Post # 1
My mom wanted to throw me a shower, but I declined because I don’t particularly love them and have also lived with my Fiance for over 8 years and really don’t need anything for the home. (We also live in New York and have nowhere to store anything extra.) One thing I really don’t like about showers is that they are usually 100% women… also the games, but not all showers have games I know.
Did anyone regret not having a shower? We didn’t have an engagement party either – we are having a rehearsal/welcome dinner, the wedding, and bachelorette/bachelor parties before the big day. That seems like a lot to me… but now I’m getting tons of invitations to friends’ showers and am second-guessing myself.
Or, if you had a shower, any regrets? (Hopefully everyone got exactly what they wanted and loved it all!)
Post # 2
Was in a similar boat. One of my bridesmaids wanted to throw me a bridal shower and I was like nah. I’m lazy lol—I ended up keeping all the wedding gifts, even the items some guests bought outside of the registry, because am too lazy to return.
Don’t regret not having a shower and never have.
Post # 3
I was in a very similar situation too! My mom and aunts kept pushing for a shower, but I really didn’t want one. Did a bachelorette party (and hubby had his bachelor party too) and rehearsal dinner and that alone was plenty! It’s only been about two months, but no regrets from me! 🙂
Post # 4
No. Glad I didn’t have one.
Post # 5
I didn’t want a shower so we did a bridal brunch. I do not regret not having a traditional shower AT ALL. I hate the concept. It was nice to catch up with everyone over food and bubbles but totally unnecessary. I would not have minded skipping that either lol.
Post # 6
I had two, ugh.
One shower was supposed to be hosted by my bridesmaids and was supposed to be the only one. My Maid/Matron of Honor majorly fucked up and caused a lot of drama with it and it ended up only being my side of the family and was super awkward to be at. So awkward, I wished I didn’t even have a shower to begin with.
The second shower was a joint shower for DH and I that my Mother-In-Law planned and it was fantastic because it wasn’t a real shower but more of that engagement party/ “I Do BBQ” feeling. Mother-In-Law had put on the invite that gifts were not required, and we certainly didn’t want people to expect to bring a gift anyways. Although we ended up getting a lot of cards with checks or cash. It was a fantastic time because it was super informal and we just mingled and enjoyed the day.
If I could do it over, I would absolutely stick to the minimum. TBH, I kind of dread getting shower invites in the mail because I’m over the “tradition” of it being some female-only event and gifts are mandatory and then of course the games…. I could spend the 3 hours doing something a lot more useful with my time (no offense to my friends/family’s showers, lol).
Post # 7
No. I am not having one and at peace with it. I have plenty.
But… if you did want one then you could do a recipe shower. Everybody shows up with a recipe on an index card in lieu of a gift. Who you invite and what you do otherwise is pretty flexible.
Post # 8
We did a private courthouse wedding and then a small dinner for his family on the west coast and then a dinner for my family in the Midwest. Because of this, I think it would have been inappropriate to have a shower and no one offered so I’m sure everyone agreed lol.
I love wedding showers and I think they’re fun but I also think overall they’re a bit outdated. You don’t need to wait until you’re married to move in with someone and therefore you don’t need to wait until you’re married to buy household items. I think it’s cool to get nicer versions of some things, but overall showers aren’t as necessary as when women all went from their parent’s home to their husband’s home.
I am an avid cook and I love homemaking so we didn’t really need anything. I don’t regret not having a shower. Again, I think they’re fun and I enjoy going to other people’s showers though!
Post # 9
No, I’m glad I didn’t have one. I’ve been to 2 and didn’t love either one. We already have enough stuff, I HATE getting more STUFF. The last one I went to everyone gifted her all this beautiful cookware, which was of course very nice of them, but having lived with the bride for years I couldn’t help reminiscing over the several times she managed to light her frozen pizza or bagel on fire…LOL. I’m sure her husband appreciates the cookware!
Post # 10
Nope. I didn’t do any of the pre-wedding parties and have zero regrets.
Post # 11
No engagement party or bridal shower, I did have a bachelorette party which was amazing. But I don’t regret not having a bridal shower at all… we didn’t want gifts, and I also don’t like being the center of attention so I would have just been really uncomfortable having one.
Post # 12
- Wedding: June 2019 - City, State
I would have hated a bridal shower!
Post # 13
No regrets! It felt gift-grabby to have a shower, as we already have everything we need. We also skipped bachelor/bachelorette parties and the engagement party.
Post # 14
I’m not having one for lots of reasons, the main being I hate going to bridal showers lol.
Post # 15
We were thrown a co-ed shower and even though initially my fiancé and I were disinterested in it, we ended up having a lot of fun. We were really surprised after the event that we actually enjoyed the cliche games. So I’m really glad we were pushed into doing it.