(Closed) Did you regret wearing heels on the big day?

posted 5 years ago in Shoes
  • poll: To heel or not heel?
    I wore heels over 3" all night and had no problem with it! : (1 votes)
    14 %
    I wore heels and quickly changed into flats/ sandals! : (1 votes)
    14 %
    I wore flats/ sandals! : (3 votes)
    43 %
    other : (2 votes)
    29 %
  • Post # 3
    384 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I haven’t had my wedding yet, but I wear heels everyday for pretty much everything. Everyone expects me to wear heels. But they don’t know at the end of the day my feet are EXHAUSTED. For the wedding, I’m wearing flat sandals (it is NOT a  beach wedding, no where near the beach ppl always ask lol) bc I don’t want the add’l issue of my feet hurt.


    That being said, those are beautiful shoes, I say wear those until ur feet hurt then slip into somethng comfier!!

    Post # 4
    3424 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @lealorali:  I think you could rock those for a few hours…not that high of a heel, do you have back ups?

    Post # 5
    1880 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I wore heels and my feet were fine – but mine were the Hey Lady padded ballroom dancing shoes. What really killed my feet was walking everywhere on our honeymoon, haha.

    Post # 6
    770 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

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    Post # 7
    725 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I wore ridiculous 5″ platform heels.  Since I needed the height and the fact that they were not returnable I broke them in for about a month and a half.  It made a huge difference.

    I wore my shoes for my outdoor noon ceremony with hot chocolate on the patio.  I did have a break (for ahout 1.5 hrs) when I put boots on to go up a chair lift.  The heels went back on for the remainder of the day and well into the evening.  I did switch into a shorter (4″) platform around 9 pm and they lasted until midnight when I gave up.  Because my shoes were platforms they didnt feel as tall as they were and quite comfy. 

    As for pain…I think the adrenaline and excitement helped as they didn’t feel sore that day or night……BUT….let me tell you…the next day was another story.  They were so swollen and had numbness in the toes for an entire week.  Other than that nothing…no rubbing or blisters.  I would definitely do it again.  My hubby is over a foot taller than me so heels were needed.

    Good luck…I suggest wearing your shoes around the house especially when you are just standing.  It will break them in making them more comfy on the day.  You should be fine with your shoes as they are strapped on really well and a smallish heel!  Very pretty!

    Post # 8
    268 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    My heels were about as high as yours and I wore them until around 9pm when I changed to flip flops. My advice is to definitely wear them as much as you can in advance. I took several hours of dance lessons in mine, so I was ok wearing them for most of the day. Good luck!

    Post # 9
    624 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    Unless you really need the height, I say go with flats because no one will really see them anyway.  Thats what I am doing, I love heels, but I am always in pain after about an hour and I dont want to have that added stress on the big day.  The flats I am getting are going to be super cute though and they will look great with my dress  🙂


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    Post # 10
    10397 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper

    I had two pair of shoes, one for the ceremony that were about 3 inches tall and one pair of comfortable kitten heels  that I  changed into  during the reception.  Flats can be even more uncomfortable than a modest heel, especially if there’s  no arch support.  

    Post # 11
    2747 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Heck no! I wore 5 inches!! 5 inch wedges in the sand and then 5 inch Louboutins the rest of the day and for the at home reception!!


    I also had a full insole pad which helped. =)

    Post # 12
    4656 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @FutureMrsJohnston:  Amen. I’m choosing flats for comfort and to make the height difference more obvious in pictures. Nobody will really see them anyway unless you want them to. I bought nice black ballet slippers and added spikes and studs to them for some personality. 🙂

    Post # 13
    1748 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I wore a <2″ heel for the ceremony and photos. I kicked off my shoes for post-ceremony photos that were in the pouring rain and had a pair of Toms for the rest of the night. If you choose to make a switch from ceremony to reception, like I did, make sure there isn’t an enormous difference in heel height between the two. My heels were quite short and yet I was still stepping all over my gown during the reception with my Toms on.

    Post # 14
    2055 posts
    Buzzing bee

    @mrsbruff2b:  +1 I don’t believe in wearing heels less than 4″ (and my wedding day will be no different). I am wearing multiple pairs throughout the day, anyway. So, if my feet do get tired by the end of the night, I have my trusty, super-comfortable 5″ slingbacks to keep my feet happy. 🙂

    @lealorali:  OP, if you are not used to wearing heels, there is no need to torture yourself/add extra stress. Like PPs have suggested, just wear some sparkly flats, and you’ll have both pretty shoes and happy feet. 

    Post # 16
    2196 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I really think it all depends on whether or not you’re used to wearing heels.  I’m most certainly not (I wore my suede covered wedges out to dinner last night, they’re about 4″ but I figured I might get away with it because I only had to walk from the car to the restaurant and back… BIG mistake) because of knee, ankle & feet issues, but I didn’t want to go completely flat (as my Future Mother-In-Law said, it’s better to have a kitten heel to tip you forward so you walk more gracefully – for the ceremony at least) so I’ve designed a 1.5″ wedge through Shoes of Prey.  I definitely think a wedge is going to be easier.  

    The other thing to consider is where your ceremony is, whether you’ll be on grass or sand (I’m likely to be on both!) or uneven ground etc as to whether heels will work for you.

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