Post # 1
I’m trying to decide on my shoes and i know that I am a huge baby about high heels, so I don’t know if I should wear them on the big day. I wear flats 99% of the time, but I love the way heels look so I’m torn. I also know they make me stand up straight which would be good for pictures, but I don’t want my feet and my knee (tendonitis) to hurt the whole day. Do I go with the less glamorous flats, or go for the heels and suck it up?
Post # 3
I just got my heels today 3″ and im kinda of scared to tell you the truth. Because I never wear heels but like you said I love the way they look. So I will suck it up for the pictures and Ceremony and they will come off at the reception.
Post # 4
This is my plan – find some awesome heels and have them for getting ready photos and then our actual portraits and bridal party pics. Then wear flats for the actual ceremony and reception where my feet will be out of sight! I haven’t found these shoes yet, but I know there is no way I can dance all night in heels. My other option is to just wear my heels for ceremony and pics and then taken them off for the reception – but our ceremony will be about 30 minutes long and that will be potentially painful!
Post # 5
I wore 4 1/4″ heels and I completely regretted it. The pictures looked great, but my feet were killing me. I actually ended up in white flip flops because I was in so much pain (especially while we were at the park taking pictures).
Post # 6
I had 2 pairs of shoes that I alternated on the big day, one was a set of heels that I wore for the pictures, the aisle walk, and for a few dances, and one was a pair of glittery flats that I wore between pictures for walking around, and for the majority of the reception … it was the best for getting the look I wanted, while being comfortable!
Post # 7
I wore 4″ heels for the ceremony and some photos, then went to flats for the reception and eventually barefoot for the rest of the evening.
The dogs were definitely barking toward the end of photos.. bu they were so pretty…
Also, Darling Husband is a full foot taller than me. We can’t kiss with both us standing up, unless he lifts me up, or really bends over which would have looked awkward.
Post # 8
I had 4′ heels for the ceremony and by the time I walked back up the aisle, my freakin toes were numb. You should have seen me. I was standing in the lobby of the theatre where we got married yelling for our DOC to track down my flats and whining like a baby while my mom crawled under my dress to get my shoes off. Not my finest moment.
But seriously, couldn’t feel my toes.
Post # 9
I loved my shoes completely, and I don’t regret buying them at all, but I will be honest and say the thought crossed my mind that it was kind of ridiculous for me to put up with the pain they caused in my feet and the inconvenience of them sinking into the grass (heel stoppers didn’t solve the problem completely) when they weren’t visible at all when I was in my dress. Mine were only 3″ high but I have teeny tiny feet so that’s still a steep slope for me, and by the time we were done with portraits my feet were screaming, and we still had the first dance to go before I could change into flats.
The shoes looked gorgeous in the photos by themselves while we were getting ready, and in the photos where I was putting them on, but honestly I kind of think it would have been a better idea to put them away after that and just do the photos, ceremony and reception in flats. Seriously, my gown went to the floor, no one could see the shoes. (Ok maybe I would have worn them for the ceremony and first dance, since you could kind of see them when I kicked forward as I walked, and as we swirled around on the dance floor.) Again though, I’m super glad I bought them because they were gorgeous in the photos that they were in. So that’s my advice, buy gorgeous heels and let your photographer take pictures of them by themselves and of you putting them on, and then change into flats for the rest of everything. Sneaky but practical.
Post # 10
I understand your pain. I CAN’T wear high heels and be comfortable, the arch of heels really makes my feet swell (and I wear flats 100% of the time). Thing is, I wanted a colored shoe (blue) and … well, let’s just say blue flats don’t have the same affect as blue heels IMO. lol
So, my mother told me to go with a 1” heel. I was nervous, ordered them anyway (listening to mothers advice) and turns out … golden! Little did I know, LOOKED like a heel, FEELS like a flat. 🙂 Best of both worlds.
BE COMFORTABLE on your wedding day. The last thing you want to remember from the day is how bad your feet hurt. Don’t let the dogs barkin’ ruin the evening or memory. Good luck!
Post # 11
I hate flats because they make me look stumpy. The closest I come to flats are a pair of riding boots that have a 1/2″ heel. My favorite shoes are minimum 4″ and I couldn’t imagine wearing anything less on my wedding day.
But if you aren’t used to wearing heels I don’t suggest wearing them on their wedding day. It has taken me years to get my feet conditioned to the torture that heels bring.
Post # 12
I’m going to have at least a 3″ heel. I’m between two pairs of shoes now… one is 3.25″ and the other is 4.25″. I wore 4″ heels as a bridesmaid for my brother’s wedding & kept them on the entire day and through the whole reception and after party. Pretty much the only time I was sitting was during dinner. My feet were a little sore by the end of the night but not too bad. And I personally have a much easier time walking in higher heels than in low heels. And I’m not a fan of flats. I’m planning on having some platform flipflops for after dinner, cake, & the first dance part of the reception.
Post # 13
at the job i used to have for 4 years, i wore 3-5 inch heels every single day for 8 or 9 hours. (no, i wasn’t a stripper) hahaha. heels don’t bother me at all, and i love wearing them. i feel leaner and sexier when i wear them. the heels i got for my wedding are 4.75 inches and i will probably wear them the entire day/night.
Post # 14
I prefer flats but I love the way heels look. I’ll suck it up even when we go out for the evening so of course I’ll suck it up for our wedding day. However I got really lucky, I invested and splurged on really beautiful gorgeous COMFORTABLE heels!! Also, I suggest you BREAKING YOUR SHOES IN!! Before your wedding, wear your shoes around the house for a couple of days to really break them in. It’ll help a lot!! Best of luck!!
Post # 15
I like heels and I like the height they give me. I was realistic and stuck with 3 inches. However, after standing for the entire church ceremony, my feet were over the heels. I had bought flat sandals to change into but they were in my parents car and we went off to take photos on some rocks near the ocean. I couldn’t climb the rocks in my heels. My BMs all changed into their flip flops and I borrowed a pair of black Reefs that one of my BMs happened to have in her car. Ultimately my shoes would have looked better in the photos (so would the BMs, I didn’t even realize until after that they never put their shoes back on) but were not practical for the location. I put my shoes back on for introductions and first dance and ended up throwing on a pair of flip flops from the basket we provided for guests. It was easier than asking someone to get mine from the car and ultimately I was having so much fun dancing it didn’t matter what was on my feet. So, think about practicality, if you’re having an outdoor ceremony on grass, I would suggest wedges or flats. If you won’t be standing so much go for the heels. It won’t hurt to have 2 pairs of shoes.
Post # 16
practice wearing them and bring a pair of flats!