(Closed) Did you say grace before the meal at your wedding reception?

posted 7 years ago in Reception
  • poll: Did you (or someone) say grace before the meal at your wedding reception?
    Yes : (19 votes)
    40 %
    No : (28 votes)
    60 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2011 - Bent Creek Winery (Livermore, California); Reception: Family Residence (San Ramon, California)

    We did! And it was fine. My dad said it for us, and it was a really lovely prayer. I don’t think it was out of place or anything, and it was something both Darling Husband and I wanted. 

    Post # 4
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    @Juliepants:  We didn’t. We are not religious and had people of many different faiths attend. We didn’t feel that we needed it nor did we want to offend anyone.

    It was frowned upon my IL’s but it wasn’t their wedding 🙂

    Post # 5
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    We just had our DJ do a simple standard type blessing.  Short & sweet.

    Post # 6
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Fiance told me we have to do this last week. I’m not really shocked since his family always says grace but I feel like I should have some say in it. I am not religious at all, my family never says grace & to top it off we’re having a secular ceremony. 

    ETA: I tried to use the “our guests are all of different faiths” excuse for why we shouldn’t do it but Fiance pointed out that we’ve also been to Muslim weddings/receptions and they said their version of grace as well. 

    Post # 7
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    We won’t be doing it, but then we are not religious. If I was a guest at a wedding that made us say grace, I would find it a bit uncomfortable, but I would get over it.

    Post # 8
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 1999

    @Juliepants:  Yes, we chose to have my Mom say grace at our reception.  We (namely I) chose her because she is one of my best friends and I wanted to give her an opportunity to speak to our guests (since everyone else and there brother did lol). She kept it brief…blessed our marriage and our meal (no one was “forced” to pray with her).  By The Way, our ceremony was not religious, but we did our best to include components from both of our religions.  I am a non-practicing Catholic and my Darling Husband is a non-practicing Jew.   

    Post # 9
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    My Darling Husband is Catholic and I am agnostic.   I actually thought of it in the middle of the night, hours before the wedding.  We had a friend to an ultra short one.   It didn’t bother me, and I knew it meant a lot of my husband’s family.

    Post # 10
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2011

    no.  we are not religious so it’s not something we considered.

    Post # 11
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    Sugar bee

    Nope.  The place would have probably been struck by lightening. 

    Post # 12
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    Honestly I don’t want to, but probably will.  Mr C isn’t very religious, nor is his family.  However my mom is having a fit that we’re not getting married in a church so I’m thinking of having grace to try and soothe her a bit.

    Post # 12
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    5110 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 2011

    We are not really super religious (DH and I) but alot of our family and friends are so my godmother said a dinner blessing. It was very genaric and not really religion specific, but it was nice. 

    Post # 13
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    Helper bee

    I have seen this done one or two times…. but no way in hell are we doing this. We are not religious in anyway and it would be a sham for us to suddenly pretend to be just because someone says we “have to”. Sometimes the non-traditional road to marriage and weddings is a difficult one 😉 Do what you and your dearest feel is the right thing for the two of you!

    Post # 14
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Nope. And I have never been to a wedding with grace! Perhaps it’s because we are in NYC – but I am not even sure I knew the religions/lack-there-of of half of my guests. There were probably at least 5 different religions represented at our wedding. It would be at best awkward and uncomfortable. 

    Post # 15
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Fiance and me are not religious in that sense, so, no. If people want to pray at my wedding, or over their food, they can do so without anyone conducting it. Public school style. I won’t encourage or discourage it.

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