(Closed) Did you see your ring before the proposal?

posted 6 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Did you see your ring/know the EXACT ring you were getting before he proposed?

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  • Post # 31
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2016

    I actually picked it out entirely. He was there with me and gave his opinion but ultimately, I was the one that picked it. The proposal however was a complete surprise which was so awesome!

    Post # 32
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2016

    My BF wanted me to start a Google docs page with pictures of rings that I really liked, then suggested I go try some on to make sure I actually like the look on my finger. So glad I did that because the thick banded rings that I thought I liked, I didn’t actually really like. I sent him pictures of my favorites, but then panicked because then it felt too much like I was picking my ring and taking away the surprise.

    Luckily, he knows me and told me (before I said it) that he was going to use them as inspiration and find something similar but still pick it himself! For me, it’s important not to know or have TOO heavy of a hand so it can truly be special. Letting preferences be known is essential though.

    Post # 33
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    I picked my ring out myself. I’m VERY picky and when it comes to rings, my Fiance and I have different tastes. I didn’t plan on finding it, but when I did I just knew that it was the one. 

    Some of our frienda have been very negative about this, which has actually really hurt my feelings. They’ve said things such as “it wasn’t really a surprise then”, but it was! He bought the ring and we had it resized so it would fit straight away, but I still had to wait over two months before I got it. He proposed just before Christmas,  but told me I wouldn’t get my ring before my birthday (which is March) and he did it in a very public place, so I had no idea!

    I’m so happy with my ring and happy I got to pick it out. Because even though I love him and can’t imagine anything else than spending the rest of my life with him, had he gotten me the ring style he likes I would’ve been really disappointed and it would’ve put a damp (is that what you say?) on the whole engagement. Now I want to show it to everyone and look at it all day long, and I wouldn’t have felt like that with another style.

    ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 34
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    Bumble bee

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    ali1005:  I didn’t, i didn’t even know he had a ring or was planning on proposing so soon. I liked it that way personally. 

    But I think if he has picked it all himself already, I don’t see a point him showing you. I know it must be hard knowing he has it but may as well keep it a surprise now. If a bee helps pick it, then it’s different as they already know what it is… Help design it, again different as they are part of the process and would need to see it at stages of the making and the final product to ensure it is what it’a meant to be.

    Congrats on your impending engagement btw. 

    Post # 35
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2016

    We picked it out together and he bought it that day! I’m super picky and had done some research for us. It’s a solitaire that is still being set and sized so it will be something of a surprise to see how it finally sits on my finger. I also liked that he kept pushing for this unique floral wedding band when I thought I’d get a more classic channel set band. It feels like he did have a say still in the design and I love the uniqueness. 

    I agree with a PP though, if he already had it and I hadn’t seen it yet, then I’d want to be surprised!! Build a little suspense! Lol. 

    Post # 36
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    Helper bee

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    ali1005:  Picking out my ring was a complete joint venture, from the first trip to a jewelry store til practically the end. Fiance went with his dad and his brother to officially “buy” the ring, but I had tried it on so many times beforehand! We have a great relationship, and I’m sorry but there is no “luck” involved in picking an e-ring – if you see it before you’re engaged, your marriage is not doomed and you will not shrivel up and die – can confirm. ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 37
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    Bumble bee

    I’ve sort of seen it. We picked out the setting together on James Allen and I know the general size of center stone he was interested in buying but I haven’t seen MY actual ring. I know he has it though so hopefully it’s only a (short) matter of time  ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 38
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    625 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2017

    I picked out the style, and saw the loose stone before it was set. But I wasn’t allowed to see the final product until he proposed. 

    Post # 39
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    699 posts
    Busy bee

    My husband (husband!!!!! still sounds weird!) asked for ideas of what I liked. I chose a few settings I liked in blue nile and he chose the diamond and which setting. I didn’t see it until he proposed. ๐Ÿ™‚ I wish I’d known even less about it actually.

    Post # 40
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2003

    I just told him I wanted white gold and a round solitaire. He did everything else himself. And I didn’t even know that he’d purchased it. I knew it was coming because we had kind of already set a wedding date, but I was surprised with the ring. 

    Post # 41
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Nope – utter, complete surprise.  I wasn’t even expecting a proposal as soon as he did it (I already knew I’d say yes, I just thought it’d take him longer lol).  But the ring was totally a surprise and nothing I could have ever guessed.

    Post # 42
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

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    ali1005: I saw mine before he proposed, but my mom is a jeweler and she had been saving my ring for years before I even met DH.

    I don’t think it matters if you see the ring before or not since I don’t think it makes the proposal more or less special.  I think it’s great when a couple shops for rings together since they’ll be guaranteed to like the ring, and no, it’s not bad luck at all.  I also think it’s totally sweet when it’s a complete surprise too.

    That being said, looking at your ring will totally be your call and like other PPs have mentioned, you can’t go wrong either way.  Best of luck to you and congrats on your upcoming engagement!

    Post # 43
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    We picked it out together, and I was there when he purchased it 

    Post # 44
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2015

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    ali1005:  I didn’t see the ring before the proposal… but full disclosure.. and I haven’t told anyone, but I found the receipt a couple weeks before he proposed! Such a cliche story I was putting his clothes away and there was a piece of paper in his sock drawer, not hid, so I looked figuring it was an old bill (FI is a pack rat and I’m CONSTANTLY throwing out useless papers/receipts we don’t need) and there is was!

    I freaked, and felt guilty as hell. Didn’t make it any less pecial though! Don’t worry girl, even if you knew the ring, date and time it’ll still be special! ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 45
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    I didn’t see it and I’m SO glad – the surprise was amazing!

    I told Fiance what I wanted (round diamond, no yellow gold) and let him do the rest. He picked out the perfect ring and I love it so much. I honestly think I would have picked the exact same thing if I had gone with him.

    A few days before he actually proposed, I found the ring box in his pants (I was looking for Chapstick), and though I was SO tempted to open it, I didn’t. And when he proposed a few days later, I was so, so glad that I didn’t peek. I usually don’t like surprises, but that was the best one ever. 

    My advice? Don’t look at it! Wait and it’ll be even better.

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