Post # 1
My boyfriend and I are hoping to get married sometime late next summer, so I know a proposal is on the way. Just wondering if ya’ll knew your SO was going to propose and how soon did you know he was planning on proposing? I can’t help but feel a little bit disappointment that it’s not going to be 100% a complete surprise, but at the same time I’ve realized that that just isn’t realistic most of the time. It seems like lots of couples talk about marriage before getting engaged, so the surprise is mostly about HOW he proposes! Would love to hear ya’lls stories! 🙂
Post # 2
Yup, I knew it could come anytime after he got the ring. He ended up proposing about 6 weeks after. I had the same worries you did — mainly, that it wouldn’t be special bc I was half expecting it. But trust me, when the time came, it was absolutely amazing, every bit of it. Even if you know it’s coming, you don’t know all the details of it and you don’t know all the amazing things your SO will say and the look in his eyes when he says it.
So really, don’t worry at all and just try to enjoy the pre-engagement build-up as much as possible because once he pops the question, it’ll be a whirlwind and you’ll be married before you know it.
Post # 3
It was a complete surprise to me. Fiance and I were in a long-distance relationship, and although we’d talked about marriage, I always figured that first I’d move down there, and we’d see how we were together in person all the time, THEN we’d decide if marriage was still in the books for us. Instead, he proposed when he came up to visit me and meet my family!
Oddly enough, at the time, I was working with a guy who is a medium. I didn’t necessarily believe that he had any kind of abilities, especially since he once did a reading for me and not a single person he described or word he related was familiar or on the mark at all. But he told me a couple of times that he thought my guy was going to propose on this trip. I kept telling him no way, because we’d talked about it and decided to see how things go in person first… but you can bet this co-worker was one of the first people I told, admitting he was right!
Post # 4
I did not see the proposal coming. My husband was in the military and he was leaving to be stationed out of the country for 18 months so we were mainly focusing on spending time together before he left. I thought we were going to get engaged after he got back but little did I know, he popped the question about 2 weeks before he left overseas. He wanted me to feel secure about our long distance relationship to come and man, did it help. Every time I missed him and felt like the distance was too much, I looked down at my finger and knew it would be worth it. Now, 3 years later, we finally got married in April! We had a LONG engagement haha
Post # 5
- Wedding: October 2015 - Haddonfield, NJ
It’s funny – we looked at rings together, talked about it for about a year. I wouldn’t call myself waiting, since that’s not how I felt? The day he proposed he was so nervous all day, we were planning a big party with all of our friends, so I chalked it up to that. Even though he was being so weird! He kept wanting move furniture and I was like “what why?!” It turns out literally everyone knew about it. He wanted to clear the room so they could all hold candles. So cheesy, I loved it. I think I literally said “What the f***” when I walked in. Haha. I was so suprised! I wasn’t expecting it for like another year.
Post # 6
I absolutely knew it was coming. My husband can’t keep anything from me and had showed me the ring after he bought it and I pretty much knew he’d propose on Christmas and was worried it wouldn’t be everything it should be because I knew–WRONG. The feeling that rushed through me when he got on one knee and asked me to marry him is one I will never forget!!
Post # 7
andielle: I had no idea he had bought a ring and wasn’t really expecting a proposal (although I wanted one). I bought a house and he planned on all of our parents coming to see it and going to dinner the night I closed so my friends were certain he was going to propose that day too but I didn’t get my hopes up and thought they were crazy. Turned out they were right! After we left the registry of deeds we drove the 15 minutes over to the house and I was so excited about the house I forgot about my friends’ prediction so it was a total shock when he dropped to one knee on the front porch!
Post # 8
Yes and no. We planned on getting married this year. Last year in the spring we started really talking about it and doing things, like viewing venues. We reserved a venue. I knew he meant it because we were really planning but yet there wasn’t any ring–people seemed to have a harder time with that than I did. I really didn’t care about getting one, truth be told. I pretty much figured that I’d get one after he saved up–maybe a couple of months ago in April (I had April in my head, for some reason). Then, in June of last year, a month after we reserved the venue, I got my proposal! So I knew it was coming, but didn’t know when….it caught me off guard and it was wonderful.
Post # 9
I’m in the same siutation as you! We’re in a bit of an odd situation. I go to grad school in the UK and he lives in NY. We’ve already picked out the ring and have it, and know we are shooting for April/May 2017 for a wedding, so we decided to look at venues and put down deposits this summer while I’m home (the next available time would be when I’m home in December, and believe it or not, some venues get booked that far in advance in NYC). I know the proposal is coming sometime this summer before I head back to school, I just don’t know when. I’ve definitely been on pins and needles since I got back, and can’t wait for when he pops the question! It won’t be a complete surprise but I’m sure I will be surprised regardless haha
Post # 10
andielle: I knew it was coming sometime, I just didn’t know how soon – so that portion surprised me!
He had mentioned going to look at rings in January 2014, and we finally found a Friday night that worked at the end of January. We only went to one store, but it was the store that had the style of ring that I really liked. So, we tried on a few styles similar and settled on a couple to decide on – or see if we wanted to go other places and browse. My big thing was that the ring that I ansolutely loved was way more then what I wanted him to spend, so I suggested we keep looking.
Well, a little over a week later (a Monday), he bought the ring that I fell in love with and proposed the Saturday of the same week. He wanted to do it the day that we were having an annual family/friends get together at a local USHL hockey game – so he needed to act quick!
He was always about a timeline of 5 years, which I thought was ridiculous based on our age (we were already in our 30’s), so I figured he’d wait 6+ months before actually proposing. He proposed after dating for over 3 years, and we got married a month shy of our 4-year dating anniversary.
Post # 11
I knew it was coming mainly because we ordered the ring together. So I knew it was on route with USPS….
But it delivered a day earlier than expected, meaning I wouldn’t have to wait another week for Fiance to pick it up in MI (We’re in Canada). So he still managed to surprise me!
Post # 12
I knew it was coming in a vague sense (I’m a firm beliver that if you aren’t both on the same page about planning to be married then he shouldn’t be asking) we were moving in together at the end of the summer (he proposed in April) and just by how our life would work out with the military and how long I wanted to plan a wedding I knew it would be soon-ish.
I was definitely caught by surprise by the actual proposal though. It happened on the one night in months that I had written off as being all about him becuase it was his senior night for ROTC. We were going to a super nice formal dinner and it was a military function so it was all about his graduating class of midshipmen (all close friends of ours and their SO’s). He had to jump through some hoops with his superior officers to get approval to make a scene like that but it was totally worth it. The odd thing was is I was so stressed about getting my dress, hair, makeup, etc done that day and everything went eerily well- I was dressed and ready early for the one and only time in my life (I even had time to do my nails after I was dressed!) so I was convinced something disasterous was going to happen any minute. Little did I know that it was just everything falling perfectly into place instead!
Post # 13
andielle: Still waiting on my proposal, but I had to ask if you are from Louisiana. Your profile pic of Oak Alley brought up the question. 🙂
Post # 14
andielle: Complete surprise proposal. As a matter of fact, Darling Husband had been extremely quiet all day and I thought he was upset with me.
Post # 15
I was completely surprised. We had talked about getting married and I kept jokingly hinting at him asking me for quite a while. He would always tell me “I will marry you”. He had also said something about being together for 2 years because he was with his previous wife for about 2 years so he wanted to make absolute sure that I wouldn’t leave him. I always thought that I wouldn’t be surprised, and I was a little disappointed. But 2 days after our 2 year mark and a day before we left for vacation which also happened to be and my birthday, he proposed! I was genuinely surprised Because I thought we were just doing birthday stuff! Lol hopefully your SO can be creative like that!