(Closed) Did you really just ask a pregnant woman that?

posted 8 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 32
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I’ve started responding “just fine” when people ask me how I’m feeling. Yes, it irritates me to answer that question 100 times a day, but I try to remember it’s not their fault that they are person 101 to ask. And that I really want to say, “Well, my sciatic nerve is killing me, I pee every hour, I have a friggin UTI, I have to be pushed off the couch some days AND putting on my own shoes is starting to get rough. Thanks for asking!”

My SIL asked if I was going to have an epidural . . . when I was 16 weeks pregnant. Took me off guard so I said “Probably”. Her response “Good, if you weren’t, I would definitely recommend getting one.”

Well, now that I’ve done some research, I’m planning on avoiding it if possible because I really want to be able to walk around during labor. But really – I have 22 weeks to go and haven’t taken any classes yet and you’re already asking me if I’m going to take drugs?!?

Post # 33
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I dont get too bothered by the comments. I just find it odd that people think its ok to just talk about my pregnancy at all. Especially strangers. EVERYONE comments on how small my belly is. When nthey ask how far along I am and I say 7  months they all freak out and ask if Im really sure and if the baby is growing ok. lol I just smile

Post # 34
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Goldilocks1107 OMG you have to say that to someone. Obv a friend, but if they ask how you are and you respond…. great other than the fact that I have a UTI! Too funny!

Post # 35
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I have been told – Your pooch is really getting out there.

thanks annoying co worker.

Post # 36
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

With my first, I had about 5 minutes where I was the appropriate size.  No one could believe I was pregnant, no one could believe I was pregnant, BAM! are you having twins?  Seriously?!  This time around, I’ve gotten:

1. Were you trying?  (How is this ever ok to ask?)

2. Are you going back to work?  (And then looking shocked when I say yes.  What year is this?  Are you willing to support my family so I can stay home?  Or would you like to come over to offer free nanny services?)

3. Where are you going to put the baby?  (We have a 3-BR house–master, daughter’s room, and home office for my job.  Baby will bunk with us for awhile and then the kids will share until we find a different house.  But come on.  I’m pretty sure other families have NOT had a room for each kid and managed to survive.)

Post # 37
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

While we aren’t TTC, you ladies give me lots of ideas for good comebacks.  If someone asks me if we were trying, I might say, “No, we weren’t even having sex!  But my middle name is Mary, so I guess God did it again.”

Post # 39
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Busy bee

Ohhhh my god, this post is killing me. I’m not pregnant but my coworkers are already kings and queens of inappropriate comments ESPECIALLY when it comes to people’s weight. I can only imagine the terrible things they will say when I’m pregnant. I don’t know if I’m looking forward to the guaranteed hilarity or if I’m terrified…

Post # 40
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Hahaha, I’m SO glad you said this! People ask me all the time “How are you feeling?” I’ve had a really difficult pregnancy, so I don’t know if I’m supposed to answer the question honestly or just make up some cheery answer to sound like everything is roses and butterflies. I usually answer honestly (depending on who is asking) and I’ve gotten horrified looks in response to what I’ve said. I guess women are expected to LOVE pregnancy and people expect happy answers to that question.. and I thought I would love being pregnant.. but it took me a really long time (towards the end of my 2nd trimester) to actually start to enjoy being pregnant. Now I’m in the uncomfortable, sleepless part of my 3rd trimester so I was given 2, mabye 3 weeks to enjoy this pregnancy. I’ve also gotten the “You look tired” comment a bunch too! That one makes me crazy because I take it as meaning “You look like hell today.” I’m struggling with tremendous insomnia (I’ve gone entire nights without a single hour of sleep). I’ve had NUMEROUS people ask me how I was feeling or say that I look tired, to which I begin responding by eplaining my insomnia. I’ve had people cut me off to say “You think you’re losing sleep now, wait until the baby gets here!” or  (my personal favorite) “You’re not getting enough sleep? None of us get enough sleep!” SERIOUSLY?? I’m sure you got more than an hour and a half of sleep last night! This is my first pregnancy, but I already have a long list of things to never say to a pregnant woman in the future!

Post # 41
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I get the ‘how are you feeling?’ all the time which is a little annoying because I’d rather talk about something else. However, most people keep saying, you’re that far along, you’re so tiny or you’re all stomach. It makes me feel great:) I don’t feel that way esp. feeling like I’ve gained so much, but it makes me happy. Another thing, I always read on here that I’d have random strangers coming up to me to touch my belly. I always said I’d be ok with that and not really care, but NOONE comes up to me. I must have a look on my face that says leave me alone. haha.

Post # 42
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I haven’t had anyone come up and touch my belly yet either. At least not as far as strangers go. That’s one thing I wasn’t looking forward to, and definitely expected to happen at least a couple times. We live in the northeast and I usually have my coat on while in public, so I wonder if that’s a deterrent. I’ve noticed a lot of men staring at me though. Can’t lie, it kinda creeps me out. lol

Post # 43
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I got my first, “was it planned?” comment yesterday.

Whether it was or wasn’t – what the heck? Does that mean you will/will not congratulate us just the same?

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