Post # 1
How did you bees go about “making your vows match up” I’ve read alot about making sure the timing is similar and that you aren’t goign to say the same thing, or that you are sayig the same thing etc etc.
Also my FI wants my vows by July ( we are getting married in September) so whatever thats ok, I wrote them out and they are really sweet I think. Im assuming he is goign to do something special as a wedding gift with them, Im trying not to figure it out and ruin the surprise (I always do that!)
The thing is, I don’t want him to see them before, I want to say them to him during our ceremony for the first time….. Any thoughts or suggestions on A. how to match them up and B. avoid him seeing them but still give him the vows so he can do what he is planning
Post # 3
*BUMP* anybody have anything to say about vows?
Post # 4
I think you should compare vows with him before the ceremony. DH didn’t know where to start with his, but after he read mine, he wrote his vows and they were beautiful. You don’t want your vows to be “uneven” or extremely different, and honestly when he says them to you at your wedding in front of all your family and friends, it will be sooo different from you just reading them off a page.
If you are absolutely, completely opposed to reading his vows ahead of time, you could ask a trusted friend to read both of them just to be sure that they “match.”
Post # 5
@Pomapoo: I like the friend idea, thank you, now to find a friend who is neutral!
Any other bees write your own vows, have some advice or stories of weddings where the vows were written. Were the beautiful, cliche, boring??