Post # 1
I am baffled with the thought of some people registering for gifts and then returning them for cash. This seems to be especially common with BedBathandBeyond registries since they have the easiest return policy. I’m just wondering why some people do this instead of just asking for cash. How is this not more offensive than just asking for cash or registering for honeyfund/something similar? I was just wondering because many people suggested this option to us to register and return gifts instead of registering for honeyfund.
Post # 3
Wait – are you saying brides intentionally register for things knowing ahead of time they will be returning it all for cash?
I haven’t even registered yet, but I’m only registering for a few physical items since we already live together (like serving trays and extra place settings for having dinner parties) and giving a charity option as well. We defiitely don’t need ‘stuff’, but I understand how annoying it would be if we don’t register for anything.
That sounds like a passive aggressive way to get cash.. I guess it ultimately doesn’t matter if you return the gift, but wouldn’t you be afraid of that person coming to your house and noticing you don’t have it anymore?
Post # 4
That is so crazy, I only returned a few things that I got duplicates of. I think it’s really rude to point blank ask for cash, everyone knows weddings are expensive and that money is usually really needed. I don’t think it’s right to register for a honeymoon either. If you wanna use wedding money to take one that’s fine, but should wait to see how much you get.
As for returning, sometimes, I change my mind, but I was really picky on the stuff I registered for to begin with, and I got a lot of stuff I need so I was happy.
I think people’s attitudes aren’t that great when it comes to recieving gifts, it’s a gift not an obligation, I know its hard sometimes to be happy with what you get but you have to assume the person got it because they thought it was something you would enjoy.
Also people buy presents cause you can get sales and coupons so you arent’ spending as much as it looks but the gift could still be really nice, if you give cash, people know exactly what you spent
Post # 5
Wow. I am a little surprised. This course of action NEVER even crossed my mind! But it makes sense. I don’t think I could do it!
I do know that registries aren’t perfect, so if we do get duplicates, we’ll return one of them. We’ll use the cash towards anything that’s remaining on our registry.
Post # 6
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
I’ve heard of people doing that, but I’m really surprised anywhere lets you get cash back! We’re just registering for things we need (i.e., everything!) so we won’t be returning anything.
I guess if EVERYTHING gets bought off our registry before the wedding we might put on some more questionable items just to give people who don’t want to give us cash some options… but not sure if we’ll keep them depending on how much we really want them/have space for them.
Post # 7
One time I was in Bloomingdales and the cashier told me that earlier that day a bride and her mom came in and returned EVERYTHING on her registry, thousands of dollars worth. They expected to get cash back, but of course they could only get a gift card in exchange. Apparently the bride threw a huge fit and then told the cashier she was going to use the gift card to buy some Gucci clothes and shoes. I can’t even describe how horrified that cashier was! I feel sorry for all those guests who took care to choose a nice gift.
Post # 8
I used to work at a bridal registry and we would get a lot of couples who would return everything (or almost everything) for various reasons. One time a couple came in because his work was transferring him out of the country and it was easier to return everything than ship it to Japan. Another couple returned everything and used it to buy all the china they registered for (they only received a few peices). I also had a couple return everything because they wanted a new bed. So for those reasons I can kind of see why they would do it.
But yeah, there are people out there who just return everything to either try and get cash (which a lot of places don’t do anymore) or to just buy whatever and I think that can be rude.
Post # 9
- Wedding: May 2018 - Coyaba Resort, Montego Bay
I exchanged things once we changed our minds about our place settings! I certainly didn’t return things to get cash.
Post # 10
I changed my mind on a lot of gifts- we were both registry happy at the time, and went a bit nuts with the gun (we do not need a gigantic black comfortor, for example). Secondly, we got duplicates- we received THREE crockpots. Thirdly, the man helping us at Macy’s told us to register for separate pots and pans, then return all of them and get the set and the extra cash. We didn’t register for anything for the explicit purpose of returning and getting cash (and didn’t know that option existed until later). I think that some people might do it because returning gifts is an expected, socially acceptable thing to do, while asking for money is not.
Post # 11
I had a friend who did exactly this! She purposefully registered at BB&B specifically b/c she knew she could return and get cash back! She also registered for a few small things at Crate & Barrel, so another friend and I got her a gift card there…their return policy is much stricter. I understand if you change your mind, but it’s crazy about what one poster saw in Bloomingdales!
Post # 12
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
Wow, the Bloomingdales story is CRAZY! On this topic, my mom JUST emailed me to tell me I should register for more things so I can return them. 😉
Post # 13
I don’t plan to do this, but the people that helped us register at Macy’s and C&B both told us we should. What meganmp1‘s Macy’s guy said actually sounds like a good suggestion, because the set is probably more than most guests would want to spend and a single pot/pan is a better option. Then if you didn’t get everything, returning them for the set would be a better deal.
Post # 14
I returned a couple things, but only because there were a few other things left on the registry that I wanted more than the things I returned… so not for cash, just exchanging for other gifts on the registry.
Post # 15
I actually plan to return everything! Then, get gift cards and repurchase them. I live in California and my shower will likely be in PA or NY so its the only way to get everything over here!
Post # 16
- Wedding: March 2005 - Westside Loft, New York
Honestly we just didn’t have room for everything in our small Manhattan apt. I know I’m horrible!