(Closed) Did you REGRET your first look AT ALL

posted 6 years ago in Photos/Videos
  • poll: Did you REGRET your first look AT ALL
    No, I loved it : (48 votes)
    84 %
    No but I kind of wished I left it to walking down the aisle : (1 votes)
    2 %
    Yes i regretted it : (8 votes)
    14 %
  • Post # 3
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I think if only one half of the couple wants it you will end up regretting it. When both are on board they seem to always love it, I wanted to do one myself. But as little as my Fiance cared about most of the wedding details, seeing me for the first time that day as I walked down the aisle was really important to him, so we kept it traditional. Although you know, looking back I wish he’d come around because I was so nervous coming down the aisle that I couldn’t even enjoy the moment, I do sometimes wonder if that would of been different if we’d done a first look.

    Post # 4
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    14441 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Nope, no regrets.  My husband initially did not want one either and wanted the first time to be as I came down the isle.  I wanted more time to take pictures and he finally warmed up to the idea when I explained it would be a private moment with just us followed by some pictures.  And it did not take away from the isle walk at all!  The feeling he got from me walking down it isle was not effected at all by the fact that he already knew what I looked like.

    Post # 5
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    200 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I loved it.  We were both nervous wrecks before we saw one another; I’m glad we were able to calm down and spend some time together before having to deal with a bunch of other people.

    And I talked my husband into it by explaining that it would let us attend the cocktail hour and eat all the wonderful hors d’oeuvres we had just picked out.  That was enough to change his “But it’s tradition to wait until the ceremony!” into a “Hell yes! Where do I sign up?”

    Post # 6
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    1088 posts
    Bumble bee

    we’re waiting for me to walk down the aisle.. but that’s because we both want it like a PP said on here… I feel like you both need to decide on one thing that’ll make you both happy

    Post # 7
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    741 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Well, we’ll be doing a civil ceromony in France first, and then a few months later do a Jewish wedding in the states…so can’t really wait to walk down the aisle (I love my dress and don’t want a second one!). I am super excited for a first look photo shoot! I actually haven’t seen the trend in France, and only heard of it a few months ago when I went to the states for a friend’s wedding. I’ll have to explain the concept to the photographer…

    Post # 8
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    630 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    Well…we didn’t exactly have a first look. We didn’t even think about one. But he was late and from the room I was in I could see him go into the room in the church where we got married. He didn’t see me. It calmed me down a lot, seeing him, but it didn’t stop me from almost fainting as I started to walk down the aisle!

    Post # 9
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    1577 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    My FH actually suggested we do a first look and the majority of our photography before the wedding.(not married yet, so I can’t give you an exact answer)

    He had talked to a colleague about her wedding and she did a first look and LOVED it.

    Post # 10
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    492 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    We had the Jewish tradition of a veiling ceremony and ketubah signing before walking down the aisle, so it made sense to us to take pics beforehand. We did all of our posed pics before guests arrived, so we had lots of time for pics and didn’t have to worry about it during cocktail hour.

    Post # 11
    Bee
    91 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2011 - Catholic church followed by a botanical conservatory

    Mr. FC decided he wanted to see my dress for the first time as a surprise coming down the aisle… we didn’t really have time for a first look so early in the morning anyway, but he loved doing it the traditional way.

    I dunno, if your Fiance wants the surprise the traditional way… maybe let him have it? But I think you both have to agree beforehand or someone will be let down! Good luck!

    Post # 12
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    378 posts
    Helper bee

    I didn’t regret it at all! It was our favoritepart of the day! We had so much fun and weswerve both so relax. The photos from the first look are our favorite too because we just look so happy and in love and it’s much easier to relax like that when everyone else isn’t standing there.

    Post # 13
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    567 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    We are waiting he is so adament about it

    Post # 14
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    133 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    I don’t regret it, but it was mostly logistical. We took a lot of pictures before the wedding. We took our first look pictures, then hopped in the limo together with the bridal party and headed over to the church. We took photos outside the church as well. My only slight regret is that our first look pictures aren’t great.

    I saw Darling Husband a few times that day before our first look (granted I wasn’t in my dress and veil). He came by my hotel room around 1 AM, and once or twice in the morning to pick up stuff that he needed.We talked on the phone a few times too.

    Post # 15
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    357 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I found blog about this and the photographers all said that you get the most honest reaction from your Fiance when you have a first look in private, they aren’t trying to keep it together, they are just in the moment… I think it was on Austin Wedding blog, but there were pictures posted of a couples first look and then her walking down the aisle and he was just as emotional in both, they were great pictures. We are doing a first look in private and it is the thing my Fiance is most looking forward to. I love that it will make us more relaxed, I know a girl that doesn’t remember anything from her ceremony because she was so nervous, she really regrets not doing a first look. If you are considering it I really suggest it’s private, I was at one wedding were they did the first look in front of 7 bridesmaids and groomsmen, parents and grandparents, it was a little awkward and I don’t think they were able to have a true reaction to the moment because everyone was just standing around staring at them.

    Post # 16
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    18643 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    Not one little bit.  It was perfect, allowed us time together and the walk down the aisle was still super special.

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