of me in the dress.

    Yes, I showed him a picture of the dress, but not of me in it.

    No, I didn't let him see anything until our wedding day!

    Other, I will explain below.

  • Post # 16
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    Honey bee

    I totally understand what you mean.  It would have made all the agonizing SO MUCH easier to just ask Fiance what he thought.  But – I gotta say – it was PRICELESS to see the surprise and approval on his face when I came down the aisle.

    Pre-wedding, we’d watch wedding shows together and I’d get his opinion on dresses – so I knew what he liked and he didn’t like… but, honestly, as long as I felt wonderful in it – that’s all that would have mattered to him.

    In those final weeks, I was convinced he’d hate it – but I was so ‘done’ with all things dress, that I had to put those thoughts out of my mind…. 

     

    Post # 17
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    Hell no. That fool has no style. ๐Ÿ˜‰

    Post # 18
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I showed him a picture of the dress on the internet but not one of me in it.  I’m glad I did and highly doubt he’ll remember anything about it by the time our wedding rolls around.  

    Post # 19
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    @Theresa90405: Ha! ๐Ÿ™‚

    [email protected]: That’s my thought, too. I’ve shown my guy pics of the dress that I found on the internet, but I doubt he’d be able to identify it five minutes later in a line up.

    Post # 20
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2010 - Savannah, GA

    Jim was kind of with me through the whole selection process, even though he never went to the bridal shop with me. He told me what dresses he liked, and which ones were okay. He saw pictures of me in dresses I was considering and told me which ones he liked best.

    He did not see pictures of me in the dress I chose, but he did see pictures of the dress on the Casablanca website.

    When I brought the dress home, I modeled it for him, and he thought it was very nice. I did tell him that he could not see me in all of the accessories until our wedding day, so he hasn’t seen everything together.

    I’ve been married twice before, and both times I was very careful not to let my husband to be see me in my dress before the ceremony, and both marriages ended in divorce. I followed tradition and honored superstitions, and it still didn’t work out. So I’m not convinced that all those superstitions hold any weight.

    Post # 21
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    The only opinion he had about my dress was that it should be “white”….and now that he knows I’ve purchased it, when he comes into a room and sees dresses on my computer screen he literally runs out because he doesn’t want to accidently see *the* dress.

    He won’t see it until I start walking down the aisle ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 22
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    i want it to be a suprise. I always get the biggest reaction from him when I wear something he hasnt seen before.

    Post # 23
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I think there are ways to get around this. Flip through magazines, watch a few episodes of SYTTD in his presence and ask what he thinks. It was clear to me that my fiance did not like too much lace, or tiers, or frills. It was also clear he preferred more of a fitted gown style. So it’s pretty easy to get clues.

    In addition, what does a man know about a wedding dress??? If he’s asked you to marry him, he thinks you’re hot. On your wedding day, he will think you are beautiful! A dress he may think looks silly or so so on a model… he will love it on you.

    I definitely think don’t show the dress before. I’m not at all old fashioned, but I think its kills the drama of coming down the aisle and watching his eyes pop out his head :o)

    Post # 24
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I so wanted FI’s now DH’s opinion about my dress as he’s always my fashion consultant when I can’t decide which shoes, which sweater, etc. and I wanted to make sure he’d like it, but he was adamant about not seeing it in any form.  the closest I got was describing it.

    Post # 25
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    My Fiance is super traditional and I’m surprisingly not. I was all for getting his opinion on my dress to make sure his family wouldn’t be scandalized by it (it has a pretty low back). Before I could say “Oh snap!” he told me he didn’t want to know anything about it until he saw me coming down the aisle on our wedding day. It was really sweet but also kind of frustrating, I mean, I want his opinion!

    Post # 26
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    @jayce: When I first started looking for dresses (online and in mags) I would ask my FI what he thought about the different styles. Well, I found a dress that I was absolutely in LOVE with when I was looking online and so I, of course, showed him that one and he basically said it was his favorite that I’d shown him so far. So, I waited patiently for about 7 months until a sample came into a store near me and then finally made my first dress shopping appointment. I tried on about 20 dresses in total, but I still LOVED that one dress and it was definitely THE ONE.  

    So, my Fiance has totally seen my dress and I know he loves it, but he has no clue that it’s the one I ended up getting… it’ll be funny to see if he actually remembers it because he’s usually pretty good about stuff like that. I’ve also made lots of comments about my dress shopping experiences in order to throw him off. It will be fun to see his reaction ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 27
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2010 - Savannah, GA

    The only time Jim has ever told me I look nice in something was on our second date. The dress I wore that night is still his favorite. I never get any reaction when I wear something special. I’ve asked him why, and he says he doesn’t need to tell me, because I already know he thinks I’m beautiful!  What????? Does he really think that means I don’t want to hear it anyway???  So I’ve told him that he BETTER react positively when he sees me on our wedding day and he BETTER tell me that I look beautiful.

    Post # 28
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I showed my DH pictures of the two dresses I ALMOST bought, but none of me in them. And in both cases I knew something was wrong with the dresses and wanted validation from him that he didn’t like them. But the overall feedback I got on the dresses lead me to pick my actual dress which I did not show him until he saw me on our wedding day. I didn’t really care about it as much as he did, it was really important to him not to see me in a wedding gown before the big day (which he didn’t) and he preferred not to see the actual dress until the big day either.

    Post # 29
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    My Fiance is into what I wear.  Not to the point that he tells me what to wear, just that he has an opinion.  For instance, if we go out, he’ll suggest I wear a favorite outfit of his.  And sometimes I do and sometimes I just wear what I want (likewise, he does the same when I make wardrobe suggestions for him).  Either way, they are clothing items I purchased myself, so I like them all!  But from the beginning, I knew that i wanted him to be involved in my dress choice.

    When I started my dress search, I bookmarked all of my dress choices on the laptop and had him look at them.  These were the designers’ model photos, but I only tried on dresses he liked too.  I feel like the dress is mostly my decision, but ultimately I’m wearing it for him so I want him to love it too.  In the end, I was able to find something that we both love.  He knows which one I chose, but hasn’t seen me in the dress.  I am not superstitious at all, I just want him to see me in it for the first time on the day of our wedding.

    Post # 30
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    Nah, I’m the fashionista in this relationship haha. The thing is, I wantto look good on teh wedding day not just for him but for myself too. He pretty much always likes what I pick out when I get really dressed up, so I’m trusting that this will be the same.

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