Post # 1
I’m just curious about this. I occasionally see posts about never receiving a thank you and I have also talked to friends that have experienced this. We didn’t receive one from a wedding four months ago and I wondered out loud to Darling Husband if they perhaps weren’t sending them. They deposited the check so we know they received our card. Darling Husband told me he thought people don’t really send them anymore. Is this true? Does our generation not send them? Did you/will you send them? I thought people who didn’t send them were few and far between but after asking my parents it sounds as though they no longer receive them for every wedding gift (like they used too).
Post # 3
Etiquette says the couple has one year from after their wedding to send thank-you notes. It’s nice to do it in three months, but guests still send presents up to a year after, so I think that’s where the rule came from. I’ve given wedding gifts and never gotten not gotten thank-you notes, but I don’t really care. No one likes writing/sending them and getting your husband to participate is impossible.
Post # 4
I know some people that wait months for their photographer to give them the thank you cards that come with their photo package.
Post # 5
We did, but I attended two weddings over a year ago and never got anything. One was for a co-worker who never even acknowledged that I’d been there (later at work, we talked at her reception).
Post # 6
- Wedding: July 2013 - The front lawn of our church
I’m TRYING to send thank you notes! I got postcards printed but they were mis-printed twice:/ I will send them as soon as I get the cards!
Post # 7
@MrsBeck: I will be sending them, no doubt about it. They are not optional, in my opinion, and honestly, it isn’t a big deal to take the time to write them. I send thank you cards for all gifts I receive.
Post # 8
I did. I had to wait on a few addresses (Long story short, they were last minute invited to the wedding, not by me) and it took me a couple months to get those. I sent thank yous out after we got the photo thank yous back from the printer and then I just sent the other ones out whenever I got the addresse (I sent them out a week or so ago, our wedding was June 15th, so it was a short delay.)
Post # 9
- Wedding: June 2010 - parent's backyard
I’m not one to faithfully follow all wedding “rules” but even I know that it’s rude not to send thank you notes! I agree with oldmatron that the couple has one year to do so.
Post # 10
we sent out thank cards 2.5 months after our wedding. i would have sent them sooner, but our photos were delayed.
i’ve received thank you cards for almost every wedding i’ve been to. the only one i can think of who didn’t send thank you’s was my sister in law. i don’t know if she didn’t send thank you’s to anyone or if we just didn’t receive on because we didn’t give them a “real” gift. my husband helped pay for the wedding, we bought the arras (coins) for the ceremony, i spend $250 on the dress that i was required to wear, and my husband spent at least $150 on his tux. so needless to say, we really couldn’t afford to give them anything.
she also asked for money on her invitation, so i think good etiquette is just lost on her.
Post # 11
You have a year after the wedding to send a gift- not a thank you note. I make sure mine are sent 1-2 weeks after receiving a gift. Here’s what Miss Manners says
I’ve also not gotten thank you’s for gifts and it really pisses me off. It takes 30 seconds to write one.
Post # 12
@MrsBeck: I send thank you notes for everything, not just weddings. I can’t imagine life any other way.
Post # 13
My wedding was 4 months ago and I’m just going to send out my thank you in the next few weeks. i have gotten a thakn you from every wedding I have attended except one
Post # 14
I am sending them slowly right now but plan to have them all out by the 1.5 month mark after the wedding.
There have been a few weddings where i didnt receive a thank you. One i think they forgot us, and the other they didnt send any. SO i am trying to get mine done as soon as possible so my mother will leave me be lol.
Post # 15
We attended a wedding in June and have yet to receive a thank you note from that one, but I’m honestly not too worried about it. Although etiquette states one year, I would hope most people strive to have notes out within 6 months (less if you aren’t waiting for photos!!)
I’m nuts and all of mine were sent and received a week after the wedding (Hurricane Sandy postponed our honeymoon…I had time on my hands). 🙂
Post # 16
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
I haven’t yet and it’s been 5.5 weeks… but I’m working on them! Husband is no help at all, but I expected to do all of them myself so whatever. (He’s the best, but not the best at this.)
We’ve had friends in the past not send thank-yous and I think it’s incredibly rude. Especially when we haven’t even attended but sent a gift anyway – how do I even know it showed up?