- 5 years ago
- Wedding: December 2017
I am hoping to have my two childhood pastors officiate our wedding, however they have both moved to different states now.
From what I have read it is not required for brides to pay the travel expenses of the pastors’ spouse, but since I know the families so well I wanted to offer to pay for their flights and hotel expenses too. My problem is that one of the pastors has two children who are around age ten…so obviously too young to be considered seperate guests (unlie the older pastor whose children, all in their 30’s and 40’s will not be invited). I would love for them to attend the childrens reception we are having, in fact I would not even mind paying their travel expenses…but it is just NOT in my budget.
How do I handle this? I know my pastor and his wife occasionally travel and the children stay with their grandparents, so maybe that is their plan…but if they wanted to bring the kids can I say I can only pay for the adults travel expenses…without sounding rude??
I was considering sending a letter thanking them for offering to come to the wedding and attaching a travelocity or orbitz gift card in an amount that I know will cover both the pastors flights/hotls and their wives and offer for them to make whatever travel arrangement suit them best…is this a bad idea? Leaving it open ended so they can bring the children if they want…but on their own dime?
Please help! Has anyone else been in a similar position? Bees, did you pay for your officiant’s travel?