(Closed) Did you pick out your own er?

posted 7 years ago in Rings
Post # 17
351 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

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@snd485:  They did this at all of the stores that we went to. They made notes of everything. Metel preferences, centerstone sizes, centerstone shape, odd preferences such as changing certain diamonds in the band to sapphires, etc. They wrote down what I liked, loved, and was indifferent about. I think that it is great that they do this.

Post # 18
6603 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

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@chica95110:  We had a family stone but yes, I designed my setting. I also love heart details ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 19
59 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

We went together to get a look and I tried on one and commented on how gorgeous it was but was twice the budget so didn’t consider it. Went back a few weeks later for another look and he insisted that he loved it too and that was what he waned to buy me. 

Post # 20
735 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2018

i picked mine out cause im soo picky haha

he wanted something id love because we’re so different!

but opposites attract they say haha ๐Ÿ™‚


Post # 21
718 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Mine was a total surprise.  He never even asked a question.  Luckily he has great taste and picked the exact ring I would have picked for myself!

Post # 22
1285 posts
Bumble bee

I didn’t pick  mine out. We just got into conversation a very long time ago, and he said i mentioned simple, solitaire, rectangle…that’s all.  He went by that and that’s what I got. I don’t believe the conversation was the same conversation. I think he stretched this out over time and got bits and pieces and put it together.



Post # 23
2609 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI

I picked mine out. I fell in love with the setting when I saw it. Fiance asked me to just tell him what to buy because he was clueless. We went to purchase it together.

Post # 24
1935 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

My Fiance and I looked for the setting together. Originally, I wanted a RB in a pave halo with a wide split shank. However, I fell in love with the oval cut after seeing one in person. We could not find the perfect setting, so we ended up just having one custom designed through our jeweler. I wasn’t involved in picking the stone, and the size was definitely a surprise! I was not expecting it, but I LOVE it. 

We did design the wedding band together from start to finish, since it’s also a totally custom piece. I know the cost, carats, etc. 

He did surprise me a little with the proposal. I knew the ring was in, but I had no idea he had it! 

The wedding band was actually more of a surprise. We went to our jeweler to check out some earrings I’m borrowing, and I casually inquired about the status of my band. Our jeweler said “well, I have good news, and I have bad news. (cue my skin going pale) The bad news is that we still haven’t gotten the CAD renderings from the designer. But, the good news is, I have the ring. Do you want to see it?” 

And then I fainted. Ok, not quite, but they got me so good! The band itself made me cry. I had to hold on to the table… it literally took my breath away! My Fiance so rarely gets me like that, since I’m a nosy control freak, but that was a pretty amazing experience!

Post # 25
431 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

@chica95110:  I picked mine out when I found it online years ago and kind of by accident ๐Ÿ˜› I kept it at the back of my head for a while and then when FH and I were jokingly discussing a proposal early in our relationship I said that my ering would have to come from a particular Hawaiian jeweler. He went on their website and somehow managed to pick out the one I wanted out of the hundreds of rings on the site ๐Ÿ˜€

Post # 26
21 posts
  • Wedding: June 2014

My Fiance & I went ring shopping together. I had the option of choosing my own but because there were a few that I liked & couldn’t narrow it down he picked one out that he thought I would like. After he proposed he told me that he had ordered a ring I like d when the ring came in we could go look at it at the store. In the end, I chose the one he proposed me with bc it had a sentimental meaning behind it & I liked his pick over mine. 

Post # 27
1572 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

We picked it out together ๐Ÿ™‚ He agreed that if I was going to wear the ring for the rest of my life, I should absolutely love it. While I think he would have been able to pick out a ring I would love (or even this ring!), I like that we did it together. At first, he liked plain solitaires and I liked more art deco. I ended up looking at some solitaires (more b/c I couldn’t find a wedding band I liked with any of the rings I was liking), but knew they weren’t “the one”. Then the sales girl at the store pointed out this ring. On its own, it seemed just okay – and then I tried it on. My partner and I BOTH agreed taht we loved it, and this was the ring. While I could have easily ended up with my own pick, I did also want a ring HE liked.

I actually think 

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Ms_Purple:  and I have the same ring!!

Post # 28
1051 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

My Fiance picked mine out because he wanted the final say, but we did go shopping once together so that he could get an idea of what I liked.  He picked my favorite style (solitaire) and he wound up getting me a much bigger diamond than I expected!


Post # 29
942 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I chose our wedding rings before the engagement ring – I didn’t want one but we decided to get something very recently. Fiance built our dream house last year which was a dream come true for us. His only request was that his wedding band be yellow gold. I don’t like yellow gold, but I said to myself, I can compromise on this since he bought the house! I am really happy that I didn’t get a solitaire, I love bling and the brighter the better!!!

Post # 30
2664 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Ketchum, ID

@chica95110:  I definitely picked out mine. Neither one of us thought it’d be a good idea for him to pick it out on his own, since I’m so picky, haha. 

Post # 31
259 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I picked mine out. 


My fiance proposed while day drunk in NYC for my birthday and I cried my eyes out and then the next morning barely remembered it and we both decided to have a sort of “redo” because I didnt want to tell our families without a ring. 


We were “just looking around” and neither of us honestly took it seriously at all and then I found the ring of my dreams. Henry Daussi! (Haven’t gotten it yet!) and showed him and a few weeks later he yelled at me for not knowing my ring size! haha

Few days ago he proposed a second time spur of the moment with no ring and I laughed like crazy because he mentioned.. “I bought the ring but I couldn’t wait to ask to you to be my wife again.” 


So going on to the third proposal and I can’t wait to see the ring of my dreams! We both agreed not to tell people I picked it out but to simply tell them he has great taste. I did however let him pick out the diamond so lets hope he did good!!!

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