Post # 1
I’m just interested how many of you bees chose a dress without anyone helping you. I don’t have anyone that seems interested enough to go. I asked my fiance if he wanted to, but he said it’s really important for him to see me the first time on our wedding day.
I’m feeling kind of alone. I’m planning a very small wedding and thought my family would be interested in at least knowing some details. I think it’s in part due to my mom hating her wedding, her dress, and being divorced. She just says I should do what I want, which is nice, but I’d like an opinion just to know she cares. She has the habit of turning things into about her past experiences and it doesn’t make me feel very supported.
Post # 3
I found mine in a magazine. I did the whole dress shoppping thing with a few friends and my sister but they didn’t have my dress there. I knew the only way I could afford the dress was to buy it online used, so I did. I had my friend and my fiance look over the listing, but I made the decision to buy it without trying it on and without seeing it in person first. So in some ways I did buy my dress by myself. I would take one close female friend with you to take pictures and keep you company.
Post # 4
I went alone, and although it would have been nice having someone there, im glad in the end I went alone. I really got what I wanted and didn’t have to worry about anyone elSe’s opinion.
Post # 5
My mom was wig me but I wish I had been alone. Slassi a true passive aggressive southern woman. One minute was beautiful, the next she is ignoring me to look at MOB dresses or she is telling me I should lose weight. If no one will be supportive just to by yourself.
Post # 6
thank you ladybee, you’ve made me feel a bit better.
Post # 7
I went alone, but still with DH had been willing to go with me. He wanted to be surprised at the wedding.
Post # 8
the first time i tried on dresses, i went alone. the next time (different shop) i brought my now husband with me. i trust his judgement. when i narrowed it down to 3, i brought my son, who was my man of honour. he enjoyed coming and being part of the process.
Post # 9
no… but no one had any influence on my dress but me. Even if my mom hated it I would have smiled and said yes anyhow.
Post # 10
Kinda sorta. I HATE clothing shopping and making things all about me, so I didn’t want to take my mother and bridesmaids dress shopping for 2 hours without ANY idea of what we were going for.
So I tried on dresses once with one of my bridesmaids when she came south to visit me. Then I went out on my own to a local boutique where they ordered the dress I eventually ended up with. So I had it in my mind and tried it on alone first, but I didn’t make up my mind or make any decisions until they were with me.
Post # 11
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
I went shopping on my own, then brought DS and my Mom with me for a second appointment to confirm that it was “the dress”. I already knew it was my dress, but I wanted to involve them in the process. I rather enjoyed shopping alone. That’s how I normally shop for clothes, so it felt natural to me.
Post # 12
No, my mom and sisters were there
Post # 13
I’m not sure how to answer! 🙂 I went with 3 bridesmaids but when it was time to *choose*, it was me that made the decision. My girls were super and very supportive but I still got the “are you sure?” and “do you want to sleep on it first?”, which is great advice. But once I knew, I knew. I said that’s the one and ordered it right then and there.
Post # 14
The thought of having my mom,and/or well-meaning,but very particular friends,all chiming in with their opinions..not for me:-) I def do not want an audience when I try things on,makes me anxious,and feel like I’m trying to please too many ppl. I went myself to Saks 5th ave to try stuff on,but ended up ordering my dress online from Nordstroms.
Post # 15
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with going alone. I know I have a weird shape and would never be able to just order a dress without trying it on… and I definitely would have gone alone to try dresses on if no one else could (or wanted to) come with me.
I made a LOT of dress shopping trips. Most of my trips I only brought one friend at a time.
I always wanted to remember “the day I found THE dress” as being a special one, so when I thought I narrowed down my choices, I invited my two aunts, three friends, and my fiance’s aunt. After I made a decision, we were supposed to all go meet my Dad and Grandma for lunch to celebrate. That trip was horrible though – family drama (unrelated to dresses) made the mood tense and uncomfortable and I wound up spending most of the day crying. That day was so awful that I completely gave up on both of the dresses I had been trying to decide between, and gave up even looking for a dress for several months..
Eventually I tried again (again bringing just one friend at a time). When I thought I narrowed it down again, I brought one aunt and my grandma. I still couldn’t decide. So I brought my Dad. I don’t know how many brides bring their dad for input on dress shopping, but my mother passed away a few years ago, and I’ve always been a daddy’s girl, so I wanted him to be a part of it. People looked at us a little funny, so I guess it’s unusual but I didn’t care.
And I ended up choosing the dress my Dad liked the best anyway! I should have brought him with me sooner. Haha.
Post # 16
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
Sorta. I ordered one online from Macy’s and tried it on by myself (FI doesn’t want to see until the day of). I really liked it, so I showed a few friends plus my mom and dad – they all liked it a lot, so it was nice to get their 2 cents while I’m making the decision (cause the dress is returnable for 6 months).