(Closed) Did you pay for your flower girl’s dress

posted 13 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Are paying or did you pay for your flower girl's dress?
    Yes : (61 votes)
    55 %
    No : (50 votes)
    45 %
  • Post # 32
    61 posts
    Worker bee

    My flower girl is my niece, and my mother (her grandmother) is paying for it. So basically I am not asking her parents to pay, but I am not either. I love my mom!

    Post # 33
    1309 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2008

    I see a pattern: If it was an expensive dress, it was more common for the bride to cover the cost (or at least feel obligated to), especially if the family is already contributing a lot to the cost of the wedding or is not financially well off. But if it was a less expensive dress, it was not a big deal for either party to pay for it.

    The end answer to your question is, I think, "It depends on how much it costs."

    Post # 34
    14 posts
    • Wedding: July 2009

    has anyone used http://flowergirldressforless.com/ ?  any thoughts on how the material and customer service and shipping was? many thanks!

    Post # 35
    112 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    My daughter and MOH’s daughter are my flowergirls. I got a great deal on dresses so I paid for them upfront. My Maid/Matron of Honor is doing a lot for me already (buying her dress, her husband is DJing) so I wouldn’t ask for more. 


    Post # 36
    2393 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I paid because I didn’t think it was right to ask my sister to buy a $180 dress for a toddler.  I picked the dress, I paid.

    Post # 37
    1002 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I bought them to not make my SILs spend extra money, and so I could have final say on them haha. They were $25 each from Burlington Coat Factory online. Free shipping.

    Post # 38
    630 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2015

    I’m paying for them. It’s incredibly rude and selfish to ask somebody to be a bridesmaid/flower girl/whatever and then not pay for their dress. For the amount of time and effort they put into your special day, I think it’s really the least you can do and that it’s tacky not to. 

    Post # 39
    6533 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    @BridieBea:  From what I’ve read on this site, it seems common for European bridesmaids to not pay for their dresses. But that is rarely done in Canada/US. Everyone buys their own.

    For flower girls though…I’m not sure. My Future Mother-In-Law wants to use one of FI’s cousins and I do not know her or her mother so I won’t get myself involved there! 

    Post # 40
    3949 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    You should have an “other” category …. I paid for my great nieces Flower Girl dress.  She’s 8 and her grandmother has custody and was paying for Flower Girl and my niece (NOT THE FG’S MOM) to fly down for my wedding.  FG’s mother is a deadbeat drug addict. 

    The other two FG’s mom’s paid for their dresses.  Seriously I found them onEBAY were $12.00 … AND the BEST PART …. they are all going to be DEAD FG’s FOR HALLOWEEEN … slit necks.. blood .. dead flowers … black eyes … I’m so glad they are using them again!!! well and they apparently have all been wearing them for dress up.  I went cheap because seriously .. they were wearing them for acouple hours and after that i didn’t care what they did.

    😀 dead FG’s for Halloween .. 😀 😀 😀

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