(Closed) Did you plan your first baby? *With Poll*

posted 4 years ago in Pregnancy
  • poll: Was your first baby planned?
    We were both actively trying : (104 votes)
    64 %
    I was trying, but SO didn't know (cheeky!) : (3 votes)
    2 %
    We were not trying, but not preventing : (40 votes)
    25 %
    We were both actively preventing : (16 votes)
    10 %
  • Post # 2
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    totally planned (as was our 2nd) and we did everything we could to maximize our chances each month (temping, OPK’s).

    Post # 3
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    Helper bee

    Completely planned. Made BDing very unromantic ๐Ÿ˜‰

    Post # 4
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    We were actively trying for #1 and we are now trying for #2 ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 5
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa

    youngbrokebride:  where did you see that statistic? Are you sure it wasn’t a joke site? 

    We don’t have any kids and aren’t TTC, but that number can’t possibly be right! Lol

    Post # 6
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2017 - Hogarths, Solihull

    Not in a position to be trying just yet (want to get the Wedding out the way!) but I was an accident! xD

    8 years between my older brother and I and 10 years between my Sister and I!

    But then, I’m English so statistically…. ๐Ÿ˜‰

    Post # 7
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Completely planned Down to the exact moment of ovulation lol!!!

    Post # 8
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Yeah my first was an accident.  I went off BCP to see how my cycles were (I had been on it 16 years and had extremely irregular cycles before).  We had sex one time without protection and I was dumb enough to think one time wouldn’t matter.  We prevented the rest of the month so it was just stupidity.  It was with my Darling Husband and we wanted kids just not quite so soon so it worked out.

    Our second was sort of an oops since I was supposed to be preventing but we didn’t do as good of a job as we needed to (I was tracking O and we hit 5 days before I ovulated but I didn’t really think that gave me a shot at it).  But we were going to try the next month so wasn’t a huge deal as I was obviously okay with another pregnancy.  So I got the thrill of being surprised with both of them (haha).  I am getting a mirena (hope it works for me) or snip snip when we’re done.

    Post # 9
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    Our first was a surprise (i hate the word accident). 

    Our second was 100% planned. We had a hard time conceiving, had many MCs and lots of testing done…. BUT since we weren’t married yet, a lot of his family calls her a “whoopsie” …. And I hate that word, even more than the word ‘accident.’

    Eek. I’m bitter. I just love my babies!

    • This reply was modified 3 years, 7 months ago by  smoocheepoo.
    Post # 10
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    youngbrokebride:  I’m currently 15 wks 5 days with my first and we totally planned it. We tried OPK’s a few times. I went off BC May 2015 and we started TTC in June 2015. We tried for 4 months and took 3 months off because of our crazy work schedules and holiday time. We started TTC again this past Jan 2016 and got pregnant when I least expected to. I think I was over thinking it the first 4 months and decided to just go with the flow and it will happen when it happens.

    Post # 11
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    A quick search showed that mutiple sources say that almost 50% of pregnancies in the US are unintended which I don’t find terribly surprising. I’m curious if most people who are NTNP would count their pregnancy as unintended as I have quite a few friends who were using no birth control methods and then were still surprised when they ended up pregnant. But of course then there are the bees I see who want children but are not charting so it’s kind of hard to define if NTNP would be considered an “accident”.

    In my personal life I know of more unplanned children than I do planned children. This includes my family and friends children but it also includes some of my friends growing up who were surprise babies.

    Post # 12
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    youngbrokebride:  Yep! Completely planned. As in used OPKs and timed sex to make him! 

    Post # 13
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    555 posts
    Busy bee

    gingerkitten:  https://www.guttmacher.org/united-states/pregnancy

    This study claims that 2.8 million pregnancies were unintended in 2011, compared to about 4 million births. Not sure if this includes abortions, but yeah at least half (probably more) of the population is an accident in the US. I am honestly not surpsied. Most unintended pregnancies happen to younger and less educated people (according to that study) and if you haven’t really been in the situation it is hard to phantom I guess, but it is definetly right.

    Post # 14
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    Bumble Beekeeper

    I also think the weddingbee population would naturally skew towards people who would plan out their kids. The boards are all about planning, whether it be a wedding or TTC or whatever. 

    Post # 15
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    Helper bee

    Our first wasn’t really planned but it wasn’t a surprise either. We were using POM while i tracked my cycle (not temping or anything) and we had one time where Darling Husband didn’t pull out. We were planning to TTC a few months later anyways, so it was no big deal.

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