(Closed) did you send thank you’s to guests who didn’t bring gifts?

posted 7 years ago in Gifts and Registries
  • poll: what to send guests who didn't bring gift/card?
    send photobooth pic with a thank you for coming note. : (21 votes)
    84 %
    send photobooth pic only, no thank you note. : (0 votes)
    don't send photobooth pic or thank you. : (4 votes)
    16 %
  • Post # 3
    10851 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Just a nice “Thank you so much for sharing in our day” with their photobooth picture is a nice gesture. They may wind up giving you something down the line, you never know. We had a wedding gift dropped off to us 4 months after we got married!

    Post # 5
    13096 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I didn’t send thank yous to those people who didn’t get us a gift.

    The way I see it, the nice dinner, free alcohol, great entertainment, and favor (along with us thanking them individually and in person during dinner) were already their thank you for coming and sharing in our day.

    Post # 6
    3977 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I only have my vague memory to tell me who came and didn’t leave a gift or card so no, we’re not.

    In your case I think it would be appropriate to send a little something.

    Post # 7
    10366 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Since 80% of our guests were from out of town, we decided to send a thank you note to everyone who came, not just those who gave gifts. Since people really went out of their way to spend money and time on travel, we thought that would be a good idea!

    Post # 8
    3482 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2011

    Normally I wouldn’t send them anything, but since you have the photobooth pictures and want to send them along, I’d include a note telling them how great it was to have them at the wedding.

    Post # 9
    285 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    Hosts don’t send guests thank you’s just for attendance, it’s only the gift that needs a thank you note. I wouldn’t send anything. 

    Post # 10
    3241 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Our wedding was a destination wedding, so we told people up front that they didn’t need to give a gift. Most people did end up giving a gift, some didn’t which is fine. We did send thank-yous to everyone who attended (regardless of gift) along with a short note thanking them for taking the time to join us on our special day.

    Post # 11
    1843 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    @linguo42:  Agreed 100%.

    I’m not doing a photobooth and don’t plan on sending a thank you to guests that attend w/out a gift/card.  BUT because you have a photo from the photobooth, it would be a nice gesture to thank them for attending and send them the picture from the photobooth.

    Post # 12
    5295 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 1993

    I hope it’s not bad etiquette to not send a thank you to non-attendees. To be honest, we had 150 people, and there were a LOT of people of DH’s side that I had never met and he couldn’t pick out of a lineup. So if they didn’t give a gift/card, I really have no way of knowing who attended. And yes, I could look at the rsvp list, but we had over a dozen people either attend without RSVP’ing or say yes and then didn’t show up. So even that doesn’t help me much.

    I guess I’ll fall in the camp of you got free food, cake, and beer/wine. That’s your thank you.

    Post # 14
    4336 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    wow…people didn’t even bring a CARD?! I mean, I’m all about not judging people based on how much they give, but still, they should be able to give you SOMETHING! I would send them nothing simply out of principal!

    Post # 15
    6892 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    My mother always said (Damn, I sound incredibly southern) that you always send a thank you note. So that’s more than likely what I’ll do. A quick, “Thanks for coming and sharing in our day.” Sweet, simple, to the point. If they later decide to send a gift, great. If not, whatever. Some people do and others don’t.

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