(Closed) Did you really just ask a pregnant woman that?

posted 7 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

You and I are close in due dates, and I’m also huge, so I can totally sympathize.  I was just telling my husband last night how multiple co-workers have mentioned in the last two days that I grew again.  I already know I look big!  I don’t need the constant reminders!  Especially when they phrase it like, “Wow!  You look so much bigger today than you did yesterday.  When are you due again?”  Yell

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I am 31 weeks, and so far I have been lucky that people’s questions have not driven me crazy yet.  The only thing that makes me nuts is that it seems as if my pregnancy defines me.  It is the only topic of conversation that seems to be brought up whenever I am around.  I find myself constantly trying to change the subject back to something else!

Sometimes when a stranger mentions it, I ask my husband after “how did they know??”  He looks at my belly and says “um….”  Haha.  I guess it is obvious but it still seems weird that people can tell!  I can’t explain that one.  I mean I obviously look very very pregnant!

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

haha – I’m just 7months as well and I’m the opposite of you. I look like I’m barely pregnant. And people -my mom especially!- love to say your stomach is so small!! Are you eating enough? Are you drinking soup? I tell her, really mom? What does drinking soup have to do with making my stomach bigger? She’s referring to Chinese soup that simmers for hours and it is chock full of nutrition. And it’s like I know I should be making it more! But I’m not retired and have all day to do it!

My SIL is two weeks ahead of me and has a really large bump and my mom loves to compare. And I go mom, it’s her second, my first of course we’re different.

That’s really the only annoying thing to me.

I don’t really mind when people ask me how I’m feeling. I think they are just concerned and I appreciate it. πŸ™‚

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

@regberadaisy:  Oh my Gosh, that is so funny!  My mom asks me every day if I had soup!  I am not Chinese, but apparently moms have this obsession with soup across all cultures!  πŸ™‚

She is always like “you look like you need some soup, let’s go to Panera” or if I say I am getting hungry “want me to bring you some soup?”  It is so funny.  My husband and I laugh about it all the time!!

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@heathaah:  

haha That is funny!

For the record, I’m not annoyed at my mom. Just the questions. I know she just feels bad that she’s not here with me to do all those things for me. πŸ™‚

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

A co-worker saw me getting off the elevator today and said, “You’re looking bigger than ever!”

Why do people think this is ok?

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I am only 4 months along but I get asked all the time if I’m going to breastfeed. By everyone.  Acquaintances, co-workers, my Father-In-Law.  It’s just weird to me.  lol

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

@tobemurphy10:  I typically don’t mind so much, but when I hear the same comments (usually about my size) from multiple people in a very short time period, I get cranky, lol.  Not to mention that I am most definitely in the “everything is pissing me off” stage of pregnancy.  πŸ™‚

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

@heathaah:  I am enormous and yet I still have that momentary, “Wait, they can tell?” or “Do I look pregnant?” – it’s gotten to the point that it’s just ridiculous, but it’s where my mind goes! 

@regberadaisy:  That’s so funny! You are definitely showing these days though!! 

@tobemurphy10:  I don’t usually mind comments about how big I am, because these days, I really am. However, I’ve had my fair share of “are you sure it’s not twins?!” comments, and I HATE them! Also, I hate any comments about me eating, particularly that I’m eating a lot.

The main thing thing I hate lately is when people who have never been pregnant (it’s usually women) hear that you need to do xy or z when you’re pregnant (drink a lot of water, for example), and they say to you, like it’s the first time you’ve heard it- We’ve been having babies for SO MANY YEARS, since we were cavemen, it’s all so unnecessary, etc etc- something to that effect. Or the older ladies like to say, In my day we could do whatever. I am always like, Yeah well in your day, or in the cave men days, do you know how many more infant deaths there were? Or maternal deaths? Stillbirths, birth defects, etc? The information we have now is power, not useless. UGH.. DRIVES ME NUTS!!!

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee

I thought this was really odd….I told 2 clients that I was expecting (before I saw them, because I didn’t want them to have to ask when I saw them..I’m 6 months and clearly pregnant, but still).  BOTH asked me if we had been trying a long time!?!  That’s so weird for people I don’t know on a personal level to ask me!  Was I supposed to be honest and say, “yeah it took 8 months and I had a miscarriage”?  And, one of the clients is male…even weirder!  But, then he went on to tell me that his daughter who is close to 40 has had problems, etc.  But still!

Post # 14
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Buzzing Beekeeper

Nothing really so far except the “Why are you having a midwife?” questions. I say “Because.”

I don’t feel like explaining my epidural/breastfeeding choices to people. I got enough shit about having an epidural/not breastfeeding the first time, you really can’t win no matter what you say. My lady parts are not up for discussion with the cashier at the grocery store.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

@Mrs. Spring:  I’m in that stage 2, the everything is pissing me off stage, I am 21 weeks, and last night my husband commented on how much of a bitch  I’m being at the moment, how far along are you, just wondering how long I may be remaining a bitch for, lol πŸ˜‰

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

@simpleandchic:   Lol, well, I’m 32 weeks, so I’m expecting it will last the rest of this pregnancy.  Maybe remind your husband that ice cream and nightly back massages go a long way toward relieving the bitchiness.  πŸ™‚

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