Post # 1
disclaimer, i’m not upset about not receiving gifts from some people. i understand that not everyone can purchase a gift, and times are tough. i’m just curious as what to do, as i’m working on my thank you notes this week. of course, their were some guests who didn’t bring gifts, or even a card. the only reason i noticed is because we had a photobooth/fauxtobooth, and are including our guests photobooth pics (in a nice paper frame) w/ their thank yous. so I see we have some guests photobooth pics to send, but no gift/card to thank them for. do we thank them for coming and celebrating with us, or is that just highlighting the fact that they didn’t bring a gift? should we just send the photobooth pic, but no thank you note? all advice welcome! thanks! 🙂
Post # 3
Just a nice “Thank you so much for sharing in our day” with their photobooth picture is a nice gesture. They may wind up giving you something down the line, you never know. We had a wedding gift dropped off to us 4 months after we got married!
Post # 4
@bakerella: that’s what i was figuring we’d do. 🙂 i’m just paranoid, and didn’t want it to seem like hello, we know you didn’t gift us anything, but we hope you had an awesome time! lol
Post # 5
I didn’t send thank yous to those people who didn’t get us a gift.
The way I see it, the nice dinner, free alcohol, great entertainment, and favor (along with us thanking them individually and in person during dinner) were already their thank you for coming and sharing in our day.
Post # 6
I only have my vague memory to tell me who came and didn’t leave a gift or card so no, we’re not.
In your case I think it would be appropriate to send a little something.
Post # 7
Since 80% of our guests were from out of town, we decided to send a thank you note to everyone who came, not just those who gave gifts. Since people really went out of their way to spend money and time on travel, we thought that would be a good idea!
Post # 8
Normally I wouldn’t send them anything, but since you have the photobooth pictures and want to send them along, I’d include a note telling them how great it was to have them at the wedding.
Post # 9
Hosts don’t send guests thank you’s just for attendance, it’s only the gift that needs a thank you note. I wouldn’t send anything.
Post # 10
Our wedding was a destination wedding, so we told people up front that they didn’t need to give a gift. Most people did end up giving a gift, some didn’t which is fine. We did send thank-yous to everyone who attended (regardless of gift) along with a short note thanking them for taking the time to join us on our special day.
Post # 11
@linguo42: Agreed 100%.
I’m not doing a photobooth and don’t plan on sending a thank you to guests that attend w/out a gift/card. BUT because you have a photo from the photobooth, it would be a nice gesture to thank them for attending and send them the picture from the photobooth.
Post # 12
I hope it’s not bad etiquette to not send a thank you to non-attendees. To be honest, we had 150 people, and there were a LOT of people of DH’s side that I had never met and he couldn’t pick out of a lineup. So if they didn’t give a gift/card, I really have no way of knowing who attended. And yes, I could look at the rsvp list, but we had over a dozen people either attend without RSVP’ing or say yes and then didn’t show up. So even that doesn’t help me much.
I guess I’ll fall in the camp of you got free food, cake, and beer/wine. That’s your thank you.
Post # 13
thanks everyone… it looks like my first instinct was correct. i’ll write a short & sweet note and send off their photobooth pics! it’d be a shame not to share them. 😉
Post # 14
wow…people didn’t even bring a CARD?! I mean, I’m all about not judging people based on how much they give, but still, they should be able to give you SOMETHING! I would send them nothing simply out of principal!
Post # 15
My mother always said (Damn, I sound incredibly southern) that you always send a thank you note. So that’s more than likely what I’ll do. A quick, “Thanks for coming and sharing in our day.” Sweet, simple, to the point. If they later decide to send a gift, great. If not, whatever. Some people do and others don’t.