(Closed) Did you see your ring before the proposal?

posted 6 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Did you see your ring/know the EXACT ring you were getting before he proposed?

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  • Post # 16
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    Helper bee

    I really wanted him to pick my engagement ring without any consultation from me.  However, he really wanted to get a general idea of what I like so we have been shopping together, which ended up being a good thing.  We went completely against what we were going to get and decided to go with a solitaire for now and then if I want to switch the setting later, I will.  We also discovered that we have completely different tastes in diamonds.  He likes warmer diamonds and I like stark white diamonds.  He loves princess cut and I like them but don’t love them as much as he does.  Needless to say, he is afraid to pick out the diamond without me now. 

    Our jeweler is bringing in a bunch of diamonds within our price range, so my hope is to show him my favorite diamonds, show him my favorite settings, and then leave to let him pick the combination without me.  I want there to be some element of surprise!! So, hopefully this will work out and he will feel confident enough to make the final choice without me. 

    I don’t think there is any bad luck with seeing the ring before hand though!

     

     

    Post # 18
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    587 posts
    Busy bee

    For me, I looked a lot online and sent him pictures, info. So I told him my fav and the diamond I liked best but never seen it in person. So it’ll be a surprise when he does propose 🙂

    Post # 19
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2016

    We designed my ring together so I saw all the computer pics of the design. Butttt…my ring wasn’t complete when he proposed so he proposed with a stand in. He gave me my ring a little over a week ago and it’s more than I could have ever imagined. Seeing it on the computer is nothing like seeing it in real life and on my finger.

    Post # 20
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

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    ali1005:  I picked it out.  He bought it right in front of me.  And then I kept bugging to see it again (It was in my purse (the only carry on we had, we were flying home) and we’d agreed he’d keep it until he proposed.  

    During a massive delay I wore him down enough that he told me to go ahead and take a look.  I tore into the bag and the wrapping and opened the ring box and it was gone!  No ring!  (He’d taken it out when I’d run to the restroom after screening – the line had been long!)  When I looked up he was down on one knee.

    Post # 21
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    Bumble Beekeeper

    Fiance and I went together to look at rings. I gave him a few options for ring settings, and he had free reign on the stone. I knew he was going to choose one of the settings, but I had no idea what the final product would look like. He did a great job!

    Post # 22
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    i picked it out and when it arrived at the jewelry store i’m the one that picked it up, haha. we were long distance at the time, so i held onto it until he came to visit.

    Post # 23
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: Disneyland - January 2016

    Nope, haven’t got a clue what it looks like 🙂 For me, I’m surprisingly not picky when it comes to the ring, mostly just that I wanted it to be white (white metal and stone, doesn’t matter what kind) and without a halo. I’m sure if I paid more attention to rings I’d probably start gathering more ideas about what really fits me, but they were never really something I thought a lot about when it came to getting married. We did look at rings together once, but it wasn’t really an in depth shopping experience, just browsing at Tiffany’s (without a sales consultant) and discussing what we thought was pretty. Once I learned he had a custom one made for me I completely accepted and it didn’t bother looking around, and I’m so excited to see it once he actually proposes!

    Post # 24
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    Blushing bee

    Me & Fiance picked out my ring together online. The idea of a surprise didn’t really occur to either of us. When it arrived, he called me excitedly and we went out to dinner that evening at one of my favorite historic places where he gave me the ring. At the time, it seemed like the most normal thing in the world, but afterward our friends & co-workers all seemed very let down since the story involved no surprise, no getting down on one knee & no crying. We both had a moment of regret that we didn’t do the surprise thing, but looking back now I like how we decided everything together & I didn’t have to sit around waiting, like some of my friends are now.

    Post # 25
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    587 posts
    Busy bee

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    ali1005:  No had not seen it at all and the proposal was aa complete surprise! After ten years together though he had a pretty good idea of what my style was!

    Post # 26
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    257 posts
    Helper bee

    There was no ring when my now husband proposed! We chose it together, partly because of the spur of the moment nature of the proposal (long story short we’d been together for years and years and one day he just asked out of the blue) and also because once it was an issue the choosing part was something we wanted to do together just for the experience and memories. We went the very same day he asked, it was lovely. I don’t know of any old wives tales or superstitions about seeing your ring before the deed is done, to be honest the suspense would probably kill me, I’d have to have a peek!

    Post # 27
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    I saw mine. That wasn’t exactly the plan. We went shopping to get ideas, and I fell in love with a ring. He didn’t want to forget what ring it was so he bought it. He kept it in the house for a month and drove me crazy with waiting, but the proposal was still very special and verey us. I don’t think it took anything away for me. 

    Post # 28
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    I’m a little unconvential (to say the least lol) but I asked, then we went out and bought my ER. It was such a fun experience. Not what most people do but it definitely worked well for us.

    Post # 29
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    589 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

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    ali1005:  Well, we picked out the diamond together and I had the final approval on it before he brought it to get set.  I had also picked the setting too but after I handed the diamond off to him, I was not supposed to see the completed ring until he proposed.  

    So, he always left the ring box that the diamond came in on his desk.  It had been like a month and i never even thought to look in the ring box since i knew it wouldn’t come back in the same box, it would come back in one from the jeweler.  Anyways, one saturday morning i opened it for the hell of it and saw my ring!!!!  I took it out, took pics, sent it out to my best friend LOL and then put it back.

    He ended up proposing that day and i still have never told him i saw it.  He told me how sneaky he was putting it on the desk in the diamond box because “he knew i would never think to look in there..” ha ha my little secret 😉

    Post # 30
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    He showed it to me as soon as it came, he couldn’t stand it. He wanted to make sure it was what I wanted. Then he put it in the safe. We had a super open discussion about engagement so nothing really (besides the day he formally presented me with the ring because he wanted to) was a surprise.

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