(Closed) Did you publicly recognize your parents paid for the wedding?

posted 6 years ago in Family
  • poll: How did you recognize your parents hosting the event?
    The invitations were worded that way. : (34 votes)
    50 %
    We made a speech at the wedding, thanking them : (17 votes)
    25 %
    We didn't. It's not that important that people know who paid. : (17 votes)
    25 %
  • Post # 3
    2287 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: Central Park

    I’m curious about this as well

    Post # 4
    2295 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    We will probably make a speech thanking them for all their support, but our family situation/contributions is complex (like most people’s – divorced parents and they’re all putting in very different amounts but it is generous for where they are in life). We just put “together with their families” on the invites since they are all contributing.

    We won’t specifically thank them publicly for helping to pay for/host the wedding. I think “all your support” gets the point across without directly talking about money.

    Post # 5
    2831 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014


    Ohh me too… My parents will be paying and my aunt and uncle will be helping also (venue is their home). But the thing is that I don’t want to make his mother feel bad since she probably won’t be able to help out.

    I will be following this thread 🙂

    Post # 6
    2712 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    We put both sets of parents on the invites (we would have done this anyway, even if they weren’t paying).  We also gave a short speech at the wedding thanking them for all of their help.  We also thanked the bridal party and all of our guests for coming as well.

    Post # 7
    3357 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    imo, a specific thank you in the speeches to your parents for their support is good enough. Mentioning that they paid for the wedding, to me, is tacky. Most people assume, if it wasn’t clear during planning, that the parents usually pay.

    Post # 8
    10453 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    We will definitely thank them at the wedding but not necessarily say anything about money. And I guess our invitations will be worded that way too. I didn’t put any thought into that part though, I just like the way the word order looked on paper.

    Post # 9
    5494 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2011

    When we made our speech at the reception we thanked my parents and grandparents for hosting the event, (amoung all the other things we thanked them for.)

    Post # 10
    8392 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Our invites were worded to indicate my parents were hosting.

    Post # 12
    3978 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Never really thought about this. My parents paid for most (though it’s not like they dropped 10k, lol) we had a low budget wedding. The invitations didn’t really allow for parents names with the way they were designed, and I didn’t really give any speech at the wedding. So, none of the above. It’s not that it wasn’t important it’s just that it didn’t come up. I thanked them profusely, just not in front of hundreds of people,lol

    Post # 13
    873 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Generally the inivitation wording lets people know who paid for the wedding.  I think it’s pretty crass to be more explicit than that.

    Post # 14
    285 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    So I designed our invites, and the orginal wording I used was the formal “Mr and Mrs So-and-So request the honor of your presence at the marraige of their daughter” business, since my parents pretty much paid for the enitre wedding. Interestingly, it was my parents that objected- they didn’t feel that it was important to make the distinction of who paid and actually preferred that both sets of parents have equal footing on the invite since both are equally supportive of our relationship and our lives in general. So in the end, we went with “Together with our parents, (insert names here), we, FutureMrsQ and Mr Q, invite…”. We never did a formal thank-your speech either, so that was that. Moral of the story- ask your parents’ opinion.

    Post # 15
    2104 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    We did fairly formal wording on our invites, but also included DH’s parents’ names.  Both sets contributed (mine a little bit more, but not too far off from 50/50). 

    Post # 16
    1086 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Our families are both contributing as well as friends. We have such great people in our life. So we are going to give a toast and specifically name off each person who has contributed and thank them for all they have done for us

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