(Closed) Did you pay for your flower girl’s dress

posted 13 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Are paying or did you pay for your flower girl's dress?



  • Post # 3
    202 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    We are paying for everyone’s attire (three bridesmaids, three groomsmen, four ushers, and three flowergirls, no ringbearers- I don’t think anyway!)  We think we will get some sort of deal on tuxes/suits for having so many.  For the BMs, we went the nontraditional route and purchases something they can wear again from White House Black Market; as a bonus, they were on sale for about 50% off.  I plan on taking care of all three flowergirl dresses as well.  I think that we will have more options and may be able to get some sort of discount by waiting to purchase until Easter attire is out/on sale.  I don’t want to come across as cheap; if it looks cheap and inexpensive, it has been passed on.  I’m simply trying to keep things in our budget by being mindful of sales, our budget, and what we want.

    Post # 4
    594 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2005 - Westside Loft, New York

    I definitely would have paid, but my SIL refused!  It was a very last minute decision for her daughter to be our flower girl – we originally weren’t planning on having one, so my SIL bought a white party dress just before the wedding.

    Post # 5
    548 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2009

    We bought the 2 flower girl dresses, but found such great deals on them! We found them in the "holiday dress" section of the Macy’s girls department.

    (You can find beautiful dresses if you look in the right places! Anything labeled "flowergirl" or "bridal" anything is bound to be overpriced.)

    Post # 6
    1174 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    Our FG’s dress was originally $300, but was on clearance for $124. I loved it but felt the price was too much to ask anyone else to pay. I gave the dress to the FG’s mom and she offered to pay for it, and when I refused, she gave me $50, which I thought was very nice of her. So we paid for a little more than half.

    Post # 7
    258 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2009

    I was originally going to, because our flowergirl is a bridesmaid’s daughter. But A) we added a second flowergirl, who’s dress I did not intend to pay for, and didn’t want any conflict there, and B) we found the dresses for $15 each, so I didn’t feel that bad about it. I was also unemployed for a while there, so she actually had way more money than me.

    E-bay is the way to go for flowergirl dresses! We got ours from this e-bay store. They’re adorable, good quality, and SO cheap!

    Post # 8
    296 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    When I brought up dress shopping to her mom, she offered to pay for it. Also, I was just shopping at Ross and they have some extremely cute flower girl dresses for like $15. So if she hadn’t offered to pay, I would have got her one of those. They were adorable. 

    Post # 9
    61 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: July 2009

    I got her dress around Easter time last year. We found ADORABLE dresses for $25-$30 at the Burlington Coat Factory.

    Post # 10
    564 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2022 - Coyaba Resort, Montego Bay

    Yep – I found adorable dresses at Gap Kids and snapped them up as soon as I saw them!

    Post # 11
    411 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2016

    My sister, who is my Maid/Matron of Honor and the mother of 3 of my 4 child attendants, doesn’t have a ton of money. So, I’m planning to buy the outfits for her kids to wear as well as pay for at least part of her bridesmaid’s gown. I just can’t bring myself to put someone else out for my own wedding. So yeah, even though I don’t have a lot of money either, I’ll be paying for my flower girl’s dress. 🙂

    Post # 12
    47 posts
    • Wedding: July 2009

    I found the dresses at Gap Kids for $15 each….. they were a great steal!

    Post # 13
    468 posts
    Helper bee

    Flowergirldressforless.com has dresses that are very reasonably priced.  I didn’t feel too guilty asking the two moms to pay $30 for the dresses.

    Post # 14
    3340 posts
    Sugar bee

    My brother and SIL can’t afford to pay for a dress, so I bought it for them.  Plus that way I kept control of what it looked like, so I could keep it within the feel of the wedding.

    Post # 15
    499 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2009

    MY Future Sister-In-Law and Future Brother-In-Law are spending a lot of money to travel to our wedding, both be in it, as well as have their 3 children in our wedding. We asked them from the beginning if they would prefer us to buy the kids outfits, or buy them gifts. They said it was up to us, and we didn’t need to do anything, so we decided on the outfits with the possibility of small gifts. We ended up getting the 2 flower girl dresses for $50, but the ring bearer’s tux will be $150. We will probably get the girls necklaces or something to balance it out, and get the ring bearer a toy.

    Post # 16
    123 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: January 2022

    I was trying to suggest affordable options but my aunt actually got offended and asked my mom if I thought they couldn’t afford dresses. She’s been sending me links to $250 flower girl dresses, which I think is nuts, but I don’t want to offend her. So, I’m going to step back and let her pick them and the price.

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