(Closed) Did you pay for your bridesmaids' dresses?

posted 9 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Did you pay for your bridesmaids' dresses?

    Yes, 100% of the cost

    No, not at all

    Some- up to 50% of the cost

    Most- more than 50% of the cost

  • Post # 32
    18 posts
    • Wedding: November 2013

    we didn’t pay but I busted my ass looking for long flowy dresses less then $150, we ended up getting Prom Dresses from David’s Bridal for $120 so not too bad!

    Post # 33
    3054 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    No, I did not. However, the dresses were only $100.

    They could wear any shoe they wanted, even ones that they already owned.

    I had a great deal on makeup/hair so I went ahead and paid for them to have it done. Not because I felt they needed it, but because I wanted them to feel special.

    I bought them necklaces and rings I found on etsy that they could wear for the wedding and many times after as part of their bridal party gift.


    Post # 34
    21 posts

    I think a lot of it comes down to how much you’re asking of them in return...

    Post # 35
    909 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    No, but I was conscious of what they wanted to wear and kept their budgets in mind. I think as long as you’re not demanding an out-of-budget dress that they hate, it’s fine to expect them to pay for their dresses.

    My bridesmaids agreed they wanted to match because they wanted to feel like bridesmaids, so we picked a color and fabric and went with different dresses in that fabric. That way, my bridesmaids were able to pick the dress they liked, knew they would wear again, and worked within their budget.

    Post # 36
    1135 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I didn’t pay for their dresses… Though one of my bridesmaids was a little short on cash when they were putting the deposits down so I paid for half of hers and never asked for it back.  I didn’t make a big show of it though–but if any of my other BMs had asked if I could help out, I would have.

    Post # 37
    5708 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I just paid for my MOH’s dress because she was helping with wedding stuff. I still made sure that the Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses were within a reasonable cost and good fabric for summer.

    Otherwise I just got my girls two small flowers to pin in their hair the day of and handmade a card.

    Post # 38
    1434 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2011 - Florida Aquarium

    I didn’t treat them all equally. One bridesmaid paid for her dress. I paid half of another’s, and I paid for the dress completely for the other. They were in different financial situations, and I acted accordingly (we couldn’t really afford to pay for all three). I paid for hair/makeup for all, as a treat (I didn’t care about styles). They wore whatever shoes they liked; I picked the color. As a gift, I paid for entry to the Magic Kingdom the day after our wedding.

    Post # 39
    1198 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I said some “up to 50% of the cost”  Well……50% of what the total cost of the dresses would have been.  I bought 2 out of the 4 dresses because 2 of my bridesmaids were siblings and it came out of the wedding budget my dad gave me.

    Post # 40
    1494 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013 - B&B

    @eocenia:  OOO those bracelets are beautiful!! Dang I’d be thrilled with that!

    My girls are paying for their dress. Its custom in my circles for bridesmaids to pay for their dress. For shoes, I am asking them to give me a comfy worn in pair (or to buy super duper cheap comfy shoes) ANYTHING they like, because I am going to glitter them a specific color (hence, make them what I want) and I am not requiring anything for nails, hair, makeup, etc. The only cost to my girls will be their dress. (well, travel, and they are willing to help plan/pay for a bachelorette/shower. They are so awesome!) And they will be less than $150. They get to choose from different styles as well. I have picked the color/fabric/length, but they can all pick what they are most comfortable in out of the styles.

    For their gifts, I am gifting them their brooch bouquets (not sure exactly how much per) and then also gonna get them two other small ish but cute/useful things.

    Post # 41
    214 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    If you can afford it then I would pay for their dresses or at least a fraction of the cost. If you can’t, then I’m sure they will understand. I also agree with @lolwut some of it has to do with how much you’re asking them in return and how much the dress costs and if they can wear it again etc. 

    I feel like if it won’t break the bank in the future, then paying for them is the right thing to do.

    Post # 42
    2119 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @Sunnyday278: Thanks – I hope they’ll love them too! They are super traditional in the area I’m from and whenever I wear them people always comment on how unique and beautiful they are. They are all handcrafted by natives, using skin from their own reindeers and the button that closes it in the back is made from a small piece of reindeer horn.

    Post # 43
    726 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Our girls paid for their own and then also paid for their hair if they wanted it done.  I didn’t give them any specifics on make-up/nails and basically said if they wanted to do their own hair that was fine too.

    We got them a vera wang clutch and their jewelry as a gift.

    Around here – everything I said is pretty normal.

    Post # 44
    260 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    We are paying for their dresses, hair and makeup and I have bought them each a J.Crew necklace to wear. We are on a tight budget and adding in that expense has been a bit stressul but worth it. I want being a bridesmaid to be a great experience and given that they’re all flying from Australia I didn’t think it was fair for them to have to pay. Even if they weren’t traveling, I would pay for it. 

    Being a bridesmaid is an honour, it shouldn’t be a financial sacrifice. In the whole scheme of things if you pick an affordable dress (i.e. under $100) and have four girls then that $400 is money well spent, in my opinion. 

    Post # 45
    4554 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    Not sure whether anyone has touched on this, but paying for Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses is a regional thing. In America, it’s generally not the done thing (though if the bride wants a $300 bridesmaid dress and her bridesmaids are still in college or something, the bride generally helps with the cost. This is what I will be doing.)

    But in Europe and possibly also Australia, it seems like it is the bride’s responsibility to pay for the dress. So I am not sure how applicable to your situation the poll results will be.

    Post # 46
    2187 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Yep. But the Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses are only $35/40 per. I am also buying the jewelry. The BMs are doing their own hair and make-up and wearing their own shoes.


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