Post # 1
Because apparently, you just have to. Amongst the overwhelming number of other things that are “traditional” that we “must do”. My mom honestly appears shocked and appalled every time we mention doing something *gasp* differently than she did at her wedding (45 years ago).
Sorry, this wasn’t supposed to turn into a rant. It’s just not something we ever did at our house growing up. Fiance and I are not particularly religious people, but we are Christian.
Did you say grace, or did someone else? If so, who? Are you religious and was your reception following a religious ceremony?
Note: I’m not opposed to the idea, I just can’t ever remember being at a wedding where it was done and hadn’t originally considered it.
Post # 3
- Wedding: September 2011 - Bent Creek Winery (Livermore, California); Reception: Family Residence (San Ramon, California)
We did! And it was fine. My dad said it for us, and it was a really lovely prayer. I don’t think it was out of place or anything, and it was something both Darling Husband and I wanted.
Post # 4
@Juliepants: We didn’t. We are not religious and had people of many different faiths attend. We didn’t feel that we needed it nor did we want to offend anyone.
It was frowned upon my IL’s but it wasn’t their wedding 🙂
Post # 5
We just had our DJ do a simple standard type blessing. Short & sweet.
Post # 6
Fiance told me we have to do this last week. I’m not really shocked since his family always says grace but I feel like I should have some say in it. I am not religious at all, my family never says grace & to top it off we’re having a secular ceremony.
ETA: I tried to use the “our guests are all of different faiths” excuse for why we shouldn’t do it but Fiance pointed out that we’ve also been to Muslim weddings/receptions and they said their version of grace as well.
Post # 7
We won’t be doing it, but then we are not religious. If I was a guest at a wedding that made us say grace, I would find it a bit uncomfortable, but I would get over it.
Post # 8
@Juliepants: Yes, we chose to have my Mom say grace at our reception. We (namely I) chose her because she is one of my best friends and I wanted to give her an opportunity to speak to our guests (since everyone else and there brother did lol). She kept it brief…blessed our marriage and our meal (no one was “forced” to pray with her). By The Way, our ceremony was not religious, but we did our best to include components from both of our religions. I am a non-practicing Catholic and my Darling Husband is a non-practicing Jew.
Post # 9
My Darling Husband is Catholic and I am agnostic. I actually thought of it in the middle of the night, hours before the wedding. We had a friend to an ultra short one. It didn’t bother me, and I knew it meant a lot of my husband’s family.
Post # 10
no. we are not religious so it’s not something we considered.
Post # 11
Nope. The place would have probably been struck by lightening.
Post # 12
Honestly I don’t want to, but probably will. Mr C isn’t very religious, nor is his family. However my mom is having a fit that we’re not getting married in a church so I’m thinking of having grace to try and soothe her a bit.
Post # 12
We are not really super religious (DH and I) but alot of our family and friends are so my godmother said a dinner blessing. It was very genaric and not really religion specific, but it was nice.
Post # 13
I have seen this done one or two times…. but no way in hell are we doing this. We are not religious in anyway and it would be a sham for us to suddenly pretend to be just because someone says we “have to”. Sometimes the non-traditional road to marriage and weddings is a difficult one 😉 Do what you and your dearest feel is the right thing for the two of you!
Post # 14
Nope. And I have never been to a wedding with grace! Perhaps it’s because we are in NYC – but I am not even sure I knew the religions/lack-there-of of half of my guests. There were probably at least 5 different religions represented at our wedding. It would be at best awkward and uncomfortable.
Post # 15
Fiance and me are not religious in that sense, so, no. If people want to pray at my wedding, or over their food, they can do so without anyone conducting it. Public school style. I won’t encourage or discourage it.