Post # 1
All feedback appreciated- trying to decide how much we should pay towards the cost of our bridesmaids’ dresses! Also, please let me know how this decision affected other issues such as bridesmaid gifts, sheos, hair, makeup, etc.
Post # 3
I did but I wasn’t going to.
I didn’t want the girls to be put out by the cost, so we were going to look for under 70$ dresses. I found some on lily boutique and they were $35 each. SCORE! 6 Bridesmaid or Best Man so I bought them all. It seems to have gone a long way too because they dont feel like I am making them do anything. I’m also a control freak so being able to hold on to the dresses until the day make me much more comfortable than thinking they will wear them before (yes I am one of those brides) and I know that the order is done and we are not waiting for the one Bridesmaid or Best Man who drags her feet on purchasing. also they can’t really say anything about being unhappy about the dress bc they are not out of pocket for it.
It has honestly made things very smooth. And the are going to pay for their own hair and make up. Which I was going to do if they bought the dresses, but I deffinately go the better deal and they all understand becuase $35/ person isn’t bad but hair and make up of $80/ person sky rockets!
Post # 4
All of my girls realized that my fiance and I were on an extremely tight budget. When I asked each one of them if they wanted to join me on my special day they said yes without hesitation knowing that we weren’t going to be able to help them. I was very conscious of the cost of the bridesmaids dresses because of this. I used a lot of their input on their likes and dislikes to choose the dress. My goal was to find something everyone like for less than $99. WOW! That was harder then I though. In the end we settled for a $139 gown that everyone loved and can wear again. They were all comfortable paying that amount.
If you have it in your budget to buy them straight out then I would say go for it. Most of the time bridesmaids know that they are going to have to buy their own dress. It helps though when they are that something that can be worn again is chosen.
Just my two cents 🙂
Post # 5
I am planning on paying for my bridesmaid’s dresses because we are having a Destination Wedding so they will already be forking out a lot of money to be there.
I think every situation is different and it also depends on everyone’s financial situation.
Post # 6
I paid for half, because several of the girls weren’t in the best shape to pay $200 for a dress they would only wear once. Since they were buying it for my wedding, I paid the deposits for them and left the remainder payment up to them.
I let them select any shoes they wanted, just determined the color they all needed, so that cost was at their discretion.
I paid for hair for all of them, because I wanted their hair professionally done, and I felt rude demanding that they pay for it when they were only doing it because I wanted it done. They opted to do their makeup costs – I let them choose between having it professionally done (and paying for it) or doing it themselves.
As for gifts, I spent a pretty penny, because I want them to know how grateful I am that they would stand beside me on the most important day of my life.
Post # 7
We paid for the Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses 100%. We also paid for shoes, hair and make up. I also gave a personal gift to each Bridesmaid or Best Man to the cost of about $100 each. Where i am from BM’s do not pay.
Post # 8
I am paying for their dresses, hair, and makeup. They certainly didn’t expect it and most of my (7) bridesmaids have been very appreciative. A couple of them have even offered to pay to offset the cost–one just let me know that our wedding gift will consist of a check designed to help cover her.
My biggest reason for paying for their dresses is after every wedding I’ve been in, I’ve been stuck with a $200 dress that I’ll never wear again and I feel financially drained. I think if you find reasonable dress ($50-$100) it’s not asking too much. I just like the idea of not eating away at my bridesmaids finances for my wedding. That being said, if they can all afford it, there is absolutely nothing wrong or tacky with asking them to buy their own.
Post # 9
I have two bridesmaids and I’ve paid for their dresses. In terms of shoes, I’m not sure yet – either they can just wear whatever they already have in black, nude or white… or I’ll get them matching shoes closer to the wedding. It depends on the state of the budget at that point.
Just as @abbie017: I’ll pay for hair is it would feel awkward to demand them to pay for that. We’ll all do our makeup, as the wedding is so remote that we can’t get a makeup artist.
I also plan to give them a very traditional bracelet manufactured by natives that still live and works (herding reindeer) in the area of Sweden that I’m from.
Post # 10
I did not pay for my bridesmaid’s dresses. I was in several of their weddings and paid for my own as well. I think it’s most common that the girls buy their own dresses. It would be very nice to purchase them, but if you are paying for your wedding like I am, the budget can be very tight. Let me point out I also have 8 bridesmaids!
Post # 11
- Wedding: September 2013 - Creek club at ion, SC
Im having a Destination Wedding and I am not paying for the bridesmaid dress. They didnt expect it and I made sure they all liked the dress and was re-wearable even though they told me to pick whatever I like. Im lucky with them.
Life is too much atm … I am moving to a different country (hes american im english we met in Spain when both of us were over there on a temporary basis, job tried to cut his pay, he moved back to america for better pay, im still here, have to go in August) and we have to get visas((which depend on us getting married), cars, house and pay for the wedding and I have to find a job and can not work until my AOS comes through, which could be 3 months. I think everyone understands that.
Under normal circumstances i would try but this is anthing but normal
Post # 12
My girls paid for their dresses. They were around 140. I offered to pay for hair bc I want a specific look. One girl took me up on it, the other (my MOH) understands I’m on a tight budget and said no, she’d pay. If they want to get there makeup professionally done they can pay for that themselves. I’ve gotten each girl an antique locket so far and I’m going to host a bridesmaids luncheon. I also plan on writing out nice thankyou letters.
Post # 13
I’m only having 2. We paid for my junior bridesmaid’s dress and shoes (she’s 10), but my matron of honor (my sister) is paying for her own dress and possibly has shoes already that will work. I am planning to pay for their hair and maybe mani/pedi and give them gifts, but I haven’t yet decided on the gifts. Since my matron of honor was paying for her own dress, I let her choose the dress.
Post # 14
I’m having 4 bridesmaids and 2 junior bridesmaids. I’m not paying for their dresses or shoes. I’m letting them each wear their own style of dress and I’m letting them pick whatever shoes they want. I’m paying for their make-up ($75 each). I’m spending about $250 on their gifts.
Post # 15
I didn’t pay for their dresses but I wish I could have afforded it. We’re having a Destination Wedding so they are already laying out quite a bit of money to be there.
I am paying for hair and makeup. Each is getting a gift in the $100-150 range. They are wearing shoes they already own.
Post # 16
Fiance and I are on an extremely tight budget. My BMs have WAY less responsibilities to pay for than me. Two of them are single and have no children and the other is an LVN (husband works in the oil field) and they have one child (and their house is paid for) while I have 3 children, one who is a special needs child and I have been unemployed up until last month. Their dresses weren’t expensive ($155.xx including tax) and I have purchased them VERY nice gifts (lunch totes personalized with their names, robes personalized with their names, hangers personalized with their names, crystal broaches for them to wear at the rehearsal to mark their role in the wedding, flip flops, and jewelry for them to wear on the day of the wedding).